There’s no denying that phones are a big part of where we live our romantic lives.
Since everyone and their mother seems to have and carry around a cell phone in today’s
world, making a man obsess over you can be as easy as sending him the right text messages.
But, what are the “right text messages” and which ones will have the opposite effect?
Hey ladies, Amy North here, welcome to my channel.
As you may or may not already know I’m a relationship coach from the west coast of
Canada and author of The Devotion System — a program I’ve designed to help women find
and create the love lives they want and deserve.
From being ready for love to locking down Mr. Right, the program covers every aspect
of romantic relationships, so if you’re looking to improve yours then you may want
to consider checking it out.
That aside though, today I want to share with you five types of text messages you can send
men to make them obsessed with you.
Yes, obsessed as in he won’t be able to eat, sleep or go about other daily tasks without
thinking about you.
Before I jump into the messages you should be sending your guy, I want to first talk
a bit about the types of text messages you shouldn’t send him, because believe me,
even if you send him the most heavenly texts, the wrong ones can be huge deal breakers.
For starters, the generic “hey, hello, or what’s up” texts.
These messages suck because they don’t do anything to stir up emotion in your guy, and
not to mention they make you seem incredibly boring.
While I’m talking about these dull messages, it’s also worth mentioning that sending
your man updates on your every move isn’t a good idea either.
Believe me, as much as you think it’s the end of the world that the coffee shop is out
of your favourite bagel, or how you’re feeling bloated from your weekend of partying, he
doesn’t care, nor does he want to know.
Sure, you may be smitten, but you’re not doing yourself any favours by sending these
mundane types of text messages
Same goes for sending him “what are you up to messages.”
Why?
Because if he doesn’t willingly tell you what he’s doing then it’s probably because
he doesn’t feel it’s worth sharing.
When you send him these kind of text messages it’ll seem like a chore for him to respond
to you… which is 100% the opposite of what you want if you’re looking to make him obsessed
with you.
And at all costs avoid sitting around, staring at a black screen, desperately waiting for
him to reply to you.
This is important for a couple reasons.
First, if you respond too quickly it will give him the impression that you’re sitting
around, waiting to hear from him.
Second, it comes across as clingy, and third, responding too quickly implies that you have
no life outside of him and the relationship.
To prevent this from happening, keep busy!
By doing so it’ll help you fight the urge to text him back too soon, and not to mention,
it’ll give you something new to tell him about when he asks how your day was.
In those scenarios where you don’t have much happening when he texts, still make a
point to hold back for at least a few minutes to give him the impression that you’re busy
with other things.
Not making his text messages your number one priority will give you time to do other things
that keep you active and happy, and time to properly think about your response.
Of course if you’re in the middle of a conversation with him, or he asks you a question that is
time sensitive and needs a quick reply, then don’t leave him hanging.
If you do, you risk coming across as self-centered or rude.
Be respectful of his needs, too.
Before I move on to the juicy part of this video it’s also important to mention how
much of an impact grammar has on your relationship.
If you’re text messages are littered with misspelt words or lack common sense, then
that’s going to be a huge turn off for him, and let’s face it, you’re not going to
look like the brightest crayon in the box.
So save yourself the embarrassment and make sure that you read over and edit your text
where necessary.
Don’t think this is a real issue?
Just Google search it and you’d be amazed at some of the cringeworthy misspellings you
find.
Or, learn from my friend’s experience.
He was seeing a girl who would text “hoo,” as in “H-O-O” when referring to “who”
as in “W-H-O.”
He tried giving her the benefit of the doubt, and hoped it was just a strange auto-correct
or voice to text memo, but after she sent him the same misspelt version of “hoo”
multiple times, he realized that he couldn’t be with someone who lacked such basic intelligence.
Sure, you can argue that breaking up for that reason is shallow, but hey, the truth hurts
sometimes, and men aren’t into poor grammar.
Last but certainly not least, don’t get over invested in text messaging.
If you make the deadly mistake of bantering back and forth with your guy for hours on
end, there you leave little reason for him to want to see you, because let’s face it,
he’ll feel like he’s spent all day with you simply by texting.
Again, there are exceptions here, as in, you shouldn’t bail cold turkey on a conversation,
but when possible avoid the relentless texting back and forth.
It won’t lead to anything more and it’s a quick way to kill the spark.
So, now that I’ve covered all these texting DON’T, let’s talk about the kind of texts
that WILL make a man obsessed over you.
