(00:00): Years ago,
I was living in solitude and going through what shaman's call an initiation. I was doing a lot of
inner healing that was preparing me to then become a coach and a healer for others. And I remember
one day I was struggling. I was really struggling. I was working on heart work. I was doing a lot of
heart work having to do with the difficulties that I had had up until then with relationships
and intimacy. And I remember that as I was going through this healing work, I felt stuck. On this
day, I felt like there was a huge weight on top of me. Like I was never gonna be able to
heal this. It felt like I was in the middle of healing this wound and that I wasn't gonna be
able to get out. It felt like I had so much more work to do before this wound would be healed.
(00:46): So I did what I frequently do when I
need to heal something. I put on my hiking shoes and I went outdoors and I just walked around,
immersed myself in nature. And then eventually I sat down in meditation, closed my eyes, and
I connected with my spirit guides and, and tried to ask for help. I said, I need help healing this.
As I was waiting for guidance, I sat there in a mind loop. My mind was just complaining about how
I was failing at healing this wound. My mind was saying, I've been doing so much work and
it feels like I'm at square one. It feels like I can't heal this. Am I supposed to
live my whole life with these deep wounds? That doesn't seem fair at all. Fortunately,
my whiny inner talk was interrupted by one of my spirit guides. I could feel his energy close,
and I tapped into what he was saying. (01:39):
He said, you get stuck sometimes. Your're wonderful at going deep into healing and not
being afraid of confronting your biggest wounds and traumas. But sometimes you get stuck. Have
you ever thought that maybe the wound you seek to heal is already healed and you just haven't
noticed? There's a difference between deep healing and languishing. By the time he left,
I had received an energy transmission from him and I now knew exactly what he meant by the word
languishing. I was trapped in a common pattern that affects most spiritual people when they're
doing healing work. It's called the langu. This is when I've actually healed something,
but my mind and my body are having a hard time catching up to that. But before we get into what
the languish or pattern actually is in more detail, let's take a small detour into your
spiritual anatomy. (02:31):
Remember that you're made up of two major parts. The first one is your human self. That's the part
of you that you can see your body, flesh and bone. And then there's the second part, the
quantum self. This is the part that you can't see with your physical eyes, like your energy system,
your aura that surrounds your body and all of the chakras of your system also. And when you heal,
when you do any type of healing work, whether it's a past trauma, something painful had happened to
you, or heartbreak, no matter matter what it is, whatever you are healing, you always heal
at these two levels, your human self and your quantum self-heal. But here's a surprising fact
about healing. Your quantum self always heals faster. The reason this happens is because the
quantum self isn't bound by space time. It's located outside of the realm of space time.
(03:21): And so that means that any changes that occur
in your aura, in your chakras, they are instant. Because this system, your quantum self operates
outside of the constructs of time. Your physical self is not like that. Your human self isn't
like that. It's bound by the time space reality, which means that it has to obey the linear time,
linear time meaning past, present, in future. So when healing is done on the physical part of you,
that healing takes time. It takes more time than it does on the quantum self. So when we're healing
anything, the quantum self heals instantaneously almost. And the physical self takes a little bit
longer to get there and to catch up to all the healing that the quantum self does. So
when you're doing healing, work on anything from the past, your mind and body play catch up to the
quantum self. (04:12):
It just takes longer for the human self to heal. And we have to keep that in mind. The quantum self
is instantaneous. The human self takes longer, and it's just a part of being human. It's just
a part of being down there, and it's just a part of the healing work and how healing works down
here in this earth realm. One particular part of the human self that takes more time to heal is
the brain. So with the brain, you're literally rewiring. The brain has to rewire itself so
that it starts to create new thought patterns that are completely different from the thought
patterns that were associated with the wound, the unhealed wounds that you had. And that takes time.
So here's an example from my own healing. How I healed from trauma around relationships. So
because I had experienced a lot of heartbreak in the past, having to do with relationships,
I had an associated internal voice that was associated with this wound that said things like
I didn't deserve better or that relationships were painful and that ultimately everyone leaves me.
(05:14): My brain was wired to think these thoughts because
of habitual repetition around my trauma and the meaning of it. When I started to do healing work
on my heart and lifting all of that trauma from the past, I could feel my quantum self change
immediately. I could feel it, I could perceive it. It felt like my energy, like I was happier.
