The INFJ is known as the Advocate in the Myers Briggs Type Indicator, presenting the Introverted,
Intuitive, Feeling and Judging personality traits.
INFJ’s are very in tune with the environment around them and how best to serve others.
In dealing with life circumstances, INFJs prefer choosing the path of least resistance,
especially when it comes to conflict with anyone.
Their response to things that anger them usually causes them to shut down.
They go into an analytical mode, dissecting everything they are seeing and hearing.
They are very critical of themselves and others, often wondering why people act the way they
do, and why they get hurt in the process.
Often times the assumption is that INFJs are rude or passive aggressive and unwilling to
talk about what is making them upset.
Contrary to those assumptions, they aren’t talking about how they feel because they’re
trying to process what happened.
To them, conflict is often overwhelming, which is why stepping away and disengaging helps
them think about things from a clearer, more calm standpoint.
However, they can still be pushed over the edge so here are 10 Things Guaranteed to Enrage
(even the calmest) INFJ.
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Lack of space INFJs need space.
A person with the INFJ personality type needs people around them to learn their boundaries.
They get angry when people don’t give them the time and the space they need to think.
They need this distance to process what they are experiencing, which for others who don’t
relate might seem standoffish and might even appear as though they are avoiding conflict
altogether.
However, that simply isn’t true, and some separation is just needed for them to think
and avoid lashing out.
Going against their values An INFJ has a very strong sense of values
and morals.
By going against them in a decision-making process, they might feel like an injustice
is being made.
Due to their altruistic nature, they truly believe that their values align with what
is most objectively correct.
Hence, going against their values may sometimes seem to the INFJ that the decision might be
leaning towards a particular side, or is too subjective to benefit the greater good.
This can infuriate an INFJ who just wants things to be fair.
They don’t want to be manipulated INFJs hold their values very close to them,
which means they have put measures in place to ensure that these values are respected.
They get particularly aggravated when people feel the need to step over their boundaries.
This is why manipulation is a major point of contention for the INFJ, who is already
so sure of how they live their lives.
Despite being caring by nature, they do not tolerate being tricked, as they are honest
and true to their beliefs.
They also hate lying, so manipulation toes that same line.
Lying, to them, is wrong even if it is to convince them to do things for their own good.
It must not be forgotten that an INFJ can read people like a book, which means they
will likely notice your attempts at tricking them and this will anger them even more.
Being dismissed INFJs take time to process, and this can be
misinterpreted as them being not present or just too quiet.
Due to their less assertive nature, it can sometimes take some time to get them to say
what they need to say, which can cause them to be passed over in a discussion.
This happens because they take their time to explain something well so that everyone
can understand the points they’re trying to make, but some people aren’t as patient
and might interject.
This makes them lose their train of thought, which is frustrating to them.
When working with people who move at a faster pace they might see an INFJ as weak and slow,
and devalue their contribution by talking down to them.
As they are people focused, having people view them as incapable or dismiss them will
cause them anger.
Furthermore if they’re being talked down to, they can react by going silent as they
don’t think they are valued, hence there is no reason to share their thoughts.
Lack of depth in conversation Small talk is a great pressure point for many
INFJs; they only tolerate it because they understand it’s a social expectation when
meeting new people.
However, a point of contention for many INFJ is that they can see through people’s exteriors
without them having to say anything.
Due to their intuition and ability to see past the fakeness and walls people have in
social situations, they are able to tell when someone doesn’t feel the same way they are
saying they do.
They crave deep conversations, and they want to know about the person they are talking
to on a deeper level.
They truly care and want to understand and know you because they already have a good
gauge on who you are based off your body language and the words you choose to use with them.
Arguments It seems like a given that people generally
don’t like arguments, but it’s even more so for a person with the INFJ personality
type.
They passive creature; they prefer peace and for people to exist in understanding of one
another.
They need to be reassured and supported emotionally, and often seek approval from others.
In an argument, things can quickly go sour for an INFJ and the ones they love, especially
if people are quick to shut them down.
An INFJ prefers logical discussion and does not fare well in a situation where an argument
becomes personal.
For people who are slightly argumentative, an INFJ will quickly realize that and put
a wall in between these people and themselves so that they can have the upper hand in mitigating
their feelings and potentially unpleasant experiences.
They don’t like being interrupted It may take INFJs longer to process or respond
because they take the time to ensure that they are seeing the situation correctly.
However, as other may be able to process faster, they are prone to interrupting their process
which will cause them to be riled up.
Once on a train of thought, an INFJ doesn’t like to be cut short until the thought is
over as their thoughts build on themselves.
Cutting their train of thought halfway might cause them to lose their focus completely,
or even make them feel as though it wasn’t important from the start.
This is a blow to the INFJ as it makes them feel not good enough.
The inability to empathize Empathy is being able to understand what someone
else if feeling, and to have the ability to share in those feelings.
A person with the INFJ personality type are naturally intuitive and sensitive to the people
around them, and will be your most caring and loving friends.
With that in mind, it’s no wonder that they get upset when people are willing or unable
to empathize with others.
INFJs are very aware of the needs of others and are invested in helping them through their
difficulties.
When someone else does not show the same empathy, or acts in a way that is hurtful, this hurts
the INFJ too as they feel the pain of the person they’re empathizing with.
They also hate injustice, and a lack of empathy feels like an injustice to one’s emotions.
Being cruel INFJs are deeply sensitive and are more empathic
towards the experiences they have with others.
This makes them angry when people are being cruel or violent.
They don’t tolerate bigoted and hateful behavior, so much so they are negatively impacted
by even shows on TV, in books and world events that depict such behavior.
Things that others may easily overlook can greatly disturb an INFJ as they are sensitive
to their environment.
They draw conclusions from the acts and thoughts of others, which makes them quicker to be
angry at a situation.
Being overly stimulated A person with the INFJ personality type gets
overwhelmed by intense personalities due to their more reflective approach to life.
When people are louder, or raise their voices, they might get overly stimulated which can
cause them great annoyance.
As patient, understanding beings, they feel like a chaotic experience is unnecessary and
makes them feel a sense of losing control.
They need to be able to absorb what is happening and take time to do so, and are not able to
do this when everything is overwhelming them.
In the end, INFJs are peaceful, loving, and sensitive human beings who want to do their
best to understand others and create safe spaces for all.
However, they too need space to process conflicts or situations that go against their preferences.
While there are many things that can anger them, it usually takes a lot to push them
over the edge.
It’s important for an INFJ to learn what makes them tick, as well as for the people
around them to be aware so that a more conducive environment can be created for all.