Oh, my God!
It is 21:35
I'm going to bed.
This is the earliest I've gone to bed in the whole four months of quarantine
because tomorrow
I'm on a date
with myself.
I know.
I see how this could be tragic.
There's no disappointments. There's no expectations.
Who knows me better than me?
And maybe, on behalf of all of us who are single,
you come and stay with me.
This is our date.
Yes, it's my date, but it's also our date
Good night.
So it is
04:34 A.M.
My god. I'm crying.
The best part about having curly hair, your bed head is just your hair.
The road is empty
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There is something so special about the morning
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What! wow!
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Down on day 2. Finding local adventures with yourself
This is so underated.
Come on!
This is going to be my spot.
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Okay, look how happy I am.
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It's nice
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How is sunrises free?
Oh my God.
Whoever taught us growing up
that you need to be with someone else inorder to be happy is a liar.
And it's just sad and alone.
Cause, let me tell you, you can be alone and not be sad.
You can be alone and not be lonely.
You can be single and you can be very happy.
You can be in a relationship and you can be really happy.
It's just whatever you want to do
it's not dependent on the other person. It's dependent on you.
If another person makes you happy, amazing!
But your happiness should not be reliant on someone else breath.
The fact I can sit here on my own little adventure
I feel so content.
I seriously think one day I'm going to be that...
I mean, be that hippie girl who like lives in a van or something.
I don't know. I love being in nature.
I just...
This is it for me. I love it.
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Wow! I'm reading about midlife crisis.
I'm not 50 yet, but it sounds interesting.
Is there a such thing as a 20-year old crisis?,
I agree. There are times where I feel so rubbish.
I try and mask that rubbishness
in wishing I was abroad or wishing I was with certain people.
At the end of the day, it doesn't take that much for you to feel content.
You can feel content anywhere.
Mindfulness is so underrated.
If you feel some kind of lack as to why you need some fancy clothes,
that lack is not going to go away when you buy some clothes.
It's just going to stay there and you'll want more.
Sunrises are clarifying experiences. I recommend waking up for them.
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Okay. So this book is pretty fascinating.
I'm just doing this whole section about changing you.
Breaking the habit of being yourself as you know yourself to be right now.
I don't know. Maybe the one who's insecure, the one who gets angry on necessarily,
the one who is attached to material goods, whatever it is you want to self-improve,
Let me read you a passage. Okay.
Most people focus on three things in life.
Their environment, their bodies and time.
They don't just focus on those three elements, they think equal to them.
But to break the habit of being yourself,
Current neuroscientific theory
tells us that the brain is organized to reflect everything
we know in our environment. All the information we've been exposed to
throughout our lives in the form of knowledge and experiences is stored in the
brain synaptic connections.
As the environment causes us to think day to day, familiar networks of nerve cells
fire that reflect previous experiences
already wired in the brain.
If your thoughts determine your reality, which in many ways they do,
because if you think your thoughts will also impact how you feel, your thoughts
can change your actions, your thoughts literally therefore do change your
life based off of how you have them.
You may not think that your environment and your thoughts are that rigidly
similar and that your realities so easily can be reproduced.
But when you consider that your brain is a complete record of your past,
and your mind is the product of your consciousness,
in one sense, you might always be thinking in the past.
By responding with the same brain hardware that matches what you remember,
you're creating a level of mind that is identical to the past because your brain
is automatically firing existing circuits to reflect everything you already know,
have experienced and thus can predict. Your past is your present,
which is now becoming your future.
In time, you begin to think in the box because your brain will fire a finite
set of sockets that then create a very specific mental signature.
The signature is called your personality.
And because how we think, feel and behave is in essence, our personality,
it isour personality that creates our personal reality.
So to create a new personal reality, a new life, we must create a new personality.
We must become something else.
To a lot of you, that probably makes no sense.
But I think this is getting into what the law of attraction is.
The law of attraction speaks to the fact that what you think and the way you were
thinking about it, regardless of what your reality and your environment look
like, does shape how your reality goes.
Let's dive into that. That sounds a bit, well, I don't know.
