Today we are talking Tantra or if you're from the Midwest, like
me, Tantra. Tantra is an ancient sexual art that has been
shrouded in secrecy and mystery literally for 1000s of years.
And I'm going to be sharing with you today, the expert tips that
have been secretive, that are going to make your sex life
amazing. The truth is, even without devoting our life to a
Tantra yoga practice, we can learn so much from tantric sex,
and we can incorporate some of its most important tools into
our sexual life, to help us get into more in tune with ourselves
into our partners even last longer in bed and Today, I am
going to give you five expert tips that comes specifically
from Tantra practitioners literally 1000s of years, tried
and true sex technology that is going to help you improve your
sex life, whether you are rolling solo, or with a partner.
Tantra is a sexual practice that is rooted in an understanding of
energy. That just means that having sex with a greater sense
of connection to yourself within yourself, to your soul, even to
a higher power. One way of translating the word Tantra into
English means the weft of a wave. In other words, the string
that holds together all of the other strings all of the other
energies in your life, which means that Tantra is something
that we are all already doing anyways. You know, the question
that you have to ask yourself before you decide whether or not
you want to continue this video
is,
do I want to feel more connected during sex? Do I want sex to
feel more deeply, profoundly spiritually powerful? For both
me and my partner? Do I want to feel an incredible ecstatic
experience when it comes to sex? Or do I want sex to remain? Sort
of ho hum physical experience? like do I want to reach a state
of ecstasy with sex, and if you do, I invite you to stay around
until the end of this video because I'm going to lay some
hot pro tips on you that are going to help you channel your
best sexual self. Alright, without further ado, here are
five ways to incorporate tantric practices into your sex life.
And no, you do not need to go by any nog Champa. Ready, number
one, slow the fuck down. The key to Tantra is being in tune with
yourself and with your partner, having awareness of your body
and your mind in the sexual experience. One of the most
important principles is that sex is not just about the
destination, but it's also about the journey, you know, we have
to slow down so that we can pay attention to what's going on.
It's sort of like, if you're driving down the freeway at 80
miles an hour, you're not able to catch the little details of
the flowers along the road. There's nothing wrong with
either one. But slowing down is what allows us to actually get
in touch with what's really happening moment by moment. This
first tantric tip to mind blowing sex is to slow the EFF
down. And I'm not just talking to you. I'm talking to myself
here because I also have trouble slowing down. I am not a slow
moving person. The experience of slowing down actually has so
many benefits for our sexual life like number one, it will
make sex last longer. And if you're someone who deals with
premature ejaculation, I would ask you where else are you
racing through your life like where else do you probably also
need to slow down. It also gives us time to feel all of the
sensations of a sexual experience really allows us to
deepen our connection to the physical sensations that sex
brings. And of course, it allows our partner to do the same. Not
just that, but it allows her to feel sexually savored. And if
you have any doubt on whether or not slowing down is going to
make your sex life better. tantric expert tip number two,
which is your breath. breath is the bridge between the conscious
and the unconscious mind and so much about sex and tantric sex
two has to do with your
breathing. I mean,
think back to the last time you had sex, whether that was with
another person or with yourself. Think about the natural shifts
that you experienced in your breathing, the pace and the
intensity of your breath increases. When you get aroused.
It gets faster and faster as you reach
orgasm.
And there might even be times where you hold your breath and
your attention as you're getting to that big moment. And then
after you come the deep sighs of relief that you felt so good And
now I'm going to breathe myself all the way to sleep. Paying
attention to how breath affects your sexual experience is one of
the core elements of Tantra. And it's not just sex, like thinking
about how breathing affects you in all areas of life like why
the advice is always to go take 10 deep breaths before you get
into a fight with your partner. Breathing is a powerful tool.
Also, if you struggle with not ejaculating too quickly,
breathing is a phenomenal tool to help you cool down, slow down
and prevent yourself from coming before you and your partner is
ready. If you are curious to learn some of the breathing
techniques that countries have been using for 1000s of years, I
recommend checking out my course comm when you want that is all
about lasting longer in bed, where I teach some of these
very, very particular but super easy to learn breathing
techniques that will help you to last as long as you want a bed
and orgasm only when you are ready. Which brings me to my
next tip number three, mindfulness, luck. being present
is something that we all struggle with myself included,
like we live in a world where we're surrounded by screens and
a 24 hour news cycle and a million different thoughts and
we're so productive, and we've got bills and deadlines and
relatives. And maybe you're like me, and you're just super
stressed about Kim and Kanye is divorced for some reason, and
you're in a constant struggle to keep your houseplants alive.
It's a lot. And with everything on our minds, it is surprisingly
hard to just be and if you think those distractions are not
following you into the bedroom, my friend Guess again, like if
you think your girlfriend doesn't notice when for just a
split second, your mind wanders to that stunning Tom Brady's
Super Bowl touchdown pass, while you're still balls deep inside
of her sink. Again, staying present with us helps us to not
think you're comparing us to dissolve. It also helps us to
not think so much about Cayman county or being present for sex
is crucial. And it is a key part to keeping any woman satisfied.