I was more excited. My energy had expanded. I felt lighter. I felt like a weight had been
lifted from me, but my physical self took longer. And I noticed that too. I still continued to have
disempowering thoughts around love and intimacy. My body also had trauma still where I would react
or shy away from any type of intimacy with a potential partner. So I could feel these two
different states. The the energy of the quantum self and the energy of the physical body and how
they didn't seem to be going hand in hand. (06:06):
And here's the million dollar insight I got stuck in the languish pattern because I identified more
with the human self than with the quantum self. And that's how you get stuck when you're doing
healing work by getting attached or clinging to or identifying with the human component of who
you are and forgetting all about the quantum self. But your quantum self is you too. It's a bigger
component who you, of who you are. And it may be a part of you that you can't see very well, but it's
still a part of you. So if you identify only with the human self and with all of the stuff that it's
going through when it's healing, you're going to feel stuck until you open that perspective up. And
remember that you have a quantum self too. But here's a challenging question. How do you know
when you're languishing? (06:59):
How do you know when you've gone past the healthy healing phase and now you're stuck in this
languishing phase where you're just thinking you have so much more to heal, but in fact, the major
healing has already done? This can be tricky. And the short answer to this is that it's a feeling
when I felt stuck in, like I was buried in all of my wounding. My spirit guide came through and kind
of shook me out of my stupor a bit. But the truth is, I had already been feeling like something was
going on inside of me. There were parts of me that felt really excited, really happy, really light,
like I had healed something. And then there was another part of me that felt like it was just
had this huge weight, like I was being held down, like I was being trapped. And at the time I didn't
realize that what was going on was I was already tapping into and feeling the two parts of myself,
the human self and the quantum self. (07:53):
The quantum self was already healed and going about, and my human self was still a little bit
stuck in going through the healing a bit slower. And I was feeling these two, uh, parts of me,
these two selves, and I was feeling it very, very clearly. But I was kind of holding on to
the human self a little bit more than holding onto the quantum self. So the quantum part was saying,
yay, you know, like the wound is healed, we're doing great. And the human part was
still stuck a little bit in those old wiring, in the old patterns and in the wounding. And
the more that my consciousness, the more that I focused on the human self, on the wounded aspect
or the part of me, the human part of me that was still healing, the more that I focused on that,
the slower the embodiment work went from an energy perspective, this makes perfect sense.
(08:41): Whatever I channel my attention to or
my awareness to that energy will grow, that energy will expand. And if I'm focused or stuck on the
fact that maybe I haven't healed, I still have so much work to do. If I'm stuck on that energy, I'm
just perpetuating the wound instead of helping it heal. Our brains function a lot through rewiring.
And so I have to be very, very meticulous about diverting my attention to something new so that
the brain then starts to rewire towards those new thought patterns. If I keep practicing
the same thought patterns, I'm just going to keep reinforcing the same neural network, meaning that
my brain, my mind will just continue to think the same thoughts that it's always thought. I have to
be aware to divert my attention in order for new thought patterns to grow and new neural circuitry
to be laid down, uh, with this new thought pattern or this new thinking habit, right?
(09:35): That's, that's how the,
the brain works. You have to be very meticulous about diverting your attention and knowing how
to focus on the new versus the old. So the more I focus on the wound, what I'm really doing is
I'm reinforcing the old patterns and wounds that I'm trying to heal. So instead of healing them,
I'm actually reinforcing them by getting St. Stucker giving too much attention to those
patterns as they are healing. So my quantum self is saying, yay, I'm healed and free, but my human
self may be repeating old patterns just out of habit and saying, I am never going to heal this.
I have so much more work to do. Boohoo who, so how do you get out of this langu or pattern?
I have three simple steps to get you out of this quickly. Step number one is to face the wound.
(10:24): Okay? So this step is really
important. This is when you just become aware and you courageously face the wound and intend
to heal it. You're not bypassing your healing here. You're not jumping over this first step.
This first step is absolutely crucial. You have to become aware of the wounds that you have and have
the courage to intend to heal them. You can't be sc skirmish moving around wounds and not wanting
to see them because you can't start the healing process until you do this step of just facing
your wound and intending to heal it. Intention is so powerful. This first step is about 85% of
the healing. I like to say it's really powerful because the moment you shine the light of your
awareness onto a wound, it's already almost, uh, the healing is almost complete. It's a huge part
of the healing work. (11:15):
So this, IM this first step is really important. This an an important first step. You can't get to
the other steps without starting with this one, face the wound and intend to heal it. Step two,
do the work. Okay? So now that I have become aware of the wound, I'm facing it and I'm intending to
heal it. Now I'm going to focus on the more action oriented part of healing, which is I'm going to
do healing work in any way that resonates with me. And maybe this is through, uh, working with
helpers or coaches. Maybe it's seeing healers like shamans or self-healing through books and
videos. I could do do maybe body movement like dancing or meditation or even praying or talking
to your guides. Whatever modality you feel pulled to use, use that modality or maybe use multiple
at the same time to really do the work of getting to the healing and getting that energy moving and
that energy lifted. (12:13):
Step number three is to reach for quantum . Okay? So this is when you are now going to start
to move your awareness into the quantum state, into the quantum part of you which is already
healed. And you can do this by doing a very easy check-in. So you can just sit in meditation,
close your eyes and put your hand on your heart, and just slowly give yourself some time,
maybe a couple of minutes, maybe a few minutes of just tapping into your heart and putting your
hands on your heart, having your eyes closed, focusing on your breathing. And then you're
going to shift your awareness to the energy field that surrounds your body. And you can visualize
this energy field. It's a few inches off of your skin, and you can visualize this energy field,
like a field that is wrapped around your body, a few inches above, hovering above your skin.
(13:03): And then you're just
going to visualize this energy field glowing. The more that you visualize this energy field glowing,
the more you're going to be tapping into what's known as the quantum self. Once you
start connecting with your quantum self, you're going to start feeling that part
of you that is already healed. The more that you hold your awareness on the quantum self,
you will see yourself healed. , this is really important to see yourself healed already.
To tap into that quantum self means that you're already seeing yourself healed. And the more that
you focus your attention on this healed state of yours, the more the embodiment work will
go faster in the human components of who you are. So your mind and your body will follow a lot more
quickly. The more you focus your attention and you see yourself already healed. Speaking of healing,
check out this video here where you'll discover one of the hardest wounds to heal,
and that you probably have it without knowing and how to get rid of it once and for all.
(14:07): Yay.