Every single day you wake up and you're complaining,
and you're sad, and you're negative,
and trust me, I know when I say these things,
I can feel people being like,"It's so easy for you to say.
You're just sat by a lake, Jade."
I do live a very privileged life compared to a lot of people, but it does not
change the fact that regardless of your environment, the way you shape
your thoughts is doing something to the way that you are acting.
If you're complaining every day, but
you don't try and shift your mind into where you actually want to be,
it's like, you can't expect an actionable, happy, new reality if
you don't change your thoughts to remember that actionable, happy reality.
If you absolutely got into the mindset of the person you wanted to be
externally too,
You might not be rich. You might not live where you want to live.
You might not have the friends that you want to have in real life.
But if you act like you do,
Imagine, you act like you already have all the friends that you want
and the type of friends you want, you act like you are that good friend.
You will attract those like-minded people.
It starts from here.
If you keep saying to yourself, I have no friends. I have no friends.
I have no friends.
Well, you're not trying to move towards the you that has good friends
if that makes sense. Don't focus on all the people. Who cares about other people.
Focus on you. Bring yourself to feel as content as you would, having all, all
the abundance and friends in the world.
Again, I can feel the, "Oh my God, she's so privileged. What is this?"
But there are things in my life that you guys don't know.
Obviously, I'm not going to tell you the deepest and darkest,
family, things of the past.
People ask how I stay so positive and it's... I don't know.
It's practice. It's a choice.
When things go wrong, you just choose to be optimistic.
It's not always easy. You just do it.
Okay. I'm going to eat this up sooner.
They're on a cute date too.
Hii.
Okay, because actually, no, one's here and I can do what I like,
I'm going to sing a song.
If I could have brought my ukulele, I would have.
I'm going to say Genesis by Daniella Andrade.
If this is apocalypse Then first there was a genesis
I think I'll let myself exist.
Under this bloody moon
But first I gotta let go of the things I tried to be.
First I gotta let go of these fakers next to me.
First I gotta give up everything I can't control.
Get that moderation
in my system and move on to the next
move on to the next
On to the next
Maybe I don't know what's up
Maybe I am mostly wrong
But one thing that I know for sure
Is everywhere I go I grow.
Knowing me it takes some time.
Diamonds are a little shy.
One thing I na na na na...
na na na na
But first I gotta let go of the things I tried to be.
First I gotta let go of these fakers next to me
First I gotta give up everything I can't control.
Get that moderation in my system and move on to the next.
Awesome!
I'm not trying to be an UnJaded. singer. Singing just feels very liberating.
Flying fish
I don't think I've ever seen these in real life. They're just flying.
Woow! They are just so cool.
In your mind, What do you think of as success?
What is a successful lifestyle?
Because the more I think about it, society makes me think,
Okay, success is like big corporate job, working
all the time, amazing paycheck,
But not that much free time to come and watch sunrises and just chill with family.
And more and more, I'm just thinking is success having just enough,
like enough money to live your life, to do simple, meaningful, good things.
For example, now, instead of paying for some
Sunrise cruise around the Mediterranean,
I feel like I would get just as much joy from wake-up sunrises, cycling for ages.
to get to this lake kind of near my house.
It just makes me think like in the future, instead of chasing reputation,
career title, sound fancy work 24/7
why am I not chasing a career that will just make me happy day today?
And then I have just time and I can just do what I like.
Isn't that what everyone wants to do at retirement and stuff?
It makes me just want autonomy.
It makes me just want to work for myself.
Put out something good, put out good creative stuff in the world
and then the rest of my time, just enjoy it.
Too bad I'm a workaholic.
It's now nearly 8:00 AM, which means I've been awake like three and a half hours.
I really miss waking up this early.
I'm going to pack up.
I'm going to head home.
And I just feel inspired. I feel good.
I hope you feel good too.
Also, if you can't remember the last time you saw sunrise, this is me
begging you to wake up for one because that right there is magic and you're just
missing it without even knowing.
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Thanks for coming. Go also with yourself on a date.