with somebody with high stress and high anxiety background like myself it's
scary when I look into the research that's coming out today how stress is
closely linked to death and how people who don't know how to understand how to
process stress well they're the ones who actually end up suffering and our health
takes a massive toll in regards to this and that's why insider if you're
somebody who's naturally prone to stress and anxiety like myself is important you
understand how to control your inner world
and that's why I'm gonna share with you the five mindset secrets that you got to
know that I use every single day to be able to perform on new heights make sure
to pay close attention especially to the final one insider because this is
something that you can use right now to be able to get more peace and feel more
joyful in this moment before we begin I want you to take a deep breath in that's it
come on long with me and a deep breath out out your mouth relax be present with
me don't allow this monk in your mind to try and skip this video because you've
ended up here for a reason be present your future self would thank
you for it let's go straight on to the first point you got to let go all
stresses is nothing than a byproduct of life not fitting your pictures that's
all it is right now you want life to look in a specific manner you want
people to be exactly like how you're picturing in your mind
and whenever those rules are broken in your psychology the way you're attaching
that meaning is actually resulting in you feeling more anxious and more
stressed the question you gotta ask yourself insider is who made up these
rules because there could be somebody for example who some people they say I'm
so stressed in my own business imagine if Richard Branson who owns four
hundred-plus however many companies he's got today imagine if he is put into the
same shoes where this guy is having an overwhelming amount of things that's
happening in his single business well Richard Branson would feel like
either on freakin holiday why because of different rules that's happening in his
psychology what you got to ask yourself right now insider is what have you
made the rules in your psychology to mean to you and
one of the things you've got to begin to do is just let go let go of the pictures
you've got in your mind right now in regards to what life needs to look like
because this is life you're living it right now every single second is a
moment in your life so instead of trying to have control of what's happening out
there let go of control that's beyond your
control you can't control it let it be control your reaction to it
you've made up the rules from your conditioning your upbringing from what
you've studied into you made up these rules in your own psychology meaning you
can change it so stop trying to control things in the outer world let go of
control relax nothing is under control and when you
are a total peace with that when you can be calm amongst a storm that's when you
realize that you can be a total peace in this present moment so just let it go
right now whatever you think about so let it be
that's how it's stop trying to compress it and try to stop trying to tell
yourself I want it like this Tim because it's not it's not happening like
that so let it go be present in this moment that's the first thing the second
thing is strong winds and this is a conditioning of mentally strong people
high achievers successful individuals the reason why successful people can handle
overwhelming amount of workloads but still perform on whole another level is
because they can handle the strong winds and they've changed the rules and the
meaning in their psychology remember whatever meaning you've given to your
life and your work is either going to draw you to success or draw you to failure
so you gotta ask yourself if you are more stress on day to day basis you
gotta ask yourself what's the meaning I've given this situation how can I
change it what successful people have all got in common if they do not see
obstacles or issues as issues Jack Ma says how he never complains and in fact
whenever his customers complain he's just listens right because he sees
opportunities whenever there are complaints of their customers or
obstacles he sees opportunities where everybody else is overwhelmed and
thinking oh my god my business is falling down so you got to realize that
successful people they process obstacles differently they see it as an
opportunity and how you gotta process it's like this realize that strongest
trees don't grow in the best soil they grow in the strongest winds every
single time you're going through an obstacle remember this remind yourself that
you're being shaped into the person you're born to be because in order for
you to live the life you're born to live you gotta transform yourself into the
person you were born to become it's simple as that
so whenever winds of life is coming don't tell yourself oh I really don't
want this realize what is really doing is strengthening you it's nourishing you
it's giving you a new opportunities to shine to build up on your mental
fortitude therefore it's a blessing in disguise today whenever I'm dealt with
bad news I'm at total peace because I realize life is shaping me and every
single obstacle you've ever gone through insider you realized how those were the
times in your life where you were shaped you don't get shaped when you're sitting
on the beach on the holiday sipping margaritas your life transforms you
transform whenever you're tested whenever you're down on your luck so
embrace it and when you begin to do that you've realized that life is beautiful
it's all part of the journey life has got the polar opposites both the the yin
and the yang up and down the masculine and the feminine so knowing this in advance
whenever you go through the bad times realize it's shaping you so you can really
live in the good times so don't say to yourself I really don't want the bad
because it's part of life it's what helps you to grow and when you grow then
you can live the life you're born to live so embrace the strong winds is
there to serve you on a higher level as Steve Jobs once said you cannot connect
the dots looking forward you can only connect the dots looking backwards so
