Okay, so this girl cared way too much about people's opinions
And uh, so did this girl, and this girl, and this girl too and let's not forget about this girl, right?
Oh, it's a black screen. Wait get really really close to the screen like super duper close
Do you see yourself? Do you see a reflection?
Yeah, because you're on the list of people who cared way too much about other people's opinions, duh
Hi, hi we're back. We're laying on our stomachs even though it really makes us nauseous
That's how you know i'm gonna be giving real ass advice from the fairy god virgo herself. It's me
A lot of you seem to like my video where I talked about
How I stopped hating myself and how you can too consider this video her cousin, okay?
She's equally as hot. I want this to be a video that you guys can come back to if you're ever feeling
Crappy about yourself and you're totally just focusing too much on other people's opinions
I feel like this kind of topic is something that we all need reminders of it wasn't until like fairly recently where I realized
That I just don't care anymore, and I have not cared for a while
I wholeheartedly think I would not be where I am today at all in my life
If I still cared about what people thought I think it held me back so much in life
I just kind of want to share my thought process how I got to where I am now to help you
Just stop giving a shit what other people think of you not care about others opinions
You know that one mean that's like circling around right now where it's like if you knew me in high school; no, you didn't
If you knew me in college; no
You didn't all the cares have just it's uh has evaporated from me
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Okay, I made notes. That's how you know, it's serious but it's not serious because it's like a sleepover. It's like we're having fun
It's just you and I talking we're alone
Except i'm in my bed and you're in your own bed. Please don't come into my area or my space
Okay
so I want to give you a little bit of a history lesson about my own experience with
Caring too much about what other people think because I don't think that it would be fair or make sense
if I didn't it wasn't until like pretty recently and of course a lot of people messaging me as well that
How do I seem to not care what anyone thinks how do I just do the things I want to do?
I also ran into someone who watches my videos recently and she told me like
Oh, I always wish that I could be doing what you're doing
but i'm just too shy and i'm just not good with the camera like that and this video is not
Just about like youtube videos whatsoever
It's about life in general
But it kind of like broke my heart because I used to be in that place
And just constantly overthinking about what everyone thought about me
I remember specifically in middle school. I always wanted to do things like theater. I always wanted to put myself out there
But I was always too embarrassed because I felt like everyone hated me and like everyone was judging me
I don't know why I just always had this overwhelming feeling that everyone hates me and I still kind of
Have that feeling today. I could be in a room full of people that I don't know
And I think that every single person in the room is annoyed with me hates me and that I am a disturbance
Your existence is not a burden and nobody should feel like that
I also was a huge people pleaser
I would do anything. I would say yes to anyone. I had this like specific quote that I remember saying so much in middle school
I was always like yeah
if somebody came up to me and punched me, I think I would just
Take it and say sorry
I'm, not saying I would hit back now, but i'm not saying that I wouldn't maybe I shouldn't put that out on the internet
What i'm trying to say
Is that I feel like I have a lot more worth now
Than I did before and I think that's ultimately what it came down to is that I valued myself so low before and I allowed
People's judgments to place a worth on me instead and i've also noticed i've had this mean girlfriend
All throughout my entire life, but it's not one friend
It's just like a new mean girl every few years. I had a mean girlfriend growing up quite literally
I remember her breaking on an offer friendship constantly
And at one point literally telling me after a fall out being like I still want to hang out with you because i'm bored
Um, but I don't want people to know that we're hanging out
So you're like a booty call friend, and I agreed to it. I would go and hang out with this girl
Secretly and we wouldn't like post about it on facebook or anything. We wouldn't tell our friends
That we hung out
Why did I do that? And then I got to high school and I just pretty much would take any friend. I would get at
That point because I had like none coming into high school and a mean girlfriend adopted me and picked me up
Under her wing and just dropped me when she felt like it. I got to college and a similar thing happened once again
I didn't want to embarrass myself or do some certain things because I didn't want this
new college friend of mine to feel embarrassed of me as her friend like I wanted her approval of
Everything that I did I realized that my entire
Life it led me to constantly not taking chances
That I wanted to take because I was too embarrassed of what other people thought wanted to do theater my whole life
And then I only did it
My senior year of high school because my friends convinced me and I regret it so bad that I didn't do it any sooner
This is a sign but if you want to go do something go do it now
Same thing with youtube. I'm sure a lot of you already know my whole youtube story
i'm
Really trying to think back of when I picked up this whole mentality of I don't care what other people think anymore
But I feel like it's definitely been within like the last two years
I lived alone for about a year when I was in r.a, and I spent so much time with myself
I think in that time I genuinely realized that I like myself and I like me
And no one can really take that away from me
I'm, not sitting here and telling you to self-isolate but i'm telling you that if you're alone right now
Especially with quarantine and everything else going on. I think it's really nice to self reflect
And like yourself this goes into how I stopped hating myself video because this these videos are cousins
It's not my business what anyone else thinks of me? And I think when I finally knocked that into my head I was like, whoa
I can actually do anything
i'm, like actually strangely powerful because once you let go of these restraints that you put on yourself
You're kind of free, baby
I think that's when I truly started dressing how I actually want to dress
I started making youtube videos how I actually want to make youtube videos
I was just overall more comfortable with myself as a human being and also my standards for my friends
Got a whole lot higher I had judgy friends even up until like recently. I still had friends who would judge me and give their
unsolicited opinions about things about myself and I don't think that my little
Journey is over whatsoever. I still do care a little bit too much sometimes about what people think god
It has gotten so much easier
I think one of the first things that you need to stop doing if you feel like this is to uh,
Stop feeling like everyone's out to get you because think about it to yourself. Are you out to get anyone?
