Brainy Dose Presents:
11 Signs You Have Unhealed Trauma
Almost everyone experiences trauma in one way or another throughout their lives.
The deep distress from trauma can happen at any age and last for years to come.
It severely impacts mental health - especially if that pain was experienced during childhood
or adolescence.
Even though we might be aware that certain events in our lives were traumatizing, we
rarely do the heavy lifting to heal from traumatic events.
Why is that?
Often, painful emotions like grief, guilt, sadness, or betrayal are too much for our
minds to bear at the time.
Instead of processing, we bury those thoughts and feelings into our subconscious mind - where
they wreak havoc.
When we neglect our trauma, we enable it to stealthily destroy our lives.
Trauma is never healed by accident.
Your mind can only be restored through intentional actions and thoughts.
If you think you’ve healed from your trauma - or that your experiences weren’t that
traumatizing - check out these signs of unhealed trauma.
Number 1 - Negative Self-Image
There are many different kinds of trauma, and even then, each individual experience
will be different.
However, most of the time trauma lowers our self-esteem.
Especially when trauma is rooted in the early years of life, the victim may question their
self-worth.
Being treated as if you’re not a human being with value, makes you think you don’t have
value.
Studies have shown that if you have PTSD, you’re more likely to have very low self-esteem
and feelings of worthlessness Whether you experienced neglect, abandonment,
violence, or something else: ask yourself what you think about who you are.
When you look at yourself in the mirror, how do you feel?
And why?
Number 2 - Putting Up Walls
When you feel sad, disappointed or upset, do you take time to feel - to process¬¬¬¬
- your emotions?
Do you cry, journal, exercise, spend time alone, or vent in another healthy way?
If the answer is no - or if you’re thinking “I never feel that way,” you probably
shut yourself in - and others out.
Building a wall is a common trauma response - expressing your feelings in the past, likely
resulted in a build-up of negative emotions from not having the support you needed.
These walls usually look like silence, anger, or fear.
The worst part of putting up these walls is that they separate you from yourself, your
emotions, and other people.
You fail to understand your identity, how you feel, and what matters to you.
You can’t just shut out sadness.
When you shut out the negative emotions, you also lose your capacity for joy.
You shut out pleasure, happiness, and comfort.
You become apathetic - not caring about anyone or anything.
If you want to heal from this emotional numbness - and your trauma - you’ll need to learn
healthy coping mechanisms and ways to process your emotions safely.
Number 3 - Suspicious of Positive Changes
When something great comes into your life - a job promotion, a love interest, plain
good luck - do you hesitate?
Do you live the mantra ‘good things don’t last?’
If you resist positive change, it could be a result of your traumatic experiences.
We learn to expect what we experience - that’s human nature.
It could also be a result of your low self-esteem.
If you feel like you’re not good enough, then you’ll think that you don’t deserve
positivity or happiness.
You might feel guilt or shame for being rewarded.
If you feel undeserving, guilty, or shameful when good things happen in your life - you’re
probably still suffering from unhealed trauma.
Number 4 - Struggle to Ask for Help
Do you find it impossible to talk to others about your feelings?
If the answer is yes - or if you’ve never shared your trauma with someone else, it could
be a sign that you struggle to ask for help.
Even with the small tasks in your life, do you feel resistant to ask for help?
That refusal to rely on others could stem from your past mistreatment.
Maybe you’re afraid of rejection, disappointment, or judgment.
Are you afraid of appearing weak or scared that you won’t receive the help you desperately
need?
Number 5 - Fear of Failure
Fear of failure is commonplace, even in those who haven’t been through intense trauma.
But when that fear becomes so strong that it prevents you from trying new things, learning
new skills, or going to new places, it could be an unhealthy sign of your unhealed trauma.
Success is the art of failing and trying again.
If you’re so afraid of failure that you miss opportunities, stunt creativity, and
grow insecurities, your situation won’t improve on its own.
Unresolved trauma can make you believe that you’ll never be the best, you’re not good
enough, and you’ll always be a failure - none of which are true.
Number 6 - Fear of Success
On the other hand, repressed trauma causes a fear of success.
This one might sound strange - but listen.
Fear of success is associated with trauma that involves abandonment during youth.
It causes you to hold yourself back from achieving something you want.
It doesn’t stem from a fear of not getting it - it stems from a fear that you might get
it and then lose it.
This trauma response can sabotage your chances for success - before you even begin.
Number 7 - Overplanning
How do you feel when things don’t go the way you want them to?
It can be frustrating.
But do you let that emotion present itself and pass - or do you hold onto it?
Sometimes after trauma, a sense of control becomes very important to the victim.
After all, we lose complete control in these scenarios.
If you find yourself planning excessively, it could be a sign that you’re terrified
of feeling helpless, and ultimately vulnerable.
Constant worry, overplanning, and micromanaging are all signs that you distrust the world
and yourself - and they’re often symptoms of underlying trauma.
Number 8 - Inability to Focus
Trauma changes our psychology by changing the physiology of our brains.
Difficulty concentrating and memory loss are measurable side effects of traumatic experiences.
Don’t blame yourself if you experience unexplainable blackouts or difficulty maintaining a clear
train of thought.
It could be your mind’s way of telling you that it needs help.
Number 9 - Hurting Yourself Or Others
Trauma makes our emotions and behaviors go haywire.
We act sad when we’re happy.
We act angry when we’re sad.
And when emotions get intense, the behavior intensifies as well.
If you lash out at others, push people away, or isolate yourself during difficult times
when you need support, it could be from your trauma.
You may unintentionally make your mental struggle worse and harm yourself emotionally.
In removing yourself, you can also hurt the people who love you.
Sometimes this emotional pain boils over and you might hurt yourself or others physically.
The results of trauma - oversensitivity, volatility, and anger - can make it easy for things to
escalate out of control.
If you lose your temper often, think about how it might relate to your trauma.
Number 10 - Depression and Anxiety
Trauma can trigger feelings of depression and anxiety in victims - even if that trauma
happened a very long time ago.
If you always feel on edge, you might suffer from chronic anxiety - it manifests as an
intense, excessive worried feeling.
Anxiety can cause you to panic about everyday situations.
Your heart races, you feel faint, and you wish you could disappear.
Depression manifests as overwhelming sadness.
Do you cry a lot for no reason, or over small things?
This deep sadness can be painful and impact your thought processes and your behavior.
Living with anxiety and depression is not easy - and neither is living with unhealed
trauma.
Unfortunately, they often appear together, creating an unstable mental state filled with
uncertainly and chaos.
Number 11 - Undiagnosable Physical Pain
Stress impacts the physical body in many different ways - none of which are beneficial to our
health.
Even if you can’t remember what happened to traumatize you, your physical body responds
to the stress of that trauma.
It carries it with you.
The pain in your psyche needs to be released one way or another.
It may manifest as unexplainable and chronic chest pains, digestive problems, headaches,
or muscle fatigue.
These symptoms might be the underlying cause of another illness - but if your doctors can’t
identify the source, it could be a result of your unhealed trauma.
Do you experience any of these signs of unhealed trauma?
If you do, know that you can process your trauma.
You can overcome each and every one of these challenges.
You can be healthy, happy, and fulfilled.
Millions of people across the globe have already healed themselves - and now it’s your turn.
First, identify your problems.
Then, seek out the solutions.
You’ll need the support of close family and friends.
A professional therapist can teach you coping mechanisms proven to aid in the healing process.
You can shed what no longer serves you little by little, every day - until the weight has
been lifted off your shoulders.
When you make room for acceptance and healing, you will experience self-love, bravery, and
a sense of wholeness that will change your life.
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