Hi everyone, welcome to my latest breakup advice video…
this time, I’m only going to be talking specifically to the men out there who are
trying to re-unite with their ex girlfriend.
So, gentlemen, if you want to win back your ex but you’re having trouble figuring out
what the hell is going on inside her head, then you’ll want to keep watching.
Before I dive into things, I guess I should introduce myself in case this is the first
time you’ve come across one of my videos here on YouTube…
I’m Brad Browning, I’m a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver Canada.
I’m also best known for my best-selling “Ex Factor Guide” program, which teaches
folks like you how to rebuild a broken relationship with an ex.
So, enough about me, let’s get into the topic at hand, which is how to tell if your
ex still loves you and wants you back.
As you go through the process of winning back your ex girlfriend, you’ll soon realize
that one of the most frustrating and confusing aspects is trying to read your ex and her
emotions.
Every time you hear from or interact with your ex girlfriend — even when she’s doing
something that has nothing to do with you, like updating a Facebook status – she’s
usually feeding you information you can use to gauge her feelings and emotions.
You need to learn how to properly read & interpret these signals to ensure you avoid making mistakes
and chasing her further away.
Before I go any further, allow me to give you a serious warning: if you misinterpret
your ex girlfriend’s feelings and signals, you will likely do or say something that will
actually harm your chances of getting back together with her.
As a result, I strongly recommend you consider investing in my Ex Factor Guide program to
walk you through the process of winning her back… you can learn more about the program
and my innovative “3R System” at my website, www.BreakupBrad.com…
I’ve also got a lengthy video that will give you some more free advice, so definitely
check that out as soon as you can by going to BreakupBrad.com….
I promise if you watch that video, you’ll be way, way less likely to screw things up
and blow your shot at getting your ex back.
OK, so with that warning out of the way, let’s move on to the finer details of interpreting
your ex’s signs and signals… and I want to start by giving you some great news.
She still has strong feelings for you.
Yes, this is a bit of a bold proclamation, but I’m going to say it anyway: it’s extremely
likely that your ex girlfriend still loves you, or at the very least still has those
fundamental romantic feelings towards you.
Yes, that’s true even if you broke up months ago and your ex is dating someone new.
She may have told you that she doesn’t have feelings for you anymore, but she’s almost
certainly lying.
After breaking up, your ex will tell you she doesn’t love you anymore, even though that’s
a fallacy.
Why?
Because she doesn’t want to hurt you any more than she needs to, and because she thinks
telling you that, it will help ensure you don’t tempt her into getting back together
and giving the relationship another shot.
Her brain says she should break up with you, but deep down she’ll be thinking about you
a lot in the first few weeks after the breakup.
If you’ve ever dumped a girl, then you probably know exactly what I’m talking about.
Remember: at some point, your ex girlfriend had strong romantic feelings for you — and
those feelings took time to develop and mature.
They’re not going away overnight, and she simply can’t erase all the happy and loving
memories she has of the time you two spent together.
That’s a huge advantage that can help you win her back, if you play your cards right.
So, that’s the good news.
Now, let’s move on to another topic…
interpreting your ex’s mixed messages.
What your ex girlfriend says and does in the weeks following your breakup will reveal several
clues about her feelings and will dictate how you go about trying to win her back.
Each of the following signals can be used to gauge your ex girlfriend’s feelings:
She Maintains Contact: If your ex girlfriend contacts you for any reason in the first few
weeks after a breakup, it’s almost certainly because she misses you and wants to numb her
heartbreak by reaching out to the man she still loves deep down.
The more she contacts you — even if it’s about seemingly irrelevant things, like when
she can come and pick up her clothes from your house — the more confident you can
be that she’s struggling to deal with the breakup.
She Still Wants To Hook Up: If she still wants to get into your pants after you’ve broken
up, that’s usually a good sign… depending on your situation, it may or may not be a
good thing to agree to a “friends with benefits” arrangement with your ex, but it’s usually
a positive indication that she isn’t over you.
She Tries To Be “Friends”: Similar to the point above, if your ex girlfriend says
that she wants to be friends and actively tries to hang out with you as a “friend,”
it’s a clear signal she’s still interested in being with you.
DO NOT -- I repeat, DO NOT -- agree to be friends with your ex.
