Improvement pill here welcome to part 2 of the 50 life lessons from an 80 year
old series if you haven't watched the first part of this little mini series
you can find it by clicking on the link in the description box below honestly
you can watch it after watching this video because well the order doesn't
really matter but it's up to you now just the quick heads up I'm not gonna
cover all of the lessons some of them I feel like are repeats and some of them I
feel like just aren't that important and I'll also be adding one of my personal
lessons to the very end of this video this is a very valuable lesson that I
learned the hard way last year so make sure you watch the video till the very
end to find out what it is other than that
let's jump right into it lesson number 17 take charge of your
attitude this is actually a really good point because it's your attitude that
ultimately determines your quality of life it's not the amount of money you
make or how you look or what you own it's these stories that you tell
yourself that determine whether or not you feel happy and fulfilled with your
life almost all things that happen in this world can either be seen as glass
half-full or glass half-empty you have to learn how to see things as
glass half-full because there are going to be some ugly things that will happen
down the line that you will have no control over that's just kind of how
life works but if you can reframe a glass half-empty scenario into a glass
half-full scenario at least you'll have the strength to push through the tough
times if you don't learn how to do this you will lose hope easily whenever
you're confronted with failure or tragedy and you will be more prone to
falling into downward spirals lesson number 18
remember no one makes it alone this is absolutely true when I first started
working on this channel I try to be a one-man show I did almost everything on
my own all the writing all the animation and all the audio work and it was tough
I thought working like this would cut costs but in reality it just cut the
amount of free time I had to enjoy my life the moment I started building a
team and delegating different tasks to people who actually enjoy doing those
things and were also significantly better at
doing those things than I was that's when I started seeing significantly more
success with the channel and that's also when I started having a lot more free
time to enjoy life great things are accomplished far faster and usually
better with a team lesson number 19 never waste an opportunity to tell
people you love them this actually reminds me of a somewhat depressing
quote I came across on the internet not too long ago I don't remember the exact
quote but it was basically something along the lines of one day when you
visit your mom it will be the last time you ever get to visit her and it really
stuck with me because my parents are getting older and it's sad to say but
it's true one day I will have to say goodbye to them and I might not be there
when it's their time to go right not everyone has a chance to pass away on
the stereotypical deathbed some people go suddenly without any warning so it's
important to show people you care about that you love them and that you
appreciate them just in case also I found that it definitely improved my
relationship with my parents I find myself being more forgiving and more
considerate because I realized that this is not a relationship that will always
be there lesson number 20 be bold and courageous now courage is definitely
something that I feel like everyone should focus on cultivating because
almost every good thing that's ever happened to me in my life was because I
was able to muster up the courage and take the leap to do something that I was
afraid of doing learn how to be comfortable jumping into the unknown
because like they say fortune favors the bold lesson number 23
beware of the person who has nothing to lose I once worked with an ex-convict
who was charged with attempted murder he took a liking to me and allowed me to
pick his brain and I learned that when you don't really care about anything in
life you stop thinking about the consequences of your actions instead
your raw emotions take over you have no reason to try and tame them so you let
them run wild in his case it was anger but for others it can be sadness guilt
or even pride all of which can cause you to take some very harmful actions
without thinking which is why it's important to have something that can
around you like a loved one a passion or purpose in life this will give you a
reason to try and tame the beast that resides within us all lesson number 24
keep it simple this one is absolutely true especially
when it comes to the world of self-improvement because every time I
run the habit builder challenge I get a couple of students that tell me about
all the habits they want to build all the great things that they want to
achieve I want to learn how to play the piano I want to learn how to speak
German I want to build a habit of cooking everyday for myself now don't
take this the wrong way these are all good habits but remember the 80/20 rule
80% of all the joy and fulfillment that you're looking for will come from just
20% of the things that you want to do look over that to-do list of yours and
narrow down your goals to just one or two things and focus on those before
anything else you'll see progress much faster this way lesson number 28 look
people in the eye this one is super important whenever you hold eye contact
