When life clobbers you across the head
and knocks you down and you're in that dark valley
everything in your life is dark and you're asking yourself
what am I going to do now? And you're doubting yourself.
These moments these are what define your life.
There's going to be things that go on that are out of your control.
The worst thing you can do is let something that's out of your control
control you. Get control of yourself
get control of your emotions don't get angry
don't get frustrated. Instead
stay calm and figure out
how to move
forward. Things are gonna get harder
things are gonna get tougher. That's the way life works.
So what you need to do
is you need to get harder and you need to get tougher.
I'm talking to you you're going through a storm right now.
And I want you to know that this too shall pass
like every storm that has come to you. Every single storm
this too shall pass. Just because you failed don't make you a failure.
And just because you lost don't make you a loser. Whatever you're going through right now
if you can just muster up enough strength to hold on
and hold out I don't care how long it
take you to finish school hold on.
I don't care how long it takes you to pass that bar exam
hold on and hold out.
If you do not quit if you do not give up
it's coming baby. I want you to speak life into that thing
whatever it is you feel like I can't fail another test
I can't go through another day like this I can't handle it.
Whatever your circumstances are say with me I can
I can get through this I will
I will get through this I must.
You're not a product of your environment you're not a product of your external storm
what you have or what you don't have
where you come from or what you don't come from
the traumas, the abuses the good and the bad
none of that dictates. But it's what you will do
in the moment. What's your response?
What you do matters.
As long as there's breath in your lungs
there's hope in your heart. As long as you're breathing
yes you can. You have got to make a declaration
that I am going to get through this. I am tougher than this.
I'm bigger than this. I'm stronger than this.
I will not surrender. Because whatever challenge is in front of me
it pales in comparison to the power within me.
You have got to take full responsibility of your life.
I got myself here I can get myself out.
And I am getting out. I am not going to be a volunteer victim.
You will take full ownership. It's my fault
it's my problem. I'm coming up with the solution for it.
It's my fault. It's my problem.
It's my solution. I'm taking ownership.
You got to increase your willpower because you're gonna go through it.
You got to look at life when life knocks you down
and say this all you got? The dark?
Is this it? I was born in the dark
shaped in the dark molded by the dark.
I will break you. Because I lived in the dark
I trained in the dark I became this person in the dark.
You recycle your pain. You use your pain.
You take your pain and let your pain push you to another level.
Push you past what you ever thought you could do what you ever thought you could be
what you ever thought you could have you use your pain.
You recycle it. I just need you to keep walking toward it.
I don't need you thinking about it no more you're doing too much thinking
you're analyzing too much. You're talking yourself out of it.
"I don't know if it's gonna work" "I tried"
"and it didn't work." I just need you to keep moving.
I need you to make up in your mind that the only way you can lose is if you quit
and I just need you to keep going. They make diamonds by one
putting it under pressure two, putting it under extreme heat
and three, they cut it. When it finishes going through all of that
you cannot break it. I've been broken so much.
I've been defeated so much. I've been disappointed so much in my life
that I know what it feels like and I can handle it.
Once you get to that point you cannot be broken anymore.
Find that reason to wake up every day and go get it.
Everybody's got a dream everybody's got a goal
but when you write your why down what's your why does for you is say
you can't quit. You can't give up.
You can't stop. Your spouse is going to push you
your child is going to push you the need to get better is going to push you
because you're closer than you're ever going to be
is going to push you. Your goals are going to push you
your dreams are going to push you the opportunity of a lifetime
that happens in this particular timeframe
is gonna push you is gonna drive you.
You have to make a decision that I will learn from this thing.
Every experience is my education.
I've already made up my mind that I know I will fall down
I know that I will stumble but I already see myself getting back up.
Therefore, I'm never down I'm either up
or getting back up. I'm gonna learn.
You will never ever be successful until you turn your pain
into greatness until you allow your pain
to push you from where you are
to push you to where you need to be. Stop running from your pain
and embrace your pain. Your pain
is going to be a part of your prize
a part of your product I challenge you to push yourself.
If you will be willing to fight your way through this battle
fight your way through cancer fight your way through that academic struggle
fight your way through divorce fight your way through that singing career
fight your way through boxing fight your way through football
at the end of the fight is going to come victory.
I challenge you to never give up.
You're gonna be here one day but you'll never get here if you give up
if you give in if you quit
and finally guys you gotta want to succeed
as bad
as you want to breathe.
And as you crawl up and out
of that dismal and wretched place
as you rise above what you were as you take the form
of who you are supposed to be in the very act of standing up
in the very act of fighting on you will become
and you will remain unbroken.