No, for example
A lot of people have like fear of eating out in public or going
Shopping alone out in public or doing things alone out in public
When is the last time that you looked at someone?
When you were out with a group of friends, and you looked at someone who was alone and judged them
If you actually answered and remembered a time you have some work, you need to work on yourself that like I can't help you
Chances are you probably don't even waste your time thinking of others like that
I would hope not at least I think once I started assuming the best intent of people
That's when things got better. Assuming negative intent of people isn't really fair
You're not really giving people a shot a chance
And so assuming that everyone is out to get you or everyone is judging you that's kind of messed up
Because do you waste your time thinking about others that often? Probably not do others waste their time thinking about you that often?
To be honest, no, no one's thinking about you as much as you think they are. Okay
Stop asking for other people's approval or opinions. If you're under the age of 18 and you're asking your parents permission for something
That's a different story
Okay
I knew this girl and she always loved tattoos and piercings so much and she told me that she stopped getting more
Because her boyfriend doesn't like them like he audibly will tell her "I do not like your tattoos and piercings,"
Why why are you with someone like that?
It's one thing if your significant other isn't a fan of tattoos in general, but thinks yours are cool
That's one thing but if you're stopping living your life to its fullest potential and you're doing something that's not even hurting anyone else
It's just making you happy
And someone is telling you stop I don't like it
You're being controlled. I used to ask for people's opinions on everything everything literally everything
I am very indecisive especially when it comes to buying because I have
buying guilt and I would ask for people's opinions on so much and I realized I gave so many people power without even
Realizing it. It's okay
If you're like conflicted and you genuinely just need advice on something, but god
It's a whole other thing when you just depend your life on other people's opinions and approvals if you want to live a totally
unconventional life
And different than your family and your friends as hard as it may be I encourage you to go do it
I don't know you personally, but I think you're holding yourself back
And if you're taking this personal it's because it is personal. My next tip is is just thinking of yourself
So highly that you don't let negative comments get to you
God, I hate bringing up high school stories so much because it sounds like i'm just stuck in high school
But that's not the truth. It's just that my high school experience was a lot more problematic than my college experience
So that's why I bring up stories a lot my senior year of high school. Uh
I was voted most attractive. Let's move on
And I remember this guy who did not like me for stupid reasons tweeted about me and was like
Oh
They couldn't even pick a valid bitch to win most attractive and I remember seeing that
And just laughing just cracking up because I I knew I was a valid bitch
Okay
I did not really like the fact that I won most attractive. I talked about that in my other video. I just felt like
It's a vain superlative. I did not ask for it
I did not really want it, but I know i'm not ugly and this dude who was just feeding for some likes on twitter
Which he didn't even get it just didn't even affect me
i'm
Pretty sure I came home
And I went up to my mom and I made like a snapchat and I was like mom am I a valid bitch?
