- I totally wore red lipstick on purpose.
And I'm on my period!
But I'm not having sex.
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Hey guys, welcome to episode six of the hormone diaries
how're we liking the hormone diaries so far?
We liking it, we liking it?
I'm liking it, except for the whole having my period thing,
which I am currently on.
Yesterday I was in a lot of pain, but today's okay.
This isn't going to be an episode on an update
of my personal journey
or of my bodily and emotional changes,
but there will be an episode on that soon,
because a lot have been going on.
A lot has been going on, but that is not this video.
If you didn't know, in 2014, in the UK,
the government banned a whole bunch of sex acts
from porn production.
So people who were making porn in the UK
could not include this whole bunch of sex acts.
And now, in 2016 in the UK,
the government are trying to ban a very similar list
of sex acts from porn consumption.
So basically, stopping websites from showing certain videos,
or not giving us access to websites
that do show that kind of porn, (blows out air)
they're try, I have no idea how they're gonna do it, wah.
This video is not about the porn ban
but it's about one of the acts that appears on the list,
an act so horrifying that we must stop
everyone from seeing it, and witnessing it,
and knowing that it exists.
And that is, menstruation, period sex.
(singing)
So in this video, we're gonna talk about
why you should have period sex,
some tips and tricks on how to do it,
some hilarious anecdotes about period sex,
and then just a few words of caution,
just to round off real nice.
Let's get into it.
Why should you have period sex?
First of all, some women get super horny on their period.
A woman's libido will usually go in waves
throughout her cycle,
with a peak, high libido during ovulation,
and then also another peak during menstruation.
So, sometimes women on their periods
are just super, super horny.
And you know, sometimes you just wanna have sex,
and why should you let your period stop you?
Number two, natural lubrication.
That's right.
Your period is wet.
It's gonna just help the sex be better
because it's just natural lube.
Number three, orgasm can alleviate cramps.
That's right the endorphins
and all of those other hormones that you release
when you have an orgasm, just stop pain.
This is why also exercise helps with period cramps,
even though when you're on your period
you don't really wanna exercise,
but it does help with cramps.
With this point in mind,
you could also just masturbate on your period
and it would have the same desired effect.
Number four, sex is sex.
Whether there is period blood or no period blood.
It's just sex.
And if you wanna have sex,
you shouldn't let a bit of period blood get in your way.
Number five, it's actually not as messy as you think,
and it is very easy to clean up.
More on that in the tips and tricks section later.
Number six, period blood is 100% safe.
If you are the person who doesn't have a period
and you're having sex with someone who is on their period,
their period blood is going to bring zero harm
to your body, genitals, hands, whatever.
It's just blood.
And number seven, loads of people do it.
Loads of people do it, they're just not talking about it,
but they're doing it.
Speaking of all of the people that are having period sex
but not talking about it,
I put up at status on my Facebook profile
asking my friends for their period sex stories.
And so I'm going to read out some of them now.
Here we go.
Story number one.
That time I got so drunk in a club,
got the hottest guy back at my hotel room,
completely forgot I was due on my period,
and bled all over him.
Fun.
Mid-sex.
But, he was an absolute gentleman,
he washed it off and was like,
I'm cool with carrying on,
but also if you don't want to, no worries.
Legit.
Coolest dude.
Points.
Points, kudos to that guy.
Story number two.
I went through a stage where sex was so much better
when I was on my period.
Fine when I had a boyfriend, but annoying when I didn't.
So I definitely did accidentally on purpose a few times,
kind of gross of me, but I was a very confident
one-night-stander before I got married.
Here's another one.
Ex was squeamish, like beyond squeamish.
We're talking third slash fourth day period sex,
so not even anything too gory.
Anyway, he catches a glimpse during,
and reels back and has to clutch the side of the bed
and put his head between his legs
to stop himself from fainting.
I think he gave me a complex about it
for years afterwards.
I'm really sorry about that,
but as we have learned, there are some people out there
who don't mind it.
So hopefully, you found someone who's a bit more chill
about the whole period sex thing.
Last one.
Two encounters spring to mind,
one really good, interestingly back when I was a teenager,
the guy was super chilled out about it all,
just put towels down on the bed before we had sex,
in a really organised and relaxed way
which worked because I'd never done it on my period before,
and it just made it seem not a big deal,
which it shouldn't be.
By complete contrast, a guy I was seeing in my 30s,
who was also in his 30s,
had never done it with someone on her period,
we start having sex, he adjusted himself
and caught sight of his cock covered in blood
and totally freaked out,
to the point that everything sexy ended,
he made me feel awful,
and I went straight to the bathroom
and locked myself in for about an hour
because I was fuming at him.
Took some serious talking to, myself,
to reassure myself that I wasn't the one in the wrong
and that there was nothing wrong with the fact
I bleed once a month, and I'm still horny.
Amen.
So, bit of a mixed bunch,
but loads of people have sex on their period.
Just be chill about it.
Now, I'm gonna teach you some tips and tricks
on how to have successful period sex.
Number one, put some dark towels down.
That way, you don't get blood all over your bed sheets.
It's on the towel, and then you can just stick it
in the wash afterwards.
Number two, have sex in the missionary position.
It's probably the safest position for you to have sex in
when you're on your period to create the least mess.
You know, if you were on top, then gravity and things.
Obviously you can do whatever positions you like,
if you're having period sex,
but missionary is probably the one
that will cause the least amount of mess.
Number three, you don't have to have penetrative sex.
Shock, horror!
There are loads of other different types of sex
that you can have, that don't even involve the vagina.
You can even have a menstrual cup or a tampon in
whilst the clitoris gets all of the action.
Doesn't that sound great?
Number four, have sex on your lighter days.
Simple as!
Less blood, less mess, still sex.
Number five, have shower sex, or just shower afterwards.
Showers are great, clean you right up.
Number six, condoms.
Condoms, condoms, condoms.
Not only is protected sex important,
it will also create a barrier between you and the blood.
And then, you know, no blood on you,
just on the condom, and then you take the condom off,
and, yay!
You're all good.
Happy days.
Number seven, use a soft cup.
Soft cups are not menstrual cups,
and they are also not contraception, FYI.
They are one use only,
so you have to throw them out after you use them,
but they go up inside you before sex
and it'll create a barrier to stop the period blood
even like, getting down, getting out.
Great!
Number eight, you can clean blood stains
with some cold water and some salt.
I had a blood test recently
and my arm just kept on bleeding
and I bled all over this white and blue top that I had,
and I just soaked it in a bowl
of salty cold water overnight,
and the next morning, no blood stain.
No blood stain, what?
And now for the words of caution.
First of all, you can still get pregnant on your period.
Depending on how long your cycle is, when you ovulate,
and also how long your period is,
you could still get pregnant,
and also, sperm can live inside the womb
for up to seven days.
And secondly when you're on your period
your cervix is more open
which means you're at higher risk of infection of STIs,
so make sure that you use condoms
and you are protected.
(clicking tongue)
(snap) Got it?
Good.
And that's all I've got for you on period sex,
I hope you enjoyed this episode
of The Hormone Diaries,
if you did, please give it a thumbs up,
and let me know in your comments
your thoughts and feelings on period sex,
did you find it kind of gross before,
have I maybe changed your mind a little bit?
And also what do you think of the porn ban?
(laughs)
Don't forget to subscribe
because I make new videos every week,
and I'll see you soon, bye!
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