(soothing music in the background)
So there's a lot of good things going on in my life right now. Or, a lot of potentially good things,
things that may not turn out the way that I'm hoping for. But,
You know, fingers crossed
That's not what we're talking about today. Today, we are talking about something that I've been experiencing
for the last few months. And that is negative self-talk and although I don't know exactly
why or when it started, I do have a pretty good idea.
But, we will get to that. And I wasn't the one who actually pointed it out to myself,
it was actually my sister who told me that
I tend to speak negatively about myself.
And
That made me reflect on
that. And I realized that I do.
The reason I even want to make this video because it is kind of out of my comfort zone,
not just this video concept where I haven't prepared any notes. I just kind of sat down
ten minutes ago and decided that I wanted to film this video.
It's because, A. I want to get this off my chest and B. I asked you guys
on Instagram, what is your experience with negative self-talk?
And, oh boy, I got so many messages.
People sharing their experience and their stories. And I thought that this might be helpful for other people to know
that they're not alone, and that we are going through this kind of together, you know,
although everyone's stories and situation is of course, very different.
It's nice to know that you're not alone. So why not use this platform
for something good. It started a few months ago. And this is something that I realized afterwards obviously.
I don't know exactly when,
probably
March or April? I mean who really keeps track of anything this year. It started gradually.
Obviously, it wasn't something that happened overnight and mind you. I'm not someone who tends to talk badly about myself
at all.
Don't you hate when people bring tea and then they don't even take a sip?
So, I'm trying to figure out the why. Why am I suddenly talking negatively about myself? and this has been
the interesting part trying to figure out. I think for me, I've
been surrounding myself with negative energy lately,
and
that energy has
affected me, so that I've
not only seen
my surroundings and
kind of the world negatively, but it's also resulted in me seeing myself
negatively. And
that wasn't something that I realized until I was out of that situation and so
What does this negative
self-talk look like?
And this is going to be different for everyone.
I think for some people it's their looks for some people it's their skills and abilities and
for some people it's their relationships. For me, it's mostly been my
abilities
like,
everything from telling myself
you know, if I'm going to cook something and I'll tell myself,
I was probably not gonna taste good. Or, if I need to fix something around the house and i'm gonna be like
I'm probably not gonna know how to fix it or if I'm gonna post something and telling myself, it's not gonna be good enough.
I mean, that's something that I've kind of always struggled with, just because I tend to be pretty self-critical. But this isn't being self-critical.
This is like a voice in your head. Just telling you, nagging on you
all day, throughout the day
regardless of what it is that you're doing everything from simple tasks to
you know, bigger things that's
just not gonna work out and you're just not gonna be
doing it good enough and
you're wasting your time. It can be like folding my laundry and I'll tell myself that
I just fold clothes so ugly,
you know, it's so stupid, really, but yeah, everything from smaller things to the bigger things
And by the way, this is not a sad video at all.
I actually find these sort of things to be
really interesting, because I kind of see it as an experiment like oh, this is something new, I haven't experienced it before
Where did that come from? And how can I make that go away? So, I see it as
a challenge in a way. Okay. So what am I doing to cope with this voice?
So, I've read somewhere, that if you have a negative voice inside your head, it's good to give that voice a name.
You can call yours, whatever you want. It doesn't have to be human, it can be horse,
it can be a pillow, it can be an ant
It's up to you. Mine is,
Magda Trash
She's kind of like, this very very jealous friend and I'm separating her from myself. It kind of takes
the power out of it
Instead of feeling like, she is me this makes it feel like she is not
She's just someone who
has trespassed my property and now just refuses to leave and it does go beyond just naming this voice inside your head
I think even more importantly at least to me, it's been trying to
track
The story of this voice so, when I let her in? Why did I let her in? what has been
the circumstances during that time and
Can I recall a time when she wasn't present? And what did my life look like at that time?
What was different? What has changed? In backtracking Magda Trash story,
like I said,
I realized that she was conceived during a time when I was in a situation that was feeding me
negativity
even though I did not realize it at the time and
realizing that has helped me
to understand how I got in that situation? Why I was blind in that situation? And, how I can to my best ability
avoid getting into that
situation again?
And now I know a lot of people have been experiencing negative self-talk
for a very long time for what can feel like forever to where they can't even remember a time
when
that negative voice inside your head wasn't present. And I do really want to encourage if this is something that is
seriously affecting your mental health, if this is something that you are going through,
please don't be alone in it. At the very least, speak to someone that you trust,
and, talk to a professional if you feel like you're not getting the help that you need.
Usually when i make videos,
i share an experience that I've already been through, the lessons that I've learned. And it's usually something that's from the past
This is different, because this is something that I'm currently going through. It's something that we are
experiencing together, or at least I'm experiencing. And for that reason, I was very hesitant to make this video because I thought to myself,
is this even going to bring any value? because clearly I don't have
much of lesson to share, because it's something that I'm currently going through myself. But then, I thought to myself, you know,
not everything has to be a lesson
Sometimes,
we don't really even want advice
we just want to feel like, we're not alone and that other people are experiencing what we are experiencing and then we just kind of
go through together, and I think that can be just as
helpful and
Important and comforting as just someone giving you advice.
This is obviously a new concept. I never just sit down and have a conversation like this, very unprepared,
I'm just freestyling here. But, I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone more.
If you like this concept, obviously,
I will find out and if you do, we will continue making these little chit-chats
videos where I bring in some tea and barely even drink from it
And I think I would like that. And maybe we should have a name for it then.
I don't know. What should we call these little talks. If you have any suggestions just write them down in the comment section and,
who knows? Maybe we will make these videos a little regular
current update thing on life.
Thank you so much for watching! Share in the comment section
anything that you are currently going through, related or unrelated to this topic. I will see you next week