-One of the things that I've dealt in ministry and being as a pastor is
helping people sometimes to recognize certain things that hold them back
from moving forward in their relationships,
or moving forward in their life with God.
A lot of times there are these invisible chains that hold us back
to a particular event or a particular person.
And they are not actually like demonic spirits but they are soul ties.
Now I understand so many people say,
"Well, this is just a charismatic invention of people who do deliverance,
this is totally not true,"
We are going to dive into the Scripture
and look at what Bible says about soul ties,
and most importantly how for us to break ungodly soul ties.
Let's start with the first verse.
Genesis 44:30 it says,
"Now therefore, when I come to your servant my father,
"and the lad is not with us,
"since his life is bound up in the lad’s life,
it will happen, when he sees that the lad is not with us, he will die."
So one of the sons of Jacob is saying to Joseph in Egypt,
he says that Jacob's life is tied
his life- his soul is tied, bound up,
meaning together, bound up to the life of Benjamin.
So that means that Jacob had this soul tie to his son Benjamin.
Partially it was because Joseph was gone,
and then the mother of Joseph and Benjamin
she died at childbirth of Benjamin.
And there was this very strong tie that Jacob had to Benjamin.
Now let's look another example.
It's the example that most people hear about David and Jonathan.
In Samuel 18:1 it says the following,
"Now when he had finished speaking to Saul,
"the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David,
and Jonathan loved him as his own soul."
So I want you to see, one soul is knit to the soul.
It's pretty much like bound up.
It is connected.
So where we get the idea of soul ties it's when your soul
becomes knit together with another person's soul.
David's soul, David's emotions, David's inner being
not his spirit but his soul was tied up,
like chained, bound, knit together with the soul of Jonathan.
Now let's look at the people of Judah, the tribe of Judah in 2 Samuel 20:2
"So every man of Israel went up from after David,
"and followed Sheba the son of Bichri.
"but the men of Judah clave unto their king, from Jordan to Jerusalem.
in King James Version.
Claved- meaning they got attached,
they got knit together,
they closely follow.
They got pretty much infused with David.
The rest of Israelites, they walked away from David.
But the men of Judah had this close connection to this leader of theirs
their king.
So as we are seeing already, parents can have very close ties to their children.
Friends can have very close emotional and soulish ties to their friends.
People can have these ties to their leaders-
people in authority, teachers, pastors
or somebody that they look up to as a person of authority.
Let's look at one more.
Shechem was strongly attached to the daughter of Jacob, Dinah.
I want to listen to this verse, Genesis 34:3
"His soul," talks about Shechem,
"His soul was strongly attached to Dinah the daughter of Jacob,
and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman."
It's interesting that it followed on the footsteps of him raping her.
They had a physical connection and then something happened;
she becomes connected to him, and he becomes strongly attached.
He becomes connected, knit to her soul.
And a lot of times that's what happens.
When people have sex, they develop soul ties.
Sometimes these soul ties can develop not through sex,
they can develop through an obsession that you have with a person
or some kind of a thing that you go with a person that can really anchor you in
that's not even physical.
Like for example David and Jonathan, this wasn't a physical relationship.
It was very emotional relationship that they had.
Same thing with Jacob and Benjamin,
he had a very close almost like unhealthy dependence upon his son
because the other children of Jacob noticed that if Benjamin is gone,
Jacob is going to die and that is not healthy.
Now, the Bible talks about husband and wife have this relationship.
In Genesis 2:24 it says that a man shall leave his father and his mother
be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh.
They are knit together.
There is this knitting together between husband and wife.
And then we are going to look at one more verse
and then I want to talk about how to begin to break those unhealthy soul ties.
So as you are noticing there is healthy soul ties
and there are unhealthy soul ties.
So soul ties in themselves are not bad.
The problem begins to happen when we have unhealthy soul ties
by which we are controlled, dominated and manipulated
or we are dragged on by our past,
or we are still connected to some kind of previous relationship of our past
that we need to move on from.
Colossians 2:2 it says, "that their hearts may be encouraged,
"being knit together in love,
and attaining to all the riches of the full assurance of understanding,
to the knowledge of the mystery of God, both of the Father and of Christ."
So we as believers, we are knit together to other believers in love.
Not in control,
not in guilt,
not in domination,
not in some kind of you know, where somebody exercises domination over you,
but in love.
We are knit together as different parts of our bodies are knit together
so is we, the members of Jesus Christ.
We are knit together not just to the Lord, but to each other.
We are knit together in love.
God is in the business of restoring your soul.
If certain parts of your soul are stuck somewhere else
in the previous relationships, in the previous episodes of your life,
in the previous seasons of your life,
maybe through certain activities that you were involved in
that some portions of your soul are stuck somewhere else,
the Lord wants to restore your soul.
In fact, the Bible wants us to worship God with all of our soul.
