why do some enneagram types just not fit that typical stereotype well it may have something to
do with counter types and you're probably a little confused going hillary what is a counter type
you've thrown so much at us lately and now you're throwing counter types at us yes i'm so sorry
there's so much to learn about the enneagram there's so many different moving pieces to it
and different things like that so just when you thought you knew all there was to know about the
enneagram i throw something new at you before i dive into counter types i want to go ahead and
introduce myself to those that are new here i'm hillary i'm your certified enneagram life coach
and i love teaching you guys the enneagram in the simplest and easiest way possible you guys know
that's what i love to do i love to teach you guys in a very simple and easy way so that you can
understand yourself and those in your life better and so let's go ahead and dive into what are
counter types the first thing you need to know is all nine types types one two three four five six
seven eight nine they all have a counter type and this is due to every type having a subtype so you
guys have probably heard of the subtypes they're called self-preservation they're called social
they're called sexual also known as one to one those are your subtypes within your type today
you know we're going over the counter type one and so we're going to be talking about
um which one of those is the counter type and so within all nine types it's either the self
pressed the social or the sexual and actually side note these also can be known as instinctual
variants and so you're going to hear them within the enneagram world called subtypes
and instinctual variants they both mean the same thing you know that self-preservation that social
and that sexual instinct well we're all born with instincts right and one of these we usually
use more than the other two because we've had to rely on it more throughout our life and so it's
different for everybody and that actually explains why you can have let's just say for example a type
1 since that's our video today you can have a social one you can have a self-preservation one
or you can have a sexual one and all three of them might present a little differently and especially
if you are the subtype of the one then you're not even gonna act and behave like that stereotypical
one all the time but the course of you are the same and so that is what i'm teaching you guys
about today all right so what is that counter type of the one well it's the sexual subtype or
the sexual instinct if you are a type one that relates to the sexual instinct first then you
are a counter type one which means you don't always act and behave like a lot of the other
ones that you meet a quick difference between the self-preservation the social and the sexual just a
i don't know a quick way to think about it is a lot of times that self-preservation
instinct is the total perfectionist that's the one that just wants to have everything perfect
not all ones want to be perfectionists hot tip but the self-preservation one a lot of times
does want to be the total perfectionist and then you move on to the social one which the social one
wants to model the perfect person and so they do want to be perfect and they want to model
that from other people and then you move on to the counter type sexual one which they want to perfect
others but not themselves and so a lot of times they find themselves perfecting other people or
even the world but they're not as interested in being perfect themselves and so that's a really
quick difference between the three um if you want more information on all three subtypes because i'm
only teaching on the sexual today i will link a video right here um it's the subtypes of the
one i've done all three already so that if you really want a little bit more information on all
three subtypes go give that a watch but let's go ahead and dive into the sexual one which is
the counter type what do they look like what do they act like how do they present in the world
sexual ones they tend to be the ones that have a sense of entitlement out of the three subtypes
of the one they go after what they want and they usually get it and they might also feel like they
have a right to press their will over other people which sounds similar to an eight right because
they um definitely struggles with that but the one the sexual one they can too
sometimes they feel like they wanna you know press their will in and and um make it known
to other people this one usually thinks they know how to do things better they a lot of times just
think they know the right way the right way to do things they might even follow rules exactly
the way they're supposed to be followed because of their own moral code or belief system so they are
going to be the one that follows all the rules exactly a big difference between the sexual one
and the other two is this one has no problem expressing their anger it's not something that
they consider bad or wrong they don't mind expressing their anger like the other two
um subtypes don't want to they actually deal with anger a little bit different even though you know
the one is in that anger triad so the sexual one they're just not afraid of their anger and
they don't mind expressing it this can be another reason why this type of one can look like an eight
is because they don't mind expressing that anger and they can be a little bit more impulsive so
those are some things that cause people to wonder if they're an eight or a one because both of
those types present like that sexual ones they have two sides to them one is sincere romantic
playful emotional and then the other one is more withdrawn hostile and allows that anchor side of
them to be present and so isn't that interesting that the sexual one definitely has two sides to
them so that's a quick glimpse into the sexual one and how they look and present themselves a little
differently than the other two subtypes of the one and so this is just gonna explain to you why
you relate to the cores of being a one but you're like i don't always present like a one this is why
you might be a counter type one and so i hope this helped you understand yourself a little bit better
and one quick thing to remember and you if you're gonna go watch the other subtype video you're
gonna get this piece of information but we usually teach that these subtypes you know go in kind of
an order one you use a lot one you mostly used as a child and then uh so it was highly developed and
then the other one you know kind of slowly but surely got developed and so you definitely use
the other subtype and then there's a third one sometimes it's developed and sometimes it's a
blind spot it just depends on what you've walked through in life but these are three survival
instincts that we all need in life and what we're trying to figure out with you is which one do
you use first that's gonna be what we call your subtype and if you found this video helpful today
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i never like to close these without letting you guys know that if you have gotten to this point
you're still struggling or you watch this for somebody else but you're like hey wait
i actually am struggling to know what my actual type is or what my subtype is or wing or anything
like that well i do offer different packages and one of them is a typing session and so
all of that info is found down below in the description box but if you'd love to
have me come alongside you in your journey and try to help you uncover what your actual type is
um go look at that information right here and down below anyways it was
great talking to you guys today thanks so much for watching until next time bye guys