with someone for more than like two seconds there's this powerful sense of a
connection being made because in this world with billions and billions of
people for a very very brief period of time
you're solely focused on them and they're solely focused on you and that's
powerful this is especially important when you're out on a date with someone
that you fancy you want them to feel this way you want them to feel like it's
just you and them against the world that you're really really paying attention to
everything that they're saying holding more eye contact with people will also
cultivate courage as it tackles one of the biggest fears that people have which
is social anxiety lesson number 29 sing in the shower or more specifically spend
more time in the shower now there's actually some science to this so there
are different brain waves there's five of them that we spend time in every
single day and when we're in the shower for some reason our brain naturally
switches to using more alpha waves and research says that this is actually the
perfect state to be in for creativity for coming up with ideas for thinking
about your life for anything that's related to creation and to be honest
many of my best ideas for this channel actually came to me when I was in the
shower and it's not just me I was reading principles by Ray Dalio who is
considered to be one of the best investors in the world he's actually the
79th wealthiest person in the entire world has a February 2020 and in the
book he says that he spends a lot of time in the shower because his best
ideas come to him there as well lesson number 31 if in a fight hit first and
hit hard to be honest the few times that I've been in situations where a fight
was about to go down I've always somehow managed to talk my way out of it
but this piece of advice definitely applies to business as well if you have
a good business idea one that you think would do well it's very important to
execute as soon as possible yes you should do some research beforehand just
to make sure that this is a good idea but if you've already convinced that
this is the right thing to do you need to take action ASAP
when I first got the idea for this channel I literally picked the name the
next day and I uploaded my first video in a little bit more than a week after
that so many of us are obsessed with perfect execution but the thing is what
you think is perfect is probably not what the rest of the world thinks is
perfect it's better to quickly execute on an idea put it out there see how
others react and then make adjustments down the line so at this point in time
we're halfway done with the video so let's take a little intermission see the
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thank you so much now back to the video we got lesson number 30 to keep secrets
or even better I think this should say keep your word your ability to stay true
to your word to be able to do what you say you're going to do will affect how
others perceive you you're gonna have a real tough time forming long lasting
relationships and doing business if people think that you're unreliable
keeping a word will also improve your self esteem if you're someone who makes
a lot of promises to others or even to yourself and you constantly break them
then all you're doing is reinforcing the idea that whatever you say isn't
important if your words have little value then you yourself will have little
value lesson number 39 do nice things for people who will never find out or a
better alternative is to do good things without telling other people you see
this all the time on YouTube where someone goes up to a homeless person
gives them a bunch of cash but is recording the entire interaction so that
they can then post the video online when you do a good deed but then use it as
content to gain views and likes are you really doing it because you're a good
person or are you doing it's a profit in some indirect way it's much more
powerful to do good deeds and keep it to yourself because then it'll mean that
you're not in it for the money the attention or the validation you do good
deeds because you genuinely want to help people out and this will change the way
you view yourself for the better your sense of self-worth will increase
because well you become someone who can add value to the lives of others lesson
number forty lend only those books you never care to see again this actually
applies to money more so than books in my opinion because out of all the times
I've lent money to people in my life I would say that I've only ever been paid
back maybe 10% of the time you have to realize that if someone is desperate
enough to be in a position where they have
to ask you for money then there is a very high chance that they have a bunch
of bad habits that put them in that position in the first place
sure you'll have the occasional person who gets hit with a ridiculous amount of
bad luck and falls into tough times but most people who are broke are broke
because of their habits and chances are they will continue to struggle
financially even after using up the money they've borrowed so over the years
I've just learned to accept this fact if I lend someone money I'm basically
giving it away and I don't expect to see it back this is actually a good way to
see who your true friends are because real friends will understand the value
of paying you back and will go out of their way to make sure they return what
you are owed lesson number 42 when playing games with children let them win