So many people were like texting me his girlfriend texted me and was like i'm so sorry about that blah blah blah
And it really genuinely didn't affect me and i'm pretty sure that a few years ago prior to that
It would have really affected me. It would have hurt. It would have been like damn. I'm not a valid bitch this guy
Who is just not a good human being thinks that i'm not pretty?
uh, and now the opinion of a man is the last thing that I care about the only man's opinion that I care about is
princes
Up above. Wow, look i'm honoring him what the color another thing is like mean comments online. Uh,
you know doing
The whole internet thing you're gonna get mean comments and in the beginning I was so riled up by them. I would get so
angry and so pissed and I would feel the need to just
argue with people all the time in the beginning and now i'm just like
I don't care these people don't know me personally
They will never get to know me on a personal level. Like I know myself therefore their comment means nothing to me
Somebody called me a fat faced ugly bitch the other day and I just laughed maybe I did gain some weight in my face
Okay
And you want to know why because my body needed nourishment and needed food. I needed to gain weight and i'm so proud of it
That it did that thing so, you know what? Maybe my face is a little bit more chubbier
Who cares who cares who cares who cares at the end of the day?
If someone has the time to leave a mean comment to you
Says a lot more about them than it does about you at the end of the day. They're clearly going through it
Something is wrong. I think at a certain point you also just get
Desensitized to it, but it's not for the faint of heart whatsoever at all
I think another important thing to remember is that not everyone's gonna like you
And there's just nothing that you can do about it. Whatever that quote is about being the ripest juiciest peach, whatever
This is not call me by your name. You don't like some people in your life. I'm sure of it
What is that person supposed to do they're?
They're gonna move on with their life. I would hope if you know damn. Well that someone just doesn't like you
Move on this last tip I have is about how small we really are
I know that some people are not going to like this comparison because i've said it before and it's made people uncomfortable
Do you know those videos where it's like comparing all the different types?
Ow
i'm unwell
Do you know those videos where it's like a comparison video of?
A human then to earth and then to other planets and then eventually to our galaxy and then to other galaxies
And then it just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger for me
What I like to personally think about is how small we really are when I do that video. I can't help but think about how small we really are
Miniscule my problems in life really are in the grand scheme of things. We are so tiny
in comparison to the entire
rest of the universe
This is not to diminish your problems and tell you something's not a big deal
If it's a big deal to you, then it's a big deal what i'm trying to say
Is that when I think of like oh shit, this person doesn't like my new hair. Oh my god
i'm so insecure and I think about how
Tiny that issue is in comparison to my life and how tiny my life is in comparison
To this planet and I think about that to myself and i'm like holy shit. That's
Kind of really tiny and why should I give it so much weight and put so much thought into it
It's not providing me with anything. It's not paying the bills
That thought is living in my brain rent free. So it's time to evict that bitch
Okay, of course your problems are completely valid, but don't let them overtake your life, especially when it comes to people's opinions
You only really have one life as far as we know
This is my current life now. And if I don't do all the things that I want to accomplish in this lifetime
I'd be really sad and disappointed if I were to die tomorrow if i'm like watching my entire life flash before my eyes
And I realize all the things that I didn't do
because I let
this
dumb, bitch
Rebecca, tell me what her opinion is about me or my fear of disappointing others or my fear of everyone hating
Me if I let that overtake my life and I didn't do all these things. I want to accomplish and now i'm dead
That would suck literally i'd be in like ghost form nikki nasty and i'd be like wailing i'd be like I made a mistake
What did I do? Why didn't I do more in my life?
I'm, so sad that I took people's opinions too seriously
I don't know why I got an accent when I died. But um, my point is that life is extremely short and precious
This is very morbid, but I had a near-death
Experience a few years ago, but when I was like
back to my normal state
Resurrected conscious I was like, oh my god, that would have sucked if I died
I had so many things I wanted to do and if I died at the age of I think I was 17
I would have been so upset because I know how much I
Let others people's opinions, rule and control me. I
Literally think not too long. After that. I started doing theater that this video is not about theater
I don't really care much about theater as much as other people do it was just a fun experience
My point being is that at that moment. I think I really really let go of
A lot of people's stupid-ass opinions and i'm not saying go have a near-death experience for you to stop caring
Definitely do not recommend zero out of ten, but life is just a lot more fun when you live for you and only you
That's it I know i'm not a therapist i'm not a professional advice giver I am a virgo I am nikki nasty
I love giving advice I love talking about my personal experiences because I feel like I could help someone else and I wish
that somebody like slapped me at the age of like 17 or whatever and told me like stop caring so maybe
So if you want come back to this video anytime you want if you're feeling like shit
and you're sitting there and wallow and being like
I care too much about people's opinions. Well that concludes today's video
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I'm gonna go now even though I wish I wasn't because I feel like i'm in
Euphorium, but um actually being in this position
Makes me want to projectile vomit
cobra pose
Okay bye
[End Card song: Buttercup- by Jack Stauber]