This video is about "Reasons to Stop Dating for a While" Stick around to the end of this video
as I will give acceptable reasons for you to stop dating for a while. Welcome to The SCG Show! The SCG
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Before I begin let me make a disclaimer = These are going to be reasons to stop dating for a period
of time never entirely. For whatever reason and for whatever circumstance that you're
single try and recognize this for a short while just a few weeks, months, maximum two odd years
Never forever you should never give up on dating entirely. A woman split with her boyfriend in
her early twenties... she was heartbroken it was her first love and first serious relationship
"I'm gonna stop dating for a while I'm just not ready" she said this at 25. Fast forward to her
30th and she hardly dated at all, the odd date here and then... she focused on her career, going out and
other things "I'm going to stop dating for a while i'm not ready..." she said at her 30th. As the years
passed, her friends got married, started having families... she decided to put herself out there
again for only a handful of dates sporadically... "I'm going to stop dating again... i'm not ready"
she said at age 37. Now in her mid-40s she regrets the fact that she never took dating seriously
She's had 20 odd years to date, instead she put it off entirely and is now desperate to find a good
guy to have a relationship with, as she rushes in making up for such lost time. Men could do this as
well they can fear getting rejected or they lack confidence and as a result life passes them by
not to mention many potentially eligible women who would have made them happy and
would have dated them. I need you to truly understand this video is to never give up
on dating or to never date again or keep putting it off or prolong it for years
because if you do that you're going to regret doing so. Instead let's focus on the now, this
short while... this short break... Here are reasons to stop dating for a while!
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If you're emotionally unavailable you need to stop dating for a while
When we say someone's emotionally unavailable, we mean they are not comfortable feeling their
own emotions... sharing emotions with others or being present and responsive to someone else's emotions
This potentially can be a very dangerous move, as unfortunately we often can see dating as a
good way to get back in touch with our emotions... if you were to approach dating with a positive
confident, assertive approach... you'd have more success and a better chance of finding a good
match. If you were to be uncomfortable, awkward, depressed, negative you'd have more frustration
problems and you wouldn't find anyone. In 2020 I lost my dad at the age of 62. it was the height
of the pandemic, lockdowns and I had only a few months later come out of a toxic relationship
I isolated alone... I was completely alone grieving alone and desperate for affection. I signed up
to dating apps thinking i'd find a nice woman to date and it would be the perfect distraction for
the pain and trauma. It didn't work. It failed awfully. I got matches, numbers, phone calls but I
was emotionally unavailable... my dad's death was too raw, too soon, too tragic.... my heart wasn't in it my
head was all over the place. The world was locked down, there were rules, restrictions... it was a mess
The right thing to do and what I should have done was taken a break. As badly as I wanted to have a
nice woman in my life, I knew I had to instead just take time to focus on my mental health
Yes it was difficult, lonely, tragic and sad it was worth it in the end. A year or so later
I started dating again and had a relationship after clearing my head
and heart and finally becoming more emotionally available... if you are indeed feeling the same
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If society is pressuring you to date and you're truly not ready or want to move at your own pace
take a break! I know I used the extreme example of a woman that put off dating until her 40s but
remember this video is about taking a break not giving up on dating! George was so desperate for
his family's approval that he just wanted to get married and have kids, but he lacked confidence and
he attracted always the wrong type of women. After a string of bad relationships, his parents sat
him down and said "you're 35 George! You should be married with kids right now... why aren't you married?!"
Embarrassed by the toxic shame given to him by his family, he immediately rang up an old ex he was
seeing... he never really liked her to begin with or had time with her... he always found her to be
nice but never the one. She too was single, around 35 and they agreed "come on let's give it a go!"
She actually agreed considering, she was lacking any real alternative and they just started dating
A year later they got married, then they had kids and then a year after that they got divorced
because they were never a good match to begin with and were both pressured into a relationship! "I felt
this overwhelming pressure to settle down for almost anyone to please my parents and so I did
And where did that get me? Broke, divorced and living back with my parents... as I
try to piece my life back together!" said George. What if he took time to
find a good match instead of settling? What if he did work on himself to build up his confidence?
What if he went against the pressure and decided to find a woman that made him happy?
How would george's life had turned out? Instead well probably far better than caving into and
accepting the pressure... Take your time... not too long figure out exactly what you want that way you'll
have a better chance finding someone healthier for you and long-standing... especially if you are being pressured
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videos! It really is sad when you go on a date and have absolutely no idea what you want from dating
overall...It's got nothing to do with indecisiveness... it's nothing to do with being picky... nothing to do
with being influenced by others... it's straight up confusion... nothing more and certainly nothing less
In late 2021 I split with my girlfriend of several months and found myself single during those later
months of the year. I was distracted with work other issues and I was trying to buy a home
I had a lot on my mind ... I was going through major changes and transitions... I persisted with dating
I still got numbers and gave it a good go, but I truthfully and honestly had no idea what I was
looking for at the time. Some women picked up on that quickly and called me out on it.. they'd say
"you told me you want something casual but here you are acting like you want something serious...."
or they'd say "you said you wanted a relationship why are you acting casual with me..." Honestly I was
confused I had no idea at the time what I wanted. I had no idea what I was doing. I also had no idea
how to think. I took a short break from dating to focus on completing on buying my new place
sorting out business affairs and figuring out what I wanted. I'm a relationship guy, having
a girlfriend suits my life better than something casual. So I set out in 2022 when I was ready
to pursue something meaningful. I was clear with what I wanted and I would keep searching until
I had found it which luckily and eventually I actually did and there was no doubt, confusion
about it at that time. I was clearer there was not much stress of moving out, no more
work issues and stuff it was clear. It will not serve you well in dating or approaching dating
if you're confused... you need to have a clear idea of what you want... not with unrealistic standards
but do you want casual? Go for casual! You want to date someone serious? Date somebody serious!
Dating and especially online dating can be a chance to present yourself however you like. You
could be someone you're not hence a catfish... you can give social proof to be like you're rich when
you're not... you can really filter and edit your photos, exaggerate your height, age, interest and
what you're looking for. I remember going on a date with a woman who had a completely different image
of me following our phone calls & texts. I came across cocky, forward and flirty over texts.... when
she met me in person, I couldn't keep up the act any further. I was a man who was polite, sincere
and quite gentlemanlike. "Wow" she said "I didn't expect you to be like this.... you're actually
listening to what I have to say" and she was turned off by me. She said she was addicted to drama
and I never saw her again after that. I vowed to just unapologetically be myself offline and online
I'm SCG , I'm nerdy, I'm very forward, family orientated, I have wants, I have needs
I'm looking for something serious and meaningful take it or leave it... as simple as that... Since
approaching dating that way it was no surprise that I got into a relationship with a good woman
Be yourself but also the best version of yourself! I invested in new clothes, a new style, new haircut
personal development and it's paid off. Don't just give up and put yourself out there but remember
to be yourself and own it. The right person will love you for it and never date unless you're ready
to be yourself and own who you are rather than a caricature or a fake version of who you are