once in a while that is because in order for someone to have fun in any sort of
game or challenge they need to be able to win at least one-third of the time if
it's any harder than the experience becomes too frustrating and they will
lose the motivation to play on the other hand if it's too easy if you let them
win all of the time then the experience becomes boring and they will again lose
their motivation to play this piece of advice applies to learning skills as
well you want to find the sweet spot in regards to the difficulty level when
practicing any skill so that you will continue to feel motivated to work on it
lesson number 43 give people a second chance but not a third okay everyone
makes mistakes but making two of the same mistake in a very short period of
time yeah that's a huge red flag that just shows you what type of person they
really are and you have to understand that it's actually extremely hard for
people to change people don't change unless their habits change so it doesn't
matter what sort of amazing speech you give them or how much more time and
energy you devote to them they're probably gonna disappoint you again if
you really want to give a loved one a third chance then you should probably
wait until they've genuinely showed you that they've changed first pay close
attention to their actions over a period of time don't just listen to their words
lesson number 47 don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments nowadays
whenever I go to a concert or rave or even the club I see tons of people
holding up their phones the experience and putting it on social
media the purpose of you being at these events is to enjoy the music to feel the
energy in the room to have fun with your friends you're not there to gather
another highlight reel to show people that you have a life and also it's not
like you're the only one that goes to events like these and records it
everyone does it nowadays so it's not even special anymore you're not
impressing anyone put down the phone and focus on what's in front of you you'll
feel happier when you do this because it's nearly impossible for you to enjoy
the moment when you're double checking your phone to see how many likes and
comments you got from that new clip you posted on your story lesson number 48
and lesson number 49 be a good loser and be a good winner yeah there are gonna be
people who are better than you at things in life and they're going to be people
who are worse than you add things in life in either case you must be careful
of how your ego reacts when confronted with someone who is better than us at
something our ego will instinctively act defensively don't allow yourself to get
angry or upset because they bested you realize that you have much to learn from
this person and take on the position of a student ask them for their advice and
figure out how to get better when confronted with someone who has worse
than us at something our ego will instinctively act aggressively in these
cases resist the urge to crush their spirit and remember to be humble you can
try to take on the position of a teacher and give them some pointers but also
realize that some people do not want to be taught in those cases just let it go
and last but not least the one big lesson that I learned last year
happiness resides in the present moment so spend more time there every single
day to be honest this is a lesson that I came across many many years ago when I
first read the power of now by Eckhart Tolle and it's the idea that the past
and the future technically are not real rights you can only think about them you
can't physically live in the past or the future the only place you can ever
physically be in is the present moment yet we spend so little of our time and
energy focused on the present I think it's safe to say that most people are in
the present moment less than 1% of their day instead
they're either lost in thought thinking about the past or the future
or they're distracting themselves with social media and entertainment and even
substances and this is not good because we do all of these things thinking that
it will lead us to true happiness when in reality true happiness is almost
always found in the present moment last year I spent a lot of my time focused on
growing the business I was taking meditation less seriously and I wasn't
dancing as much as I used to I was lost in the clouds almost every day worrying
about my next big project and this resulted in a noticeable decline in my
mood and that's why for my new year's resolution this year I decided to focus
on taking meditation more seriously and to spend more time dancing this way I
can increase the amount of time I spend in the present moment every single day
and trust me it doesn't take much to see the benefits going from spending 1
percent of your day being present so even just 5 percent will lead to a very
noticeable difference so make sure to remind yourself about this whenever you
find yourself obsessing over something that you feel like you need to get in
order to be happy happiness does not live in that object or that person or
that achievement happiness can be found by simply being present and focusing on
everything that is literally in front of you right now as you hear these words
this concludes our mini-series on the 50 life lessons let me know in the comments
down below which one stood out to you the most I'm curious to see what you
guys will say and besides that guys stay tuned