One of the traits of notice from hang around with millionaires as well as a billionaire is that they're all able to self control themselves and stay incredibly disciplined in whatever they do.
So, I’ve noticed over the years that discipline is one of the biggest keys to success.
It’s a habit you will see and the trait you will see amongst incredibly successful people out there.
So in this video I wanted to tell you the three things that you can do to stay more disciplined in your life.
Now, I just want to mention because nowadays everybody's giving this sort of advice.
This is actually coming from personal experience.
A lot of you guys know, when I was hanging around gangs eight years ago you know, you can be assured I was far from disciplined.
You know, I smoked a lot of weeds took a lot of other drugs and you know an alarm clock was literally non-existent.
So I know what it's like to procrastinate. I know what it's like to feel depressed, not wanting to do anything.
Then I managed to get out of that rut and it's basically using these three traits that allowed me to do that.
So if you actually take action on what I’m going to say to today, I can assure you you're going to start getting results,
because I truly believe it’s all about learning from people who have actually been at where you used to be and actually managed to get themselves out.
Not so much just, “I read a book and here you go.”
So this actually comes from personal experience and trust me, once you're more disciplined in your life
you actually start living more the fulfilled life because discipline allows you to have more freedom in your life.
So let's start by mentioning what discipline is. All discipline is, is the ability to self-control your primitive base desires.
If you look at any negative habits such as snoozing the alarm clock, such as not wanting to venture out and you know do wild stuff right?
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If you look at it from a primitive base desire point-of-view whereby we are designed to survive and replicate
, guess what? Guess what? It’s normal. Who wouldn't want to lay in bed?
Who wouldn't want to you know play it safe?
Who wouldn't want to just know exactly what they're doing every single day and not feel confused right?
It's a primitive base desire. We are designed to survive.
So if people who give in to that will often they just are giving into it because they don't know otherwise right?
They’re just playing in accordance to what they know. But I know you watching this video, you're not one of them.
You are not average because this is behavior of average people.
Because average people don't know how to control their mind, and they don't have this knowledge
available to them to realize the reason why they hit the snooze button, the reason why they're procrastinating
on doing something big it's because it's just us. It's us as a human being, its natural.
Every one of us, even striving to be successful, are aware of the fact that our mind is going to push us the other way.
Our mind wants us to hit the snooze button. Our mind wants to push the work aside and let us rest.
There's the people who are able to self control themselves, they're the one who make it big.
So,… here are the three points that will allow you change your life if you force it on yourself.
The first thing I did eight years ago was to change my identity. And the biggest reason for that is because your behavior will never deviate from the internal mapping.
In another words as Tony Robbins would say “the strongest force in human psychology
is the need to remain congruent with how you identify yourself.”
So how you view yourself right now, guess what? You're going to act in accordance to exactly that.
If you view yourself as a procrastinator, guess what? You’re going to procrastinate.
If you view yourself as some lazy ass, you're going to be one lazy ass. However,
if you view yourself as a productive entrepreneur, guess what you going to be? That's right,
, a productive entrepreneur and this to yourself might seem bit fake right now but guys you have to realize that your goals right,
, the purpose of a goal is not to achieve the goal.
The purpose of our goal is to see who you must become in order to achieve that goal.
Think about it, every goal is going to shape you into the person you're going to be. Every goal is going to change you positively.
Think about that. Think about the goals you've achieved in the past. Did it change you?
Of course. If you set yourself a fitness goal you realize not only did you get like the body you wanted,
but your mind shifted. So every girl is going to change you and the question is, who are you right now, without your name?
What labels have you enforced on yourself? What's ticket notes must you just take off and just…
notice the fact that I say stick it notes. Your identity is literally like stick it notes.
Procrastination boom, front of the bin. Laziness boom, front of the bin. And attach the ones you want,
and basically affirm that every single morning. Who are you? Well I’m a fearless entrepreneur who eats uncertainty for breakfast, boom.
If I keep saying that to myself guess what?
I’m going to be one fearless entrepreneur and that's exactly what I did eight years ago.
I changed how I viewed myself because back then, I used to view myself as a stoner, lazy ass, and violent.
And my, a lot of you guys know my knuckle still remains broken to this day.
I view myself as just basically a guy, shy, so anxious, and I was just acting in accordance to that.
So you have to realize that you'll never deviate from the internal mapping, therefore you must change the internal mapping.
You must change how you view yourself in order to stay more self-disciplined.
So decide who you must become in order to achieve that goal and become that person in advance.
Become that person in advance because that will allow you to actually achieve that goal. Think about it.
Millionaires become millionaires. The only way you're going to become successful
is to become that successful person, right now.
You must think, act, behave, like a millionaire in order to become a millionaire.
Bit of a deep topic, but guys this is how you really get your truth. Now let’s go into the second point.
Second point is all about setting a big forfeit.
The reason being is that human beings are twice as motivated to avoid pain than they are to seek pleasure.
