the secret to success is doing a lot of
little things consistently over a long
period of time like people see the
headline the 50 yeah but they don't
realize there was a decade that went
into that it's easy to to embrace
hopelessness when things seem
insurmountable
and yet it's is it's actually just a
matter of time until all the elements
come together for things to be all right
I mean I believe that you know most
difficult situations will resolve
themselves if you are persistent and if
you don't if you don't give up entirely
and that's what I never did I never gave
up one of the things I've been telling
myself and also thinking about a lot is
apart from the fact of learning which
we'll go into is just that space I'm
actually understanding that there may be
a different route see we get so attached
to having one route one method one way
of working we believe that there's only
one pathway to where we want to be
there's this conveyor belt of things we
have to do whether it's you know get a
degree find a partner buy a house you
know play golf whatever it is like this
conveyor belt of efficiency and
productivity that we hear that becomes a
part of our natural progression and when
that breaks apart that's when we start
to worry that's when we start to think
but notice that then actually it's a lot
better when that happens earlier in life
see regret has some really important
roles the first one is that it helps us
make sense of the world from our
perspective for one of the first time
see most of us have spent our lives
learning what's important to us based on
maybe what families or what communities
- or parents taught or education or
whatever it is when you start growing
something new thing you did something
wrong when you start thinking that I
could have done something differently
you're making sense of the world from
your perspective it's crazy how powerful
this is right you're starting to make
sense of the world from your perspective
the second thing is it allows you to
avoid future negative behavior if you
you regretted something why don't you
write it down right now right if you
regrets me write it down right now
because it'll teach you so much in the
future you've got to write down the
lesson you learn now otherwise next time
when you think you're making another
tough decision you're gonna say to
yourself what did i do lost them how did
I not make myself regret that and then
you're gonna be upset you're gonna
regret that you didn't write it down
so write it down right now I always felt
like an outsider because I knew of
people you know that were in the
industry I just didn't know how to get
into it
and I remember going to cast different
agents when I was 9 or 10 years old
I was rejected twice I remember there
was like this sort of cattle call of
kids and I lined up it was like a prison
and I had um I had this crazy
breakdancing haircut and when I was
breakdancing and I kind of dressed in
hip-hop clothing and they remember they
went yes yes when Timmy went nope yes
yes no and that was it so I got rejected
a couple times and then I just kept
asking and asking and asking I remember
my dad saying just stick with it someday
you'll have your day and and then I came
back I think two years later and finally
got an agent I think failure is the
highway to success and I know that
sounds like a platitude but what I try
to do in all of my books in my
presentations and my tweets and is them
you cannot get to the mountaintop
without taking a few missteps and so a
business that wants to win you have to
out fail your competition and as human
beings you know failure is not a bad
thing you know ask yourself what's the
opportunity from the failure and getting
in the game because when you get to the
last hour of your last day it will not
be the failures you regret it'll be all
the risks you didn't take if we could
celebrate every breath we take
because nothing's a guarantee so could
celebrate the breath the exhale just
being live without you know my car won't
start
oh jeez you know the cat drop dead hey I
think I'm in the bottom hey there are
things that are very very important in
life that we we just we don't think you
know and then one of the most worrisome
things that I went through for years is
it freaked it freaked out about your
past you worried you're scared to death
of the future that's all you're thinking
about but then now doesn't exist and I
think that's a grave mistake that we
make no matter what type of
circumstances that you have been raised
in or have experienced you always have
the ability to find a way out and create
success for yourself and I had to do
that in my own life my childhood was
very rough um I grew up in South Central
Los Angeles I was a person who was in a
single-family home it was my mother took
care of four of us by herself and she
struggled and we were on welfare we
didn't have money and sometimes we
didn't have food to eat and we didn't
know any different but what the
difference was was when we would go pass
at the time it was USC was close by us
and I'd see all the college students go
towards the campus and I thought to
myself where are they going
what are you doing why they look
different than the rest of people that
are in the the group in and that always
kept in the back of my head and our
mother said whatever you do in order to
change your circumstance you're gonna
have to get an education
and so I kept that in the back of my
head no matter what I had to educate
myself I had to get a degree the people
that I saw going to the school down the
street that's something I could do and I
had that vision and it it through a
series of circumstances it was very
when you are expected to succeed by your
mentors or parents or teachers when
there is an expectation on your life to
do well at an early age you adopted you
address it you adhere to it you create
it but if you are never given that
opportunity to know what you are capable
of doing if you are never given that
that word that encouragement meses do
you know what you can be good at
mathematics even though you feel algebra
and geometry and calculus and chemistry
which I did you can actually do well in
mathematics if if there's not someone
showing you your worth when you can't
see it you'll forever be looking in the
mirror thinking that you are not worth
what you are and for me every single
time I went to print at school across
town it was like around to two powers
who were in from where I was every time
I would come back it was like a wake-up
call I would go to this school that was
like in a predominantly well-off area
and everyone had books and and paper and
really nice shoes we were looking at
this thinking oh I don't have any of
that and every time I would come back
into my neighborhood I would see the
graffiti and I'd see the the trash and I
thought to myself what makes a
difference why are there people here in
this situation versus here in this
situation and every single day out come
back and it came down to this
it was the thinking how we think how we
look at situations whether or not we see
ourselves doing well and being
successful or versus if we see ourselves
as a not successful person in an
environment our thinking defines our
life and when we can take hold of our
thought and see it for what it is and
change it and transform it and change it
to convert it into an energy that Alicia
is a brain power that allows us to
change a situation that my friend is how
we change our lives and that's how we
change everyone else a great life is
less about doing one brave act on a
beautiful Sunday afternoon it's more
about what you do every single day right
your days are your life and miniature
take care of each day and a great life
will take care of itself so if you were
to achieve five little wins every single
day at the end of thirty days
that's 150 little wins at the end of one
year it's eighteen hundred and fifty
little wins so the daily five is another
tool to help you do
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