- Reminded everybody in Ottawa yesterday or not Ottawa,
Ontario, excuse me, that I didn't say shit for the
first 13 years of my career.
I just built a business.
No talking, just doing.
("Monday To Monday" by Saba)
- Saba, I've been telling you.
Today's episode, two things.
One, the lesson I taught Jordan, which is consistency.
Putting in the work.
He's my trainer,
he taught me how to get muscles,
how to get tone, how to get focused.
And I taught him how to be good at Instagram.
Saturday morning, that's a weird profile.
Oh sorry.
That's a weird profile.
Jordan, (bell dings), my trainer.
Jordan, when did we get focused on Instagram more seriously?
- Right at the beginning of the new year.
- And what has happened, what'd I'd tell you to do and
what were you doing before?
- Before I was posting once a day.
- [Gary] Mhmmm.
- Maybe. - [Gary] If that.
- If that, honestly, not that. Five times a week.
And then you said post every day three times a day.
- Hashtags. - Wait, wait?
- Hashtags.
- Hashtags, hashtags, you showed me how to use hashtags.
- Three times a day. - Three times a day.
- Engage. - Engage with everyone, yep.
- Yep.
- First day I didn't do it.
First day, I did two instead of three.
- I went crazy.
- You said, "I'm disappointed in you." (laughs)
- I role reversed.
- And then from that day, every day,
three times a day hashtags, interacting and in less than
eight weeks I have over 3,000 new followers.
- And the key is not even the followers,
what I've been most impressed with,
took a quick peek is just the engagement level.
The way they care about you like just you've built a community.
Forget about the top line amounts.
Some people have 10,000 more followers
but only 187 care about them.
Of your 3,000 new followers it feels like 2,000 care about you.
- Yeah. No, it's amazing.
Thank you everyone that follows me.
- You're welcome.
Lesson number two, it's very simple, my friends.
This a big one for me, one of things that I'm spending a lot
of time on, one that a lot of people aren't capable of
executing which is how much better life is when you're the
bigger man and woman in every situation.
No matter if you're right or wrong,
no matter what it is, are you capable of swallowing your pride
and having humility to say you're sorry
even when maybe it
wasn't yours to say you're sorry.
Leadership and happiness really, really,
really comes at the ability to
focus on one move which is
can we be the bigger person?
The number one thing that keeps good leaders from becoming
great, you know, to be great at something
you have to over-index.
You just have to.
You have to be able to be great at it.
You can be a good basketball player,
you can be a great basketball player,
and a lot of that has to do with DNA,
so I think a lot of natural leadership skills.
For me, the reason I aspire to be a great leader is
I truly focused on one variable,
and I want everybody to hear this,
and it's a very sneaky pillar of my life success,
which is, when I think about you, India,
or you DRock, or anybody
that I jam with in my world,
startups, companies, when I go to Oklahoma City,
the client, I'm trying to provide 51% of the value.
I really believe that,
and not because I'm this great human being,
'cause I think it's leverage.
I think that if DRock feels that I'm slightly providing more
value to him than he's providing to me,
financially, upside in the future,
mentorship, whatever it may be,
that that's going to make me a great leader.
A, it's how he feels about me,
and B, it's going to focus me on always trying
to one-up the next person, and when you're a leader,
one-upping comes in many forms.
I'm gonna continue to show you angles that you haven't seen
about yourself, right?
I'm going to continue to challenge you,
financially compensate you, give you opportunities,
bring you to things.
One-upping, trying to provide more value to the other person.
And I think a lot of
good leaders are 80-20 for themselves.
I think extremely good leaders are 50-50.
I think great leaders start
to go to the 51-49 direction.
So much of my happiness and success in relationships and
life are predicated on that singular move.
Which is always take on responsibility.
It's always your fault.
And it's become a theme in the last couple of months in
relationships, in friendships, in business,
for a lot of my friends
and contemporaries and I just really want to do this rant.
It's a short Saturday episode on that singular move.
It is big.
And so, little homework for everybody.
If you're in the middle of something right now,
try to be the bigger person.
Try to swallow your pride.
Try to erase the line in the sand that you drew.
See what it feels like.
Try it, try to be the bigger person.
(light music)