Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today,
we are going to learn about 7 habits to make you instantly more charismatic.
Now, let’s begin 1. Focused Attention
What makes one person more charming or charismatic than another? Imagine you’re having a conversation
with someone you just met. As you talk, this person’s attention is all over the place. Their
eyes are constantly roaming around the room. They’re hardly listening to a word you say,
and they don’t seem present in the conversation. Does this person sound charming or charismatic?
The most charismatic people leave strong, positive impressions by devoting 100%
of their attention to the people they meet. In any conversation,
they use verbal cues and strong body language to show how invested they are in the conversation.
When you’re talking to a charismatic person, it feels like the rest of the world has disappeared.
You feel seen, heard, and appreciated because this person is giving every ounce of their attention.
If you want to be more charismatic, keep your attention focused on every person you meet.
Don’t let your mind wander. Don’t worry about what other people are doing or saying.
Don’t lose track of the conversation or disappear into your own thoughts.
Instead, be active and engaged at all times. Give the other person 100% of your attention. Because
your focused attention will leave a more charming, memorable impression on everyone you meet.
2. Bite Your Tongue Have you ever met someone who
constantly interrupts you? Whenever you’re trying to make a point, they carelessly interject with
their own ideas, leaving you wondering, “do they even care what I have to say?”
Unsurprisingly, interruptions rub almost everyone the wrong way.
This rude and unpopular habit destroys your charisma, no matter how funny or interesting you
are. Each time you interrupt or talk over someone, you’re prioritizing your thoughts over theirs.
You’re discouraging people from listening to you because you aren’t willing to listen to them.
Most people, when interrupted more than once, will become defensive and frustrated.
They feel neglected and ignored because you are more interested in talking than listening.
Once someone feels neglected, your charisma disappears in an instant.
So, if you want to increase your natural charm, practice keeping your mouth shut. Be patient and
hold your tongue until other people have finished speaking. That means waiting for natural breaks
in the conversation. It means listening to everything they have to say, instead of jumping
in the moment a thought pops into your head. Even if you have a really great thing to say,
the other person may have something important they want to say too. It’s essential that you value
their thoughts and ideas as much as your own. Every time you engage in a conversation, you need
to show people that you are actively listening. Otherwise, no one will bother listening to you.
If this is a bad habit of yours, here is an easy trick you can practice to improve your listening
skills. Whenever a thought pops into your head, try biting your tongue, just for a few seconds.
You don’t have to bite down hard, but this little shock will remind you to be patient and to wait
until the other person is finished talking. Not only will people appreciate your patience,
but your stronger listening skills will make a significantly more charismatic person.
3. Genuine Appreciation Do you acknowledge the achievements of the people
around you? The most charismatic individuals give regular recognition to the people in their lives.
Instead of praising themselves or bragging about their achievements, they express
genuine excitement, respect, and gratitude toward others.
Believe it or not, earnestly appreciating other people is a difficult thing to do. Most people
are unwilling or unable to recognize the strengths of others without feeling defensive or inadequate.
Some people prefer to criticize others to protect or compensate for their own insecurities.
But charismatic people have no problem recognizing the amazing individuals in their lives.
They don’t make comparisons. They don’t put others down, and they don’t let a friend or
family member’s success go unnoticed. Charismatic people have enough confidence and security
to appreciate the achievements of others without changing their opinion of themselves.
So, if you want to be more charismatic, take the spotlight off of yourself and shine that spotlight
on someone else. Recognize the great people who inspire you to grow and
improve. Praise others for all the great things they do and really mean the things you say.
Not only will other people be flattered by your compliments, but they’ll see how strong
and confident of a person you are. Ultimately, your respect for others speaks volumes about
your respect for yourself. 4. Expressing Emotions
Many people think charisma is masculine, unemotional, and aloof, but real-life charisma
is very different from what you see on TV. Real charisma relies upon strong emotional
connections. You find someone charismatic because you relate to them on a personal level.