Now before I jump into these I’d like to quickly ask that if you enjoy this video or
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So, the first kind of text message you’re going to want to send a man to make him obsess
over you is what I like to call a “Comical” text, and simply put it’s a light-hearted,
humorous text to make the guy you’re into laugh.
Since laughter is one of the easiest ways to a man’s heart, by being that witty, whimsical
woman that every man dreams of finding, you’re sure to make him obsess over you.
That said, careful not to turn everything into a joke and don’t add “LOL” or “haha”
to every text message.
Instead, reserve it for the actually funny messages you send and receive.
If you’re saying, “I wish you were here right now, LOL”... well, you’re going
to confuse him.
Instead know when you should use comical texts and when to keep your conversation serious.
Oh, and always be choose your jokes wisely, especially if you’re just getting to know
the guy you’re texting.
One distasteful text message can wreak havoc on your chances.
The second type of text for hooking him is a “Q&A”... don’t be fooled though, this
isn’t your typical Question and Answer, it stands for Question and Arouse!
These are the kind of texts you want to send a man to show him that you’re interested
in getting to know him better.
However, instead of sending mundane or dry questions like “What are you up to” or
“How was your day?”
you’re going to want to turn up the heat with these ones to get his fiery obsession
burning.
For instance texting him something like “What are you wearing right now?” or “What do
you want me to do to you later?”
can get him aroused more than you may expect.
That said, he may not realize why exactly you’re asking him these things so be patient
here.
For instance, if you ask him what he’s wearing and he replies with “Jeans and a t-shirt.
Why?
Are we going somewhere?” then you can reply with a sassy, seductive, “No, I just wanted
to know what I’ll be taking off you tonight.”
Of course you’ll want to be sparse with these because if they become redundant or
excessive then they may start to lose their charm, or he may think that you’re just
in it for sex.
Moving on, the third text message to send your guy is the “Life Lover” text.
So, what is this kind of message?
Well, the best way to explain it is it’s a text that expresses your confidence and
love for life.
The key here is to keep your message positive and radiating with passion for life.
Maybe it seems commenting on what a wonderful day you’re having, or perhaps it means telling
him all about the praise you got from your boss.
Whatever you choose, just make sure that your words tell the story of a woman who is bold,
brave, knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to take it!
When you do, he’ll go ga-ga for you.
If you’re interested in learning some tips for upping your odds to become any man’s
dream woman then visit my site and watch the free video presentation.
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Moving on, we have the “Nude Illusion” text.
A hot text message:“Gotta run, I have to go buy a bikini,” A hotter one: “I’m
going to take a long, hot shower.”
The hottest: “Guess who’s not wearing any panties.”
As vastly different as these three examples are, all will get your guys gears turning
and yes, he’ll be imagining you naked.
So, if you’re looking to steal his attention for the day by making him unable to focus
on anything but the thoughts of your nude body, then these are the kinds of texts to
get him obsessed.
What’s even better is that by slowly “letting him in” and giving him more dirty details
than you would any other male friend, you’re also giving him a tiny taste of what dating
you would be like.
Just don’t go overboard here, and definitely don’t send nude photos, no matter how much
he begs.
Instead, make him work for the prize, after all, if you just give it to him, then where’s
the chase?
Oh, and don’t be afraid to throw in a winking emoji here and there; those can help send
the message that you’re aware you’re messages may be turning him on.
Ok, so last but definitely not least is the “Tickle His Senses” text, and the point
here is to give him a little taste of your sensual side, but to leave him wanting more.
In order to send these texts successfully you’re going to want to avoid being too
direct with him.
Besides, if he knows he can have you at the snap of a finger then he might start to lose
interest.
At the same time, it’s crucial that he knows you’re at least a little bit into him.
As a relationship coach, you’d be surprised how often I hear from women who are confused
as to why they can’t get the guy, only to find out that they haven’t actually been
showing him any interest.
Since guys fear rejection, it’s important to show him know that you’re interested.
The key is to be subtle.
To do so, flirt with him, laugh lots and throw a compliment his way.
Tickle all of his senses with descriptive words that will let him visualize what it
would be like to be with you.
When you can be the one who makes him feel good, then there’s no reason why he wouldn’t
want to be with you.
Well, now it’s your time to weigh in!
Have you tried these types of text messages in the past?
Did they work for you?
Do you have your own tricks up your sleeve?
Please share in the comments below, I’d love to hear from you!
The same goes for if you have any questions about what I’ve covered here today, simply
post below and I’ll do my best to respond as soon as possible.
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