I’ve got another video on this topic, and it’s covered extensively in my Ex Factor
program, but you really don’t want to be friends with her, at least not if you’re
interested in getting back together with her.
She Remains Angry or Upset: If your ex girlfriend was mad or upset about something when she
broke up with you, and then she remains angry or upset for days and weeks after the breakup,
it’s actually a good sign because it indicates that she still cares.
Obviously this doesn’t apply if you cheated on her or you were a huge asshole during the
last stages of the relationship, but generally speaking, if your ex is upset at you after
the breakup, it’s because she still cares about you and your relationship.
She Brings Up Memories & Seems Emotional: If your ex girlfriend seems nostalgic or brings
up happy memories about your relationship together (or potentially even negative ones)
it means that she’s still actively thinking about her time with you and isn’t ready
to let go of those emotions.
Now, just because your ex doesn’t display one of the above signs doesn’t mean that
all hope is lost…
it just means that she may either be further along in the process of moving on and getting
over you, or she’s trying hard not to give in to her feelings and emotions because she
wants to go through with her decision to break up with you.
Either way, you’re still in good shape and can win her back if you play your cards correctly.
At this point, you may be wondering why -- if your ex is sending you these strong signals
that indicate she’s not over you -- doesn’t she just suggest the two of you get back together
and give things another shot?
There are several explanations, but the most important is that she’s probably got a support
network feeding her encouragement and ensuring that she doesn’t back down on her decision
to break up with you.
Even if your ex girlfriend’s friends and family loved you to death, they’ll be feeding
your ex encouragement and telling her to stay committed to her decision to break up with
you.
They’ll want to support her decision, regardless of how much they may have liked you and thought
you were a good match.
These voices of encouragement can be a difficult factor to overcome…
your ex girlfriend, like most women, is probably heavily influenced by the opinions of her
friends and family.
To get past these defense mechanisms, you need to say certain things and use certain
psychological tactics that she can’t possibly ignore or resist.
This kind of thing is the bread and butter of my Ex Factor Guide program, and in it I
explain how to use some of these sneaky tactics to tap into her emotions and overpower the
logical side of her brain.
For more on how to do this, watch the video on my website… the URL is BreakupBrad.com,
so head over there after you finish watching this video and you’ll learn more about using
psychology to change her mind about the breakup.
Another reason your ex girlfriend is resisting the urge to get back together is because she
still has a negative image of you in the back of her mind, despite all the signals she may
be sending that she still loves you.
That means her “logical, reasoned” side is saying “don’t get back together with
this loser!”
even when her emotional side wants nothing more than to beg for you to come running back
into her arms.
Again, if you’ve been on the opposite side of things in the past when you dumped an ex
girlfriend, then you probably know this feeling all too well.
The question is, though….
how do you shift this image she has of you?
By subtly portraying yourself as a high-value, alpha male type guy… you need to make her
believe that the breakup was a mistake, and that she was a fool to ever let you walk out
of her life.
This is what I call my “Alpha Attraction” framework, and its all about slowly changing
the way your ex sees you and allowing her emotions to adjust her feelings about the
relationship and your future together.
OK, we’re almost out of time here in this video, but there’s one more thing you need
to know... and that’s that your ex is just as confused and lost as you are.
As I’m sure you’ve already found out, women can be extremely confusing and prone
to sending “hot and cold” mixed messages…. figuring out what’s going on in her mind
can be like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube.
But always try to remember that the confusing, mixed and often conflicting messages she’s
sending you are a result of her own internal conflicts.
Your ex girlfriend doesn’t know for sure whether she wants you back in her life, nor
does she know if she’s still in love with you enough to revive the relationship, and
her signals and emotions may reflect this confusion and indecision that’s going on
in the back of her mind.
No matter what signals she sends, just remember that you need to carefully read and interpret
these signals and adjust your strategy appropriately.
If you’re not clear on how to handle a specific situation that you’re facing with your ex
girlfriend, then you may be interested in my personal coaching service…
I’m only able to help a limited number of clients at any given time, but you can see
my availability and learn more about my breakup coaching at BreakupBrad.com/Coaching.
I’ll put that URL in the description below this video.
Hope you learned something new, thanks for watching…
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Best of luck... see you next time!