presents
The Search for the Eternal Lover
You are all in search of a secret love.
And you are all
trying to find it in somebody
Hence the frustration
all lovers
except those
who are never allowed to meet.
Only those who are never allowed to meet are remembered,
for centuries, for their great love.
In the East we know
Shiri and Farhad,
Laila and Majnu.
Because they were never allowed to meet
by their parents and society
they have become symbolic of great lovers.
But it is strange:
they were never allowed
even to meet with each other,
and they have become the symbols of great love.
And what has happened to
millions of lovers
who have been allowed?
Not a single one of them
has proved to be a great lover.
All are simply lousy.
Every love affair is a failure,
without exception.
You may accept it, you may not.
One tries to hide the fact
as long as possible,
but everybody knows what everybody is doing.
The reason is that Your frustration
is bound to happen.
Your real love
is for the eternal self,
hidden behind
the curtain,
and you never look
behind the curtain.
You are just playing on the stage
and befooling.
Everybody’s
great love is to know the secret
of the eternal and immortal life.
Because you cannot find it in another person.
When you meet on the sea beach
it seems that
to everyone
it is the same story
That “this woman
or this man
is made for me.”
And Nobody is made for anybody;
everybody is made for himself.
You are not some
kind of manufactured parts,
that you are made to fit with each other.
So when you don’t fit,
then the tragedy begins.
Before that all is goody-goody.
The real test is after the honeymoon.
After the honeymoon the lovers are finished,
they don’t look at each other eye to eye.
The husband goes on reading the same newspaper
to avoid the wife….
A man in the pub
was saying to his
friend
“Why do you always remain silent?
You don’t say anything.”
He said,
“The whole credit goes to my wife.
She talks and I listen.
She does not like any interruption.
So after years of listening without interrupting,
it has become a habit.
Wherever I am,
even though my wife is not there,
I sit silently.”
The failure of love in the world
shows a significant fact:
that our love is searching for something else,
and because we don’t find it
in our so-called lovers,
the frustration arises.
Nobody is responsible,it is just that our direction is wrong.
The real lover is within you.
The eternal lover is within you.
Once you have found it,
you are
absolutely content
with yourself.
There is no need
for anyone
because you are no longer incomplete.
Only a buddha
is fulfilled.
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