That means He doesn't want us to give fragments of our soul
to an abusive relationship.
He doesn't want us to leave fragments of our soul, portions of our soul
in these particular things, in some kind of a previous relationship.
He doesn't want people to have hooks to our soul
and for them to hold us back.
He wants us to worship Him with all of our soul - 100% of your soul.
Not just with your spirit but with your soul, with your mind, with your emotions.
And the Bible even says that in Psalm,
in Psalms 23: 3 it says, "He restores my soul;"
So maybe your soul got broken down as you went through relationships,
as you went through maybe abusive relationships.
Perhaps you went through relationships where you were manipulated, controlled
you were taken advantage of,
God forbid, raped, molested.
Maybe you had a very unhealthy dominant parent authority
that just dominated your life and destroyed and broke your soul down.
Perhaps you had somebody in authority in the spiritual place who destroyed
or took certain portions of your soul and just crushed them,
the Lord wants you to worship Him with all of your soul.
He wants to remove all the hooks from your soul
and He wants to restore your soul
so you can become a healthy being in your soul.
The devil wants to tear your soul to pieces.
And this is where the main verse about soul ties comes from
in Psalms 7:2
It says, "Lest they tear your soul like a lion,
Rending it in pieces, while there is none to deliver."
So the devil like a lion wants to tear your soul to fragments,
to pieces, to portions, so you are no longer a whole person.
You are a person with holes, you are a person with hooks,
you are person with fragments, you are broken down.
That's what the devil wants.
But God wants to restore your soul.
God wants to bring your soul back
so that with your soul, you can praise Him and worship Him fully.
So, in the conclusion of this message,
what do we want to do if you found yourself today with soul ties?
If you found yourself with hooks, broken pieces in your soul.
I'm going to give you just 4 R's to consider.
Number one is to repent of ungodly soul ties.
Repent of any sexual sins.
Repent of depending on someone
even if it's your parent.
Even if it's your ex-boyfriend.
Even if it's your spiritual authority,
where you lost your individuality,
where you lost your person-hood.
You got so obsessed with this person.
You admired this person so much or perhaps you were so fascinated,
or perhaps you were so weak and this person took advantage of that,
and you let that happen.
Repent of any known sins where you've opened the door
for your heart, for your soul,
become a prisoner, broken and tore to pieces by the enemy
because of willfully going into relationships
that God didn't want you to be in.
Or allowing yourself to go so deep in depending on the other person
that you lost who you are,
you lost the freedom to think, to make decisions
and the freedom to be who you are and who God made you to be.
Number two is renounce ungodly soul ties.
Renounce ungodly soul ties of co-dependence
maybe on your parents
where you can't function today and you are over 30 years of age,
and you can't be you.
You can't make decisions because you're so dependent in an unhealthy way.
Renounce any soul tie you may have to your ex-boyfriend or your ex-girlfriend.
Perhaps to someone who victimized you, renounce these soul ties.
Perhaps somebody that you had a one night stand, renounce those things.
Repent of them and then renounce them.
Maybe you had a situation that this guy had with the daughter of Jacob,
renounce those things because these are spiritual.
These are like little hooks connected to your soul dragging you
and keeping you from going forward where God wants you to be.
Number three,
remove any objects that connects you to that person or that event;
especially if it's relationships that ended- romantic relationships.
Or relationships that were very toxic and unhealthy.
Gifts, objects,
sometimes people have different scarfs,
different little necklaces, earrings, perfume, cologne,
they have different notes, photos;
anything that gets you connected to those things.
Just let the Lord lead you to that.
This is not some kind of a law or legalism where--
if something connects you to that, just remove that from your possession.
Remove that from your life
because that thing is over
and whatever that it was over with, it needs to die together with it.
That does not need to drag into your future.
Remove those objects that connect you to those soul ties.
I know people who sometimes hear messages like this
and as a pastor I deal with people who are trying to get married
and sometimes they had a previous relationship where things didn't work out
and they feel this drawn to other person.
They know they shouldn't be with that person.
The other person already got married
and they still feel like, "man,but this is it for me," and they feel stuck.
And the moment they take the objects, the pictures, the notes
even the, I remember one person, scarf that was holding her back,
remove it.
God just opens a door and they are able to move forward
into the next thing that God has for them.
And number four is receive restoration from the Spirit of God.
This is the work of the Holy Spirit.
Now, you might need counseling, you might need professional help,
but Holy Spirit is honestly the best helper.
I'm not in anyway discrediting or belittling or minimizing
the importance of counseling or therapy or professional help
but the Spirit of God is your helper as well.
He wants to repair your soul.
He wants to bring your soul back.
He wants to renew your soul.
He wants to put you back together.
He wants you to be whole again.
Not the person with hook and holes but for your soul to be whole again.
God bless you in Jesus' Name
as you go in the process of finding restoration for your soul.
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