How To Get A Girl To Like You
it's actually a very simple three-step
process but of course i'm going to delve
deep into each step so that you have a
full understanding of what is going on
and why the first step is to exhibit
value this is what causes the initial
attraction so let's imagine that
everyone has a number floating on top of
their heads this number correlates with
how much you can offer the world the
amount of money you have your looks your
network your popularity your knowledge
and so on and as shallow as it sounds
we're attracted to people with higher
numbers than us
people who are of higher value because
simply they have more things to offer we
believe they can make us happier
however we can actually see this number
we can look through someone's wallet or
find out exactly how many people they
know
so instead we use our senses to estimate
what a person's value is in order to get
her to like you you have to exhibit high
levels of value now this doesn't
necessarily mean you need to have tons
of money or a nice-looking car or a six
pack all of those things do scream value
and the absolutely will help but there
are two traits that scream high value
more than any other trade out there and
the first is social proof
let's say you see someone with a ton of
friends you think to yourself wow he
must be a great person and we see him
with a ton of girls that he's always
hanging out with you think wow he must
get laid
often this is what people see from a
third-person perspective if you want a
girl to like you you have to show her
that you're well liked by others and
there's no shortcut to this this means
you have to hone your social skills to a
point where you have an abundance of
friends to a point where you can give
off an incredible first impression
check out some of my videos on
communication skills and start talking
to everyone
nothing catches the girls or frankly
anyone's eyes more than a guy who walks
into a room and he's interacting with
everyone and everyone is just happy to
see him
the second is confidence someone who
projects confidence through their body
language comes off as someone who is of
extremely
I value if you look at men who have
tremendous amount of power and wealth
will notice that they walk and talk
certain way in general their movements
are slower and they take up more space
slower because they know they have
control over their world they're not in
a rush and they take up more space
because they aren't scared of being
vulnerable because it's a biological
instincts for us to close up our body
when we feel threatened or scared and
when you see someone acting this way you
assume they have something you assume
they are of high value and the great
thing about confidence is that you don't
need to be the CEO of a company or the
leader of a gang
all you have to do is learn how to
imitate this body language if you can
just mimic their body language you give
off the same or a day do you might say
well I can't fake it i don't want to lie
to myself I don't want to pretend that
I'm confident in myself when I have
nothing to be confident about while
confidence is a state of mind there's no
prerequisite that you need to me in
order to be confident or act confident
you could be a starving unemployed kid
who lives at his mother's basement and
have a ton more confidence than someone
who makes six digits and upon meeting
you
people will find you more attractive of
course only if you teach yourself how to
do it I'll do a video about confident
body language and how you can adopt it
and i'll put a link here
the second step to getting a girl to
like you is to exhibit desire and this
is what causes the seduction this step
is actually the make-it-or-break-it step
for most guys out there so you don't
have to have sky levels of value for a
girl to find you attractive
what you do need however is the ability
to show her that you're interested in
her see a woman will separate every man
she meets into one of three different
categories the first is the yes category
this is for men that she's willing to
sleep with and date the second category
is the no category this is for the guys
she is not willing to sleep with your
date if you ever got friends on by a
girl
this is the category that you landed
yourself in and the third and final
category is the maybe category
how it works is if a girl meets you and
she finds you attractive she will place
you into the maybe category in order to
enter the yes category you have to show
her that
desire if you don't and there's only a
short window of time in which you can
you'll automatically get thrown into the
no category this is why so many people
who try to text or talk to her way into
a girls pants get friend zone because
you're not showing desire by acting like
their friend
however there are two very effective
ways to show her that you desire and
they are number one to tell her that you
find her attractive and this is a more
upfront approach and it works very well
because it's very rare in today's
culture now you might say well what
about all those guys were just cat call
woman all day that doesn't work well
yeah of course because they skip the
first step when someone who hasn't built
attraction tells you that you're
attractive it comes off as creepy but if
you've already been introduced and she
does find you attractive it becomes
charming
the second way to go about exhibited
desire is through touch touch is
significantly more powerful than words
think back to a time where somebody
accidentally strokes your hand and just
sent tingles all over your body
there is no better way to show girl that
you desire her into touch her
now of course you can't just jump in and
start groping a girl there is in order
of what is acceptable
there's something called the Kino
escalation ladder and i'll leave a link
right here for you to take a look at it
but essentially it's an order of which
you can use touch to exhibit your desire
now in order for you to exhibit desire
you have to do it in person always
always in person which is why i highly
suggest you to use text to get her to
come out on a date with you then exhibit
desire from there a key thing to
remember is that the longer you wait the
more likely she'll put you into the no
category and when you do finally come
about telling her that you do like her
you'll get the whole all I don't see you
that way speech because guess what you
took too goddamn long and now you're in
the no category which brings us to the
next and final step
the final step to getting a girl to like
you is to refrain from acts of neediness
this is a little bit different in that
it's a step that consists of something
not to do there's nothing more
off-putting in the world than someone
who is needy is considered to be one of
if not the most unattractive trait out
there
but what exactly is being needy well
mark Manson describes it as prioritizing
another person's perception of you over
your perception of yourself and that
this prioritization leads to all
unattractive behavior in men whether
directly or indirectly I know it's kind
of hard to wrap your mind around it but
here are some examples of needy behavior
changing the way you act to try to get
her to like you constantly texting her
when she does something you don't agree
with you don't say anything
buying things for her on warranted
seeking validation getting angry when a
girl rejects you
there's a whole lot more but you kind of
get a gist of it what's important is the
following the most effective way to not
be needy is to adopt what's called an
abundance mindset this is when you know
you have multiple options available
take for example a salesman who closes
which means he makes a sale every single
day
let's say one day he just happens to not
make a sale does he get flustered does
he get angry no because he knows he'll
close a sale tomorrow
this all comes down to understanding the
numbers game to adopt an abundance
mindset you can have all your eggs in
one basket because if you do then that
one basket becomes precious and signs of
neediness will appear never limit
yourself to one girl unless you're
dating her
don't only talk to one girl because you
will instinctively start acting needy
because she's the only girl in your
world approach and talked to many girls
have as many girls as possible in your
friend group
this way you'll naturally avoid any
signs of meatiness when someone needy
expressed his desire he becomes creepy
when someone who is not needy expressed
his desire he becomes charming it's a
fine line but a very distinctive one and
that's it these are the three steps that
you need to achieve in order to get her
to like you show signs of high-value
then immediately show her that you
desire her and no matter what avoid
becoming needy because if you do it's
game over
if you found value in this video I'd
suggest you check out some of my other
videos on dating and relationships or
some of the ones on improving your
communication skills
remember guys anything can be learned
and anyone can learn them no matter how
poorly you view yourself
I assure you that this stuff can be
learned and eventually mastered