I don't care how many tips and techniques that you know, you
could be the tongue master the fingersmith, you can do
everything right. But if you are not present, it will suck.
Guaranteed if you're wondering why the tips and the techniques
that you've been learning aren't working, this could be s. Now
here's the trick about being present involves being mindful.
And you don't have to just practice this inside of the
bedroom. In fact, the more present that you are in your
life, the more mindful and conscious that you are have your
actions outside of the bedroom, the bigger impact it will have
on your performance in this app.
Amazing.
So how do you practice what do you do to be quote unquote,
mindful, it is not rocket science. Again, this is ancient
technology, folks. So number one, take a walk, leave your
cell phone at home and go on a calming straw, maybe put on some
music, but leave your phone on airplane mode, take some time
out of your day, to literally just walk the stress off of your
body, leave your to do list behind and focus on this simple
repetitive task of one foot in front of the other. Here's
another tip, meditate. All right, you already know that
meditating has so many benefits. I'm not going to recall those
here. But one of the benefits you might not have thought of is
how it makes you better in
the bedroom.
Even if you spend 10 to 15 minutes a day. Just Breathing in
silence, getting rid of all the distractions and putting your
outward attention inward on yourself, you will see an impact
in the bedroom in very little time. Here's another way of
getting mindful, take a second to breathe, right? We just
talked about this. But tuning everything else for a moment.
And just taking a big deep breath all the way down into
your belly.
Maybe even saying it out with some noise.
Trust me a couple times in a row, you will thank me. your
five senses are the best way to ground you in this present
moment. And that is where presence and mindfulness live
again. It's not rocket science, people have been doing this.
People were way better at this a few 1000 years ago than they are
today. We're just borrowing from what's still known from them.
Alright, that brings me to number four and I fucking love
this one. See your partner as a divine being. Every woman wants
to be seen as a sex goddess, end of story, complete story period.
At its core Tantra is a way to merge with the divine. Now for
our purposes, it does not matter where you land in terms of
spirituality or religion. treating your partner as if they
are a divine being is separate from your religious beliefs. And
it also means that you get to be treated as a divine being. I
mean, that sounds pretty amazing. Right? And No, tantric
expert. Tip number five, use the power of if you're thinking that
tantric sex is quiet and Tam, my friends, think again, just
because you are going slowly and breathing does not mean that it
is a shy or timid experience. The sounds that we make during
sex are intuitive, they actually come from different parts of our
bodies. Think about it, the sounds that we make vary from
like to like, these are magical animalistic sounds and being in
tune with the sounds that your body wants to make, let alone
allowing yourself to make them is a beautiful part of tantric
sex. It's primal, it's raw, it's animalistic. And frankly, it is
fucking hot. In Tantra, these different sounds connect to our
different chakras, which are energy points, sort of wheels
that exist within our body, from our head all the way down to our
genitals. And whether or not you are familiar with the chakras or
believe that there's any credibility to that system.
being present with your body and making the sounds it's desiring
like the sounds that want to come out of it. This isn't
something that requires a lot of work. This is something again,
your body does automatically, it's more about just not
suppressing it. I mean, think about how much time we spend
suppressing our ability to make sound. You're not allowed to
burp, you're not allowed to fart, you're not allowed to
scream, you shouldn't laugh too loud, you shouldn't interrupt
people. Don't get too loud with your voice show indoor voices.
And now Are you ready for the pro tip that I promised you at
the beginning of this video? All right, sex is energy. When we
feel it, we feel it in the form of heat, we feel it in the form
of agitation, we feel it in the form of excitement. And it makes
us feel the desire to release like all that energy building up
inside
of us makes
us want to let it out channeling your sexual energy into
different creative activities like painting and drawing or
building something I mean, chopping down wood and stalking
it, you can use your sexual energy, channeling it into dance
or a walk or a workout. All you've got to do is focus on
moving that energy up from out of your genitals and into the
rest of your body. But imagine if you pulled that energy up
from your genitals and brought it up here into your heart,
brought it up here into your throat, burn it up here into
your mind, and you let it explode out from there. Instead
of having a ejaculation out of your penis. You might have an
ejaculation of love of sound of thought that leaves your body
and blows your mind with how amazing you are. I can't get
into it too much here because this is YouTube and it's
complicated stuff. So if you want more on that, make sure to
check out my course comm when you want or if you're ready to
take a deeper dive into this work and you are like Yep, this
is for me the energy thing that you're talking about the ecstasy
thing I want that make sure that you apply for coaching. The link
is in the description. Alright, I have been Caitlin V and today
we have learned all about being present. treating yourself and
your lover like the sex gods and goddesses that you are making
noises breathing. It's been a lot. This time, no crystals
needed. Thank you friends for tuning in. I will see you here
next week.