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Kidman in the award-winning series big
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does he ever hurt the children
no God no he would never hurt the
children this is he's a wonderful father
I mean he's the best the best I couldn't
think of a better one really it's one of
the reasons that I the reason you don't
leave him there are other reasons okay
such a I'm madly in love with him he
adores me he treats me like a goddess
what is not hurting you look he's a
great father we have great sex we we
went make each other laugh where that
there's violence yes in the relationship
and that's why we came in and it's in
your shoe but I mean all marriages are
complicated you think violence is normal
in a relationship no my apologies I
misread when this violence occurs have
you ever been afraid you might die
never never
that must've been hurt I
did you think of leaving and then I've
thought of leaving him many times but
then I think about what we have and we
have a lot
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big little lies is a fascinating series
from HBO that takes a look at several
women in Monterey California
while on the outside these women seem to
have privileged perfect lives we see
that they are nothing but as we have
seen in this clip Nicole Kidman's
character Celeste has an abusive husband
Perry
however she still loves him and his
afraid 10 their relationship especially
because they have two boys she starts
seeing a therapist who helps her
discover that her situation is not
normal or acceptable now let's break
down their conversation does he ever
hurt the children the word ever is an
adverb that can have a few different
applications in the therapists question
it means at any time so she meant ask
Celeste if her husband Perry has hurt
the children at any moment in the past
it's mostly used in this way in
questions and negative statements see
this other example with the same
application after a while maybe that's
all you can see do you ever pause to
consider what is great in a marriage
what is profoundly right I do just feel
like you have such great instincts as a
mom did you ever feel like something was
off does he ever hurt the children no no
he would never hurt the children the
special verb would is another word in
English that has a few different
applications here it is used to express
the chances of something happening in
the future
she's saying that there is no chance or
that it's impossible that her husband
will hurt the children he would never
hurt the children by the way the article
the before children in these first two
lines of the scene is really important
to the meaning they add the here in
order to add specificity in other words
when the therapist says the children she
means their children the children of
Perry and Celeste if she did not use the
article it would ask whether he hurts
children in general any children
this is he's a wonderful father I mean
he's the best the best I couldn't think
of a better one really if you say that
you can't think of a better thing or
person you mean that in your opinion
nothing or no one is better than them
this is a common expression in English
and that is also co-located with other
verbs such as ask for example couldn't
ask for a better son AJ and I mean that
the party planner I wanted wasn't
available neither was my husband but as
it turns out mr. X is coming home for
two days from Chicago so we're planning
a small family celebration oh that's
lovely grayer couldn't ask for a better
gift it's one of the reasons that I you
the reason you don't leave him there are
other reasons okay such a I'm madly in
love with him did you hear how the
therapist pronounced these words this is
a common pattern of connected speech in
English where natives tend to link the
sound of at the end of words to a vowel
sound in the following word so much so
that the words such as which is quite a
common phrase always seem to be
pronounced this way such as such as
let's see a few more examples of this
sound in connected speech we we went
make each other laugh make each other
laugh
I don't want to talk about the other day
well then what is this about I'm sorry
to be such an annoying I'm sorry I'm
doing Joseph just say what you want to
say please no headache oh no I'm fine
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you don't leave them there are other
reasons okay such a I'm madly in love
with him this is a useful collocation to
say you love someone a lot you are madly
in love with them
what is another common expression that
means the same
you probably know that MADD means the
same as crazy so maybe that one was easy
to guess but you can also say that you
are head over heels for someone meaning
the same thing
what no Jack and I are just friends you
know I'm not sure he believes that
you're kidding me he's head over heels
for you all he talks about is how happy
you make him
I'm madly in love with him he adores me
he he treats me like a goddess
now all these expressions are only used
for romantic love however the other word
we see here adore has the same meaning
but can be romantic or platonic you
could say that you adore a romantic
partner but you could also say that you
adore your son your mother or even that
you adore a new TV series you found he
adores me he he treats me like a goddess
literally speaking a goddess is a female
deity like the Greek goddess is
Aphrodite or Athena figuratively the
word goddess is used to describe a woman
who is admired or adore especially for
her beauty as we can see celeste saying
so if parry treats his wife like a
goddess he does things to try to please
her much like one we tried to do to a
god or goddess oh he's a great father
we have great sex we we went make each
other laugh where that this violence yes
in the relationship and that's why we
came in in it here to come in it means
to arrive more specifically in this
context she's referring to starting
being helped by the therapist what are
you looking for from health help that's
what I want I mean we both acknowledge
that this relationship is is toxic we
that's why we made the appointment to
come in because we we know that
it was Perry's idea to come in in the
first place so Celeste uses the verb
come because she is currently in that
place if she were somewhere else she
would use go we started going to see a
therapist we are going into therapy that
this violence yes in the relationship
and that's why we came in and it's in
your shoe but I mean have you noticed
how often natives say the phrase
I mean Celeste has even said it
previously in the scene he's a wonderful
father I mean he's the best the best I
couldn't think of a better one really
this phrase is part of a group of
expressions in English known as
discourse markers which are words
commonly used with the intention of
filling a moment of silence giving
yourself more time to think or to manage
and express your ideas in a specific way
in the case of I mean it is informally
used in between sentences before you add
more information to your point are there
any weapons in your house no it's not
like that no I mean the boys have some
lightsabers yeah what are you looking
for from my health help that's what I
want I mean we both acknowledge that
this relationship is is toxic we if you
want to learn more about discourse
markers check out this other lesson we
did with Emma Watson on The Ellen Show
after you finish this one did this
violence yes in the relationship and
that's why we came in and it's in your
shoe but by the way can you correctly
pronounce this word the slash just said
even though it's a short word and
supposedly a simple one most learners
have a hard time pronouncing it because
of its unusual spelling it's actually
quite simple let's practice