Alright so you're back in your hometown to celebrate Thanksgiving with your
family.
And your mom asks you to go to the store to pick up the ingredients she needs for
her to make the green bean casserole...
which by the way is definitely staple have any respectable
Thanksgiving cosine. You get to the grocery store you're about to check out of the
corner of your eye, you see that high school classmate
just don't want to talk to you. What's the best way to handle the situation?
I'm Barron Cruz and this is The Charisma Matrix (Swoosh sound)
So now you've done it, you found yourself the dreaded situation that nobody wants
to be in,
but everyone fears when they go home to their hometown. Your stuck in a conversation with
someone you don't necessarily want to be in it with.
So what do you do? I'm gonna teach you how to apply, E.B.O.B
to both make yourself look good, to feel good
and also to minimize the interaction time which is really what the goal of
all this is
So the first thing you wanna do is component, E. which is
energy so you're gonna come with a lot of energy your project a lot of nice
strong presence in
surely you actually all are happy to see them whether that's kinda not
necessarily 100 percent true
so be it make yourself feel good around them built the lead love you more
up be interaction if you approach
in you give off for even a second that it's a bomber the year and in 2010
hey Jason how are your then no matter what you do from there
it's gonna be a bomber interaction both people gonna feel bad you remember that
person is is
home now remember why they like them in high school and it's just gonna be bad
on all fronts
sure portraits energy you can approach showing you excited to see them
what this is going to do with that interaction off on the right foot the
second step is be
and that's brought you're not gonna ask specific questions like oh yeah oh yea I
saw that you are you have two kids were great at the end now
we want to stay away from back my stay away from details this conversation that
is gonna bogs down
and try to string the conversation out so broad question might happen
hey Jason to see a man are you then and the he is most likely gonna keep it with
a very broad answer which is what we want
say a good pair nagger to see how you Ben is a good
then you're gonna go to Step all which is
overly familiar so we're gonna ask a question
that assumes more poor then we probably have something we haven't seen in 10
years
and this is gonna allow us to feel like we covered a broader spectrum
in the conversation that we actually did so we're trying to keep the short
but we want to hit a whole range a whole spectrum a conversational tactics to
make it seem like we actually caught up a little bit CC your classmate
start with the no hesitation
good energy AJS a long time and I you then he keeps abroad this is our number
well very good to see how are you
say goodnight he stepped 2006 what are you up to this weekend any plans
sorry I'm just having some people over barbecue prior washable
football you come in with the same kind a broader spot all very cool yeah I'm
just back to %uh spend a little time with my family for Thanksgiving
and in that statement you're gonna and yours with the report breaking Tony
indicating the conversation is almost any I was back spending time with my
family for Thanksgiving
that sets the stage for the Socialists to da pick up on that
if not this time might get a little feel the conversation is about to end
then you're gonna throw in a time constraint a valid reason why the
conversation
if they feel it's a little bit short should be ending so you gonna say yeah I
just came on this panel time with my family for Thanksgiving
I gotta get his role back to a right now but a very good catch up with you may
get to see a
and that is a way that you're gonna be able to wrap this up
with to kinda like techniques that otherwise may be
you may be a drawn into to stay in conversational are you want those two
techniques are
drop in totality at the end of your statement and a time constraint
what that's going to do is that gonna alleviate any concerns are being rude
a backing out kids are subconsciously gonna set it up with to them
you gonna set them up so consciously by lowering that analogy
he also giving a valid reason you can't hang out and talk the whole time
see if you don't use these you're by yourself
either coming off as rude or just being held a conversation that neither one of
you wanna be n
but by using this EB 0 be in by the way the last be is breaking out what your
gonna do after you get a time constraint
is you're able to have a good interaction as opposed to one that you
don't really want to be in a Jason
good to see a man no you know it's gonna be short
so you're able to go on was a nice energy make both if you can name it was
all better guy in high school I thought
and you're gonna be able to know that you can wrap it up when you want it by
using these two techniques
lower tonality at the end of your statement and then a time constraint
so hopefully now you can feel a little bit better about going home for the next
holiday your hometown to celebrate
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