Therefore, the way you can actually influence yourself to be more disciplined is to actually attach a lot of pain to not achieving that goal.
One of the things I do with my personal coaching clients is we basically work out what they must achieve every single week
and I I help them a system in setting a huge forfeit that scares the hell out of them.
I have a client whose fear was to make a full of himself in public so here's forfeit for that week was to go into the middle of the mall,
stand-up on the table where all the girls are and literally shout at the top of his lungs like everything he fears
and literally, as soon as I told him that he was like, “oh my god, I hate the sound of that!”
I was like great that means you're going to attach a lot of pain to you not achieving that goal for that week.
So do the same, set a huge forfeit. Another one of my clients let you put tens of thousands of dollars on the line.
If he doesn't achieve it he donates it to a charity. So think yourself what forfeit can you put on yourself?
If you don't achieve whatever you set out to achieve that week that you must pay. Right?
For example you can give your money to your friends or your family if you don’t achieve some goals.
The more pain you attach, the more likely you can achieve those goals.
So use the power forfeit; the pain and pleasure principle.
So… another thing you should do is actually set up a win. What happens if you win?
What happens if you achieve your goals?
You should reward yourself just like you reward a dog when it doesn't right behavior,
you must reward your subconscious mind when it's doing something good.
When you don't procrastinate for that day, reward yourself. Say, “well done.”
Right? And your subconscious mind is like, “weow, I’m getting treated now.” So I must act like that more, right?”
Reward yourself. Again, set that big forfeit as well.
Just to remind your subconscious like, “I got to take action otherwise I’m going to just like do something crazy.”
.” So set a big forfeit because you're more likely to stay self-disciplined. Now let's go on to the last point.
The third point guys, is all about accountability? This is a huge, huge, thing when it comes to self-discipline.
The more people you tell in whatever you want to achieve, the more likely you're going to achieve it.
It’s honestly so powerful when it comes to like achieving goals.
Like that's why coaching is so powerful. That's why I really recommend getting a coach right?
To hold you accountable, who can basically work out your internal mapping that can help you in assisting in mastering your life right?
That's what really helped me transform my life.
You know having a coach that holds me accountable towards my actions and being part of a mastermind that I’m currently in, it really makes me take action.
Because again, it's about law of conformity.
Like if I’m in a mastermind and I currently am, and I’m let's say I tell them I’m going to do this and I know in a month's time
I’m going to tell them what I actually achieved, if I fell a bit behind,
it’s a likelihood firstly I’m going to be kicked out that mastermind and, they're likelihood I’ll feeling embarrassed.
So guess what? I’m going to take action. I’m going to get results.
The law of conformity you, will do what other people do.
So that's why your level of network will really, really exceeded your level of your network.
So it's all about finding your friends.
As one of the motivational speaker says, show me your friends and I will show you your future.
Show me your friends and I will show you your future.
So find friends that can hold you accountable or get a coach that can hold you accountable.
And again it's important that when it comes to accountability you have a friend that takes it seriously.
This is why I recommend a coach here, because some friends like if you don't achieve your goal they’re like,
it’s fine, don't worry about it. Don't worry about it.” But a coach who's paid to do that she will kick you up the ass.
So this is why you know I’m just mentioning the power of coaching right here.
But find anybody, find anybody who is serious enough to hold you accountable towards your goals
and told him exactly what you want to achieve and I can assure you, you will feel more motivated as a result.
So here's a bonus point for you guys because I want to help you guys to stay more self-disciplined
so you can get more results. Does that sound fair? Ok cool.
So the bonus one that I really want you guys to do is to set yourself up to win.
What can you do in the advance when you're motivated,
knowing in advance you're going to feel like you want to procrastinate sometimes?
What can you do in advance to set yourself up to win? For example, if I want to like, let's have a new fitness goal
right? I’m going to go to gym. I can put my gym outfit next to the bed.
Say I procrastinate when I’m at home. I can basically set myself up to win by finding a cafe locally
when I’m motivated that I’m going to go to every time I feel down or every time I procrastinate.
Find a strategy of you setting yourself up to win. Find a way that you can set yourself up to win in advance.
When you feel pumped, when you feel great, when you feel happy,
those are the states that you must take advantage of those.
Those are the states you must think, “What can I do because I’m not always feel like this?
They're going to be days I feel terrible. So what can I do to set myself up to win to do right now in advance so when it happens I win?
So I hope you found this video helpful guys. You know key to success is discipline.
Really start self-controlling yourself and you will start to see more results.
In fact I’ve written an eBook on how to take action and how to increase your willpower as well as your discipline.
If you want to download it I'll check the link to that free eBook in the description box below.
I wrote for you guys so you can just really start getting more results because that's what I want for you.
That was a purpose of this channel after all. I felt like it was my time to give back.
And that that's why I chucked all this free content out for you guys. So thank you.
Thank you for following and thank you for being an insider.
So as always my friend, follow your heart and take action and go live the life you want to live.
Speak to you guys soon.