hey what's going on my beautiful people this is certified life and relationship coach coach court
in this video i'm going to give you five signs that you've healed from a breakup
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to give you five signs that you have healed from a breakup now this process in healing is very messy
it's very long sometimes but it can also be short depending on your level of comprehension
on what you what you the way you've showed up in a relationship what you understand
about relationships understand about healthy functioning relationships not everyone comes
into relationships with an understanding of what it takes to keep the relationship lasting for a
long time so when you're going through a breakup the person who was willing to make it work the
most the one who was more invested they're using other ones that are struggling the most after
it's done so i'm going to give you five ways to tell that you're turning the corner and you're
starting to heal from this person with these five signs though i'm not going to put them in order
but i can tell you that the very last sign is going to be the one that's going to be the biggest
so make sure that you stick around in this video to check that one out the very first one is you
stop blaming yourself the very first thing people do when they're going through a breakup let's say
that they're getting gas lit by the person a person is telling them everything that they've
done wrong they've taken no accountability for the things that they've done so naturally what
a person does is they take the brunt of all the problems that were going on in a relationship
if you guys aren't familiar with the five stations of grievan there are five stages
you go through and these aren't in particular order either there's denial there's anger there's
bargaining there's depression and then there's finally that acceptance state and sometimes you
you you go between all of those those stages within one day so when a person is struggling
after the breakup they tend to take all the accountability for the breakup happening
but when you get yourself to a heal state you start to reflect on what that person did
you start to reflect on some of the stories that they were saying some of the ways that they were
showing up and you realize that it takes two to tango it takes two people in a relationship
this isn't a one-sided deal you know you've had some issues you've made some mistakes and
so did they so when you get to that point in your healing where you you finally feel like all right
i'm turning i'm starting to eat a little bit better i'm starting to sleep better at night
that's when you realize that it wasn't all of me if this person wanted to make this thing
work they would have you know not only bring these things to the table before they just
broke it off but they would have also tried to help make me a better person like i was trying
to make them because if i had an issue i'm going to be speaking to you about it just so you can
become the best person and the best version that you can be in a relationship the second thing is
you can date again now like i said this isn't in any particular order i talk to many clients
that can't even fathom talking to someone else they can't think about somebody being close
to them somebody or sharing holidays with them somebody entered being introduced to their kids
walking their dog any of that it's just out of the question so when you're able to date again i know
some people do it in an unhealthy way where they sign right up it's why i kind of kind of tell
people to steer clear of dating apps because there's a lot of people on date nights that
aren't healed they're not at the state in their healing process where they can actually be present
and not do comparisons and not feel as if they're trying to fill in a void so when you get yourself
to the state where you can date again you can see people objectively see their their positives and
not be so leery and have your walls up about the negatives that your ex had then that's when you
know that you're starting to turn the corner as well the third way that you know is you're not
easily triggered anymore and you can ride past the restaurant you can ride past the coffee shop you
can even get a message from your ex and you won't be triggered you won't be triggered meaning you
won't be emotionally unstable again where you're overly texting them again where you're starting to
text their mom again you're starting to stalk their social media again if you are at this state
where you're emotionally centered uh you may be seeing someone you may be moving on in your mind
mentally that's a really good sign that you're on the right path to healing so whatever you're doing
continue to do that the fourth time is you're able to focus again now these are not like i talk about
you can be somebody that can focus right away after a breakup but for majority of people it's
really hard for them to focus again i can tell you that majority of the men that i coach that
reach out to me for coaching sessions they're struggling like they're unproductive at work
they can't stop thinking about this person they're not able to enjoy their hobbies again
watching hockey matches or whatever soccer matches you're not able to focus on
the match because you're thinking about how you and your girlfriend or your ex used to watch this
thing together and you know share memories around that particular sport so you really struggle
and you're not able to focus and some people give it all up a lot of content creators aren't able to
create work because they can't focus they get this either writer's block or they get creators block
because they just can't focus on their work so once you're able to get back to that you're
heading in the right direction and the very last sign that i feel is the most important
one thank you for sticking around to the end is you stop obsessing about relationship videos
now whenever clients reach out to me and they they say you know what i just want
clarity i just want to be able to move on from this i used to be binge watching and
diving deep into things about attachment styles about get x back rebound relationships all of that
now i just want to know you know should i cut ties and move completely on i don't are there
signs that you can tell me that this person is no longer interested in me because i don't want to
waste time and i joke too i say you know sometimes i feel like i'm a consultant i'm a time consultant
because one of the best gifts and one of the greatest gifts you can give anyone
is your time it's really easy to get caught up in this wormhole or this rabbit hole of
breakup videos get ex back videos for a long time i've known guys to go a year two years five years
where they'll get into other little situations but they're still not able to get over their ex
they're like basically buying their time because their ex is with somebody else
and they're waiting for the relationship to fall apart so they'll get into these other time killing
relationships and they're not really healed from that other person but you need to take
your healing seriously understand that if a person decides to walk away from your life and i know
people are going to say there's going to be soul mates out there but if they were your soul mate
they'd be here with you now right absolutely so that's all i got for you guys right now be sure to
check out my other videos on the channel where i talk about rebound relationships attachment styles
get next backs and having healthier fulfilling relationships if you found this video of any
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