- [Narrator] Bestselling author, Susan Cain once wrote
"In a culture that praises the extrovert ideal,
introverts are dramatically undervalued
and because of this society is losing out."
That quote can be found in her hit novel, Quiet:
The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking.
And as the title states
it can be a struggle for introverts to stay true
to their quieter and more reserved nature
when surrounded by people who just don't seem to get it.
But there's power and beauty to be found
in being an introvert too,
a mystery that only unfolds to a few.
As author and comedian Micahela Chung once said,
"Don't underestimate me because I'm quiet.
I know more than I say,
think more than I speak
and observe more than you know."
With that said, here are five things
that make introverts incredibly attractive.
Number one, they are hard to get.
While plenty of people will give you dating advice,
saying that playing hard to get
will make you more attractive,
for introverts, it's not an act
they really are hard to get.
That's why it's so rewarding
when you finally do win one over
and get them to open up to you
because it's not something that they do just for anyone.
A 2018 article from Time Magazine
written by journalist Carly Breit states that
"Introverts are attractive
because they make you work for their attention,
but once you succeed, they'll find
that it often leads to lasting loyalty,
deep friendship and a loving romantic relationship."
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Number two, they have great composure.
Psychologists define introversion and extroversion
as personality preferences.
As Heidi Eve-Cahoon wrote in her research article
Understanding the Introvert Preference,
and because introverts prefer their inner world
to their external one,
they often process things internally.
They keep their thoughts and feelings to themselves
and only share it with others when they're ready.
This means that while others might immediately
have an emotional outburst,
introverts do a good job of maintaining their composure.
They seem more calm and thoughtful than most
because they rarely ever lose their cool
which only serves to make them more attractive.
Number three, they're intellectually stimulating.
Again, because introverts prefer interacting
with their inner world more than their external one,
this makes them great at deep intellectual conversations.
Incredibly creative and self-reflective,
they're often fascinated,
incredibly wanna learn about their interests deeply.
In fact, one study by researchers Batey and Furnham
found that introverted art students excelled more
than their extroverted classmates
because they spent more time on their own
mastering their craft.
And the same can be said for many common introverted hobbies
like reading, writing, music, and film.
So you'd be hard pressed to find someone more interesting
to talk to once they get used to you, of course.
Number four, they're very self-sufficient.
In an article written by behavioral health expert,
Dr. Natalie Frank, another quality
that makes introverts uniquely attractive to many
is their strong sense of autonomy and self-sufficiency.
Their desire for privacy makes them more independent
which in turn makes them better able to take care
of and make decisions for themselves.
And there are fewer things more admirable
than someone who knows who they are and what they want.
They don't need to look to anyone else
to decide that for them
or tell them what to do to get it done.
They can handle a lot of things just on their own.
And number five,
they want personal more than social validation.
Last but certainly not least,
there's something to be said
about an introvert's lesser need for social validation
because according to Dr. Natalie Frank,
it's this desire for personal validation
over social validation
that makes them more authentic than most.
Introverts choose to be guided by their morals,
passions, and goals
rather than the opinions and expectations of others.
And sure, some people might judge them for it
saying they're weird or hard to get along with
just because they don't try to fit in
as much as everyone else.
But to an introvert, that doesn't matter
more than being who they really are.
So do you agree with the things we've mentioned here?
Are you an introvert wondering about
what traits of yours make you more attractive?
or maybe just an extrovert appreciating the other type.
Either way, it's important
that we celebrate and appreciate ourselves and others
no matter our differences.
With that said, what are some traits
you think make introverts more attractive?
Let us know in the comments below, and thanks for watching.