- Now all men like sex, want sex,
and will literally move mountains to do that with you.
It's in our DNA, don't blame me, blame evolution.
And if he's pursuing you in any way, shape, or form,
he's already simulated sex with you in his mind
about 25 times.
Now, although that might sound just like a little bit creepy
to you, it's not really that bad of a thing.
It's only bad if all he wants is sex
and once he gets it, he is done, then you have a problem.
So in this video right now, I'm gonna be talking about
whether he just wants sex or he wants something more.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name's Adam Lodolce,
the founder of sexyconfidence.com
where I help the 21st century woman
create a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
And this video is all about whether or not
a man just wants sex.
And by the way, just having sex with someone
can sometimes be super fun,
especially if both you are just using each other for sex.
But since you're here right now,
you're probably looking for love.
Most of the women in the Sexy Confidence community
are looking for love right now
and generally, if you are looking for love,
you want to avoid guys who only wants sex.
So let's dive right into it.
Sign number one is that he's extremely social
and he seems to only surround himself with women.
Now, there's a sexual stereotype,
and this is generally in line with evolutionary theory,
and this stereotype is that women only want commitment
and men want lots of flings.
But there's a study of the Makushi people in Guyana
that basically shows the truth is a little bit more complex,
that men do sometimes want to seek longterm relationships
when, of course, the women are in short supply.
So basically, if there aren't a lot of women to go around,
men are totally down for a relationship.
On the other hand, men who constantly surround themselves
with lots of single women tend to be really
only interested in sex.
And from a personal standpoint, I found, in my own life,
that once I met a woman that I was very serious to date
and when I met Jessica for example,
I cut every other woman out of my life,
even though we weren't even in a committed relationship yet,
and the first, I would say, two months
before we were really fully committed to each other,
I wasn't seeing anyone else, I didn't wanna see anyone else.
I was really focused in on her.
So if you're with a guy who you're kinda seeing
or maybe you're just sleeping with right now
but you're finding, seeing pictures on Facebook,
he's with other women, or you're finding
that he's constantly flirting with lots of women
in front of you, then that's a huge red flag,
be very cautious.
Number two is that he doesn't get anything from you,
other than sex.
Now, in order for a man to commit to a woman,
he needs to get something from you
that he can't get anywhere else.
There's a theory called Interdependence Theory
and that basically shows that people commit to a partner
to the extent that they are dependent on that partner,
and this dependent is really a result
of a couple of factors, they get satisfaction
from that partner, they enjoy being with that partner,
there are very few alternatives, they can't get
those needs met from other people, and basically,
they've invested their time and energy into that person.
All of these things are reasons why someone would commit
to being with another person.
All these factors create this feeling of commitment,
this attachment to a partner, and the desire
to really maintain a long term relationship.
And if those factors aren't there
and all he's getting is the sexual satisfaction,
he's not getting anything else from the relationship,
then don't be surprised if all he just wants is sex.
And finally, number three is that he's just in a stage
in his life when he doesn't want anything more than sex.
Get this statistic, 90% of men who graduate from college
are really ready for the next step
when they're between the ages of 26 to 33,
and this is when they're most likely
to want to commit to marriage.
But this window of opportunity stays open
only for about four to five years
and then the chances a man will marry
actually starts to decline.
I'm sure you sexy, single ladies who are above the age 40
have started to notice this.
If you have, comment below and let me know.
So basically, if a woman is seriously trying
to find a husband, she should really look at guys
who are between that age group, 26 to 33,
because that is the peak of when men are mostly likely
to want to get married, want to start a family,
want to make all that happen.
And speaking on behalf of all men in that age group,
I can certainly attest to that.
I am 32 years old and it's the peak of that age group.
I see all of my friends getting married,
they're all having children,
and this is the time when it happens.
And the guys that don't do that,
I've seen the guys in their 40's, 50's, and beyond
who never got married, it's very hard for them to change.
So if this has been your experience,
I'd love to hear from you in the comments right there below
and if there are any other science that I may have missed
that you've experience also, please leave
that comment below, I cannot tell you how important
this community is to me and this community is to all of you.
So we're all here for each other,
leave that comment below, and also if you enjoyed
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And finally, if you're finding
that you're only getting involved with guys
who want sex and don't actually want to commit
for the long haul, then I have an amazing resource
for you where you can be able to learn
how to get a man to commit.
It's an hour-long webinar that I host
and if you just click right there,
we put it in the video, we'll put a link
in the description where you can register
for that webinar and I'll go into depth about commitment.
So, thank you so much for watching
and I will speak to you next Sunday,
you sexy, single lady.
Bye bye.