have full trust in whatever you're going through right now have full trust be in
this moment and realize that serving you and look back at any moments in your
life where it was hard and you realized if you hadn't gone through that you
wouldn't be here with me right now in regards to where you are in your
career or whatever maybe so embrace the strong winds another thing that you got
to do today I highly recommend if you are somebody who's naturally prone to
stress is to interrupt whenever you're going through an emotional state such as
stress you are caught up in a pattern it's
almost like a hamster on a wheel trying to move forwards but can't it's just on
the wheel and so in order for you to stop feeling this emotion you've got to
get off the wheel so whenever you're working and you find yourself always
worry stress well interrupts that pattern if you haven't taken a day off
in a long time take that day off but don't just for example lounge about
watch TV go outside of nature try something new interrupt the pattern
because what that's going to do it's gonna shock your system and whenever you
come back and you'll realize you come up much stronger with more clarity and more
passion and that's why every now and then I take really big leaps in trying
something new adventurous trying something that
involves maybe getting to some vantage point I love for example traveling and
so forth because whenever I'm on the plane I can look down and I can see how
which are so insignificant if you really think about it how people think the
world is you know you have got all the attention on us but in reality when
you're looking down on top of the plane you realize we're like a tiny little
ants and if you zoom out even further realize if you're looking at the earth
as the globe you realize how we are really just insignificant creatures
we're just going through our own emotional meaning of what life means to
us and so do something that allows you to interruptus get get maybe go on top
of a skyscraper get that vantage point and that will allow you to be at peace
and realize this is all just happening in here because we're attaching our own
meanings to reality and life becomes what we make it mean to us and that's
what it's all about govern how to interrupt this pattern so
make sure you plan something in advance insider that allows you to do that
the fourth thing is you got to get great at gardening what do I mean by this your
mind is like a garden there are whenever you're thinking positive thoughts there are
positive beautiful roses and flowers blossoming whenever you are thinking
negative thoughts there's weeds coming all of a sudden and making the garden look
ugly you gotta train your mind recondition your mind to think positive
thoughts whenever you notice the negative thought remember that's like a
weed in the garden you gotta take away the weed how by focusing on the roses by
focusing on the beautiful elements of the garden and by focusing on that
you're gonna let these weed slowly but surely die down so you gotta become
conscious of the thoughts that's going on and whenever you find yourself you're
you're almost putting the walls weight on your shoulders begin to focus on
gratitude gratefulness think about this right now
what are you truly grateful for it may be a hard question to answer but realize
that there is always something that you can be truly grateful even if you for
example have seen the odds of you being born four hundred trillion to one and
you realize how you've been given this life you've been blessed with life every
time your hearts beating you're not having to think about your heart beating
but just beats and the moment it stops guess what your life is gone have you ever
really stopped to think about that treasure every single moment be in this
moment because you are alive yes whatever has happened it sucks but you
can't change it you can change however how are you going to be moving forwards
don't carry the wolves weight on your shoulders that happened yesterday
yesterday is the past be present this moment and move forwards and that way
you can grow and you can reduce this anxiety and stress that's the fourth the
fifth as you got to disconnect whenever I feel stressed or anxious I do not turn
to digital devices because for example email notifications Facebook Instagram
and we reach millions of people every single month so you can imagine a lot of
messages coming through last thing I want is for me to feel more overwhelmed
with amount of messages that's coming in so just disconnect part of my morning
evening routine whenever I do it I feel absolutely amazing
I don't feel stressed around the day whenever I don't do my morning or
evening routine I feel terrible through out the day so make sure you have a disconnect
routine a ritual where you can really calm the mind we can meditate we can go
for a breathing practice something which I've shown before you can try this out
right now after today's video and you'll notice a
huge difference have a look so I do this and as I lift my hands up like this I
take a deep lung breath in through my nose and then push all day out out my
mouth that counts as one rep do 30 of those and you will notice the instant
calmness in regards to your anxiety and stress insider these are there five of many
ways that I use every single day to calm myself so I feel less stressed and this
is what allows me to be a high performer because realize this insider yes you may
feel calm whilst on holiday yes you may feel great when things are going great
but that's not high performance high performance and being a peak performer
being successful is your ability to maintain that performance no matter what
that's the difference between winners and losers so do whatever it takes
inside to keep on recondition your mind and if you found today's video helpful
be sure to pay this video forward to a loved one or a friend who needs to hear
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should be in your biggest takeaway that you're going to utilize and act on right
now as always insider follow your heart my friend and take action and go live the
life you're truly born to live I'll see you on the next video soon be calm be
present today I believe in you speak soon