Renee: Can I just say these — we actually really like being approached by a guy.
Nicole: It's super flattering when someone approaches you for, you know, just to meet you or say
hi or give you a compliment. Because most girls are not brave or confident enough
to come up to you and start a conversation that shows he has a lot of
confidence and that he is fearless as well. And it also shows that he's not
afraid to actually kind of take a little bit of direction and say what at ease
and acts keener on what it is that he feels. And that is actually really sexy.
Let's think about it as a little act of kindness because you come up to her in
the street, you tell her "hey, you're beautiful" and boom all of a sudden you
just made her day. Get her attention in a way that says "hey, I'm here. I'm
confident. I would just like to meet you." Make sure you don't go straight in for
the kill and ignore all of her friends because she is obliged to be loyal to
her friends. So, I had a friend who was approached by a guy in a coffee shop. She
was sitting with all of her girlfriends. No matter what this guy was so attracted
to her, he walked right up to her and her group of friends and said "hey, I'd like
to introduce myself" and introduced himself to every single one of the girls
and then when he talked to my friend, which was the one he was very attracted
to, he said "hey, I also would like your number if that's all right."
All of our girlfriends that were there were so impressed with the way he
approached her. We were like "you have to go out with this guy. He's got so much
confidence. That's a guy that women want.
Nicole: I guess this really depends on the situation. If it's a nighttime, just make sure you're not popping out at the
shadows or you're not, you know, all of the sudden surprising us in the dark when we
already might be feeling a bit vulnerable. Because we literally can't
see the whole environment in front of us. So make sure you come up in a nice
way, in front of her and not like from the backdoor and the side or anything
that would surprise her and shock her. Like, make sure she has a clear view of
you. Maybe, try to catch her eye before you actually approach. Daytime a woman's
not necessarily going to be expecting to be approached because usually we're just
going about our day to day lives. Whereas, if you're in a club, if you're in a bar,
if you're at a nighttime event, you are sort of more prepared and your mindset
is more there to talk. Definitely daytime approaches it's the good way to stand
out from the crowd. In the daytime, just make sure that you know we're not super
busy or that we're not occupied or we're not looking like we don't want to be
approached. Actually, that's my biggest pet peeve when I'm running on a
treadmill or something like that and a guy comes and tries to say something to
me. I'm like "dude, I'm clearly busy here like now is not the time." In the daytime,
you want to keep it a little bit more casual. In the nighttime, you can be a
little bit more flirty cuz it's got a little bit more of that undertone, that
energy. I don't actually think the time of the day makes difference. It's more
about you seizing the opportunity. Definitely during the daytime, I wouldn't
expect to have as lengthy of a conversation as I would at nighttime.
Check out your local grocery store, checkout the store where they had to
sell this healthy organic foods. There are definitely be girls there. A great
place to meet cute women is at a spin class or like a yoga class and maybe a
dance class. The best places to approach girls is where the girls are.
Brittany: First impressions matter so much. The opener matters. How you approach a girl
can really determine whether or not the interaction really does make us feel
good. And if you come up with something that is either sleazy or
something that is really corny or just inappropriate or just plain weird, we're
going to put you in this box of "I don't want to talk to him." I mean I really like
anything that can make me laugh for sure, I mean, everyone does, of course. It
shouldn't be too overeager like you shouldn't be like *speaking indistinctly* You want to make
sure that you're coming up to her with confidence, calmly and again, I think the
biggest thing is just being genuine. You know, the best sort of way to really get
a conversation going is if one of you kind of makes a mistake and then you can
both laugh about it because it really sets the ease and tone of that
conversation. It means that you can both kind of relax especially if there's
laughter involved and if it is that you kind of just be normal human beings,
which is what we are. And keep it simple, all you gonna do is introduce yourself, ask for
her name and then pay her a compliment. And, if you can make her laugh, then that is the key.
"Is your dad a thief? Then, who put the stars in your eyes?"
Really?
"He's a red bull because every angel needs wings."
I mean come on corny, corny
It's lazy you're not coming up with anything unique. You're not being genuine.
The only time I've ever really been kind of humor to buy a pick-up line is when I
was drunk. Otherwise, I'm just like "alright, buddy, come on."
I just would stay away from it. You're just a shot in the dark for me.
Like you're not special, it's not anything to me, you're just a woman and I
find you attractive and so I'm just going to go up and shoot my shot. It just
seems kind of outdated. I think pickup lines are something from
like the 70s or 80s. It's something that's unnecessary, it's something that's
outdated. If it's going to be something with a corny and again something that
has too much sexual connotation to it and it's going to make us not really
want to respond to you. If you want to come up with like a go-to phrase or a
way of putting things so that you can pay her a genuine compliment and it just
helps you feel a little bit more confident, I think that's okay,
that to me, is fine. But if the first thing out of your mouth makes us go "oh."
It's not gonna get the girl's attention in the way that you want it to.
Oh, okay. I think it can go either way. Okay, for me, personally, I definitely prefer someone who's direct.
I would be a little bit more indirect when approaching women so it doesn't
come off super forward. I was once in the club and a guy came up to me and was
like "hey, I'm visiting from Chicago and you are the most beautiful girl that
I've seen since I got here" and I was like "Hello." I guess if you're coming
across too aggressively when it's a direct sort of approach that's when we
can put our defenses up because we think well hang on they're saying you don't
even know me from a bar. So, that's why I think that it's really good to be able
to lead into some sort of conversation some sort of casual conversation first
before you go straight in for the kill. I once was approached by this guy who was
waiting for me at the entrance of the bathroom, came out of the bathroom, he
started talking to me to say "hey, I kind of saw you with your friends over there
and I didn't know how else can I get your away from your friends other than
just stalk you here" He was just like pretty open and honest about it and
funny so I just laughed and we ended up having a great conversation.
Just confidence and being direct about why you're approaching her. I want someone to
be clear and to the point I don't want to have a 30-minute conversation with
someone at a coffee shop about the weather. Kind of beating around the bush
and being wishy-washy about your intentions or why you came over there,
trying to make it seem like you didn't come over there for her.
What's the point? Cut to the chase, let us know why you're there because honestly, we
already know. Looks like you have to warm us up a little bit, but then at the same
time, not beat around the bush. Because we actually appreciate you saying what it
is that you want because again, it gives us a sense that you're a man who knows
what he wants and isn't afraid to be out to get it. I think a guy who would come
up and approach a woman and say "hey, I saw you across the room and your eyes
are just so gorgeous. I had to say hi to you" he's gonna win far more points in my
book than some guy who comes up and is like "hey, this place is cool, huh." You know,
it's okay to have that bit of mystery about yourself but just make sure that
you're still coming across as "yes, you definitely do want to talk to us, you
actually are interested in us" instead of us being left wondering "okay, did he
like me or did he not like me because he didn't really... then he did this and then
he did this. It's so much more important to a woman to know why
you're approaching her. Don't waste someone's time or your own for sure, you
know, I mean, let her know if you're interested and she'll really appreciate
that and she'll let you know, one way or the other, whether she is interested too.
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