But before you can create personal relations and emotional connections
you have to be willing to express your feelings. On average, charismatic people have very
high emotional intelligence. They pay close attention to the way they feel,
and they use a broad emotional vocabulary to understand and express difficult emotions.
In tough situations, charismatic people can be open and honest, because they are not afraid to
be vulnerable. They work hard to interpret their honest feelings and discover their genuine selves.
As a result, charismatic people seem to understand everyone they meet on a deeper level.
Many people ask charismatic individuals for advice and wisdom,
not because charismatic people have especially high IQs, but because they are self-aware,
empathetic, and emotionally intelligent. If you want to be a more charismatic person,
start by getting to know yourself. The deeper you look into your own thoughts and feelings,
the more you can empathize and connect with the emotions of others.
5. Verbal Confidence When you hear word charisma,
you may think of powerful leaders and public speakers — people who use their words to excite
and inspire others. Not every charismatic person is a great public speaker, but verbal confidence
is a charismatic skill, whether you’re talking to one person or an entire crowd.
When charismatic people speak, others listen. In other words,
the world wants to hear what charismatic people have to say. But how do you convince the world
that what you’re saying is worthwhile? There are many skills that make charismatic
speakers interesting and engaging. They’re good storytellers. They use powerful,
active language. They discuss relatable ideas that other people connect with. But above
all else, charismatic leaders have confidence in every word that comes out of their mouths.
Great speakers, in public or in private, believe in what they have to say. If you
believe in your ideas, other people will follow suit. If you think your ideas are valuable,
your words will resonate with other people. But that’s where so many people run into trouble.
They think they’re confident until they’re standing in front of a group. All the sudden,
when the pressure is on, they begin stepping on their own toes. They backtrack. They undermine
your ideas. They talk themselves down or undersell their most meaningful experiences.
If you want to project verbal confidence, trust that your words are as valuable and
significant as anyone else’s. Don’t worry about blowing people’s minds. You don’t
need to say anything profound. All you need is confidence and the courage to speak your mind.
6. Universal Enthusiasm Are you an enthusiastic person?
Enthusiasm can make anyone naturally charismatic. To be enthusiastic requires energy, confidence,
and self-awareness, all of which leave positive impressions on the people you meet.
Of course, enthusiasm isn’t something you can fake. Sometimes, pretending to be enthusiastic
leaves a very negative impression. People may think you’re making fun of them,
even though you’re only trying to be positive and energetic. So how do you cultivate genuine
enthusiasm? How do you turn yourself into the kind of person everyone wants around?
The good news is… it’s not nearly as difficult as it sounds.
All you need to be enthusiastic is a good attitude and a constant sense of curiosity. To start, take
a real interest in whatever you’re doing, whether it’s talking to a stranger or trying a new hobby.
The most charismatic people stay curious in every environment. They can get excited about almost any
subject because they’re always open to learning new things. Charismatic people don’t care about
making mistakes, and they genuinely enjoy learning from others. Together, these characteristics
create a contagious enthusiasm, which other people find inspiring, charming, and attractive.
7. A Comforting Presence What does it feel like spending time
with a charismatic person? Most charismatic people are well-liked, not only for their enthusiasm, but
also for their warmth and comfort. In other words, charismatic people get along with everyone they
meet, because they create safe spaces, free from criticism or judgment. Charismatic people accept
others as they are, which allows friends, family, and even strangers to relax and be themselves.
If you want to be more charismatic, get rid of your expectations, your insecurities,
and your agenda. Don’t worry about looking cool or creating a specific impression. Most of all,
stop criticizing others and try to see the good in everyone you meet. If someone does something
wrong, don’t make them feel worse. Instead, show them that everything is okay. Forgive them for
their failures and pick them up when they fall. Ultimately, that’s what makes it so easy to
connect with a charismatic person. The world is drawn to them, mentally and physically,
because they accept everyone for their strengths and their weaknesses.
Everyone in the world is searching for someone that makes them feel safe and comfortable. If you
want to instantly become more charismatic, be that safe and comfortable person for everyone you meet.
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