hey guys what's up welcome back to my channel in today's video we are gonna be learning about the
enneagram harmonic triads these also can be known as the conflict coping styles for all nine types
and honestly we're gonna break it down into three triads so three types per a triad and so this
video is gonna be part one of a three part series these three triads help show how each type copes
with conflict and things that are difficult and hard it's really what helps each type cope when
being really let down or disappointed or when we just don't get the things that we want if you're
new here i'm hillary your certified enneagram life coach and i love to break down the enneagram into
small little bite-sized pieces so that you guys can understand the enneagram better and understand
yourself and those in your life better okay so get your pen and paper it is time to learn so
the three harmonic enneagram triads are separated into three groups the first one is the reactive
style group and types four six and eight are in this group the second one is the logical style
group and that is types one three and five and the third one is the positive outlook style group and
types two seven and nine are in this group so quick fun fact knowing which enneagram group
you are in can actually help you determine your enneagram type if you are still struggling between
one two or three types i guess you wouldn't be struggling between one type two or three types or
something like that so the book the wisdom of the enneagram i don't know if you guys have read this
book it's by rizzo and hudson obviously i really like this book i have lots of little um tabs where
i i just think it has such great knowledge in it but they say the harmonic groups are useful for
transformational work because they indicate how each person copes when they do not get what they
want as indicated by the triad they are in thus they reveal the fundamental way that a personality
defends against loss and disappointment so i really like how they worded that um this is a
great book if you want to learn more about the enneagram so today we are going to be looking
at the reactive triad and types 4 6 and 8 are in this group so this group of three are emotionally
reactive and they really want others to meet them and respond back the same way that they respond
these three they have very strong opinions trusting other people can be harder for them
and they can really work themselves up so those are some of the things that they share so let's
go ahead and break this down by type so the first one we're going to start with is type 4 how do
they react when force feel hurt they're going to feel the need to express themselves this can look
like withdrawing but they're gonna want to seek a rescuer someone that they feel like is gonna
listen and understand what they're going through because they want to be heard and seen force fear
being neglected not supported and just complete abandonment so those are some big fears for the
four that no one ultimately will care for them they really feel like they need support in order
to become who they really are how they deal with people is they will limit other people's access to
them and sometimes this can be looked like playing uh hard to get and so those are some of the ways
that fours react so moving on to the type six how do they react they look for independence and
support they need someone to rely on but they do also want to be independent and be the strong one
they do fear being abandoned very similar to the four and being too dependent on other people not
having support and being alone how do they deal with people well they're loyal and committed
and reliable and they hope when they give these things that other people will give the same things
back in return so what do they do when they feel pressured well they will need to let off steam
and so that's what they look like in this reaction triad okay so the last one the type 8 how do they
react they look for independence from others they need to be self-reliant they do not want to need
other people and they will openly express their anger they fear being controlled and blindsided
being harmed and dominated by others this causes them to build a wall all around themselves and
stay guarded and they deal with people by not letting people get close and keeping that guard
up a type 8 to avoid getting hurt will become very tough and self-sufficient so if an aide is angry
their reaction is anger they're they're going to react and you're gonna know it they don't try and
hide their anger at all they just react so that's the reactive group within the harmonic triad
types four six and eight the goal is always to be growing to be changing and to becoming the best
version the healthiest version of your personality for this group the reactive group types four six
and eight be aware that you tend to over give priority to your emotions and so that's a good
thing to just be aware of realize that how much power you give to those emotions and have them on
display can be impactful to other people and so make sure you watch the other two videos that i
have coming up because we are going to want you to draw on the strengths of the other two groups just
like i'm going to want them to watch your video because all of you have strengths in there that
you need to draw upon um to bring all all of this into balance so that's all i have for the reactive
group make sure that you hit the subscribe button and the bell so that you get notified because guys
i have two more videos in this series coming out very soon and i want you to get all three videos
and so that you can be balanced in all three part two is going to be that logical style triad and
part three is gonna be the positive outlook triad so i'm gonna cover those two so that you guys have
all three to draw upon you guys know i'd never like to close these without letting you know
if you are still struggling to land on your type i do offer a discover you typing session it's a
one hour zoom call with me over zoom and i have all that information in the description box below
but let me know in the comments what did you guys think which triad are you in um did you
find this helpful for you let me know i love to hear from you guys and don't forget to push the
like button before you go i really appreciate that but that's all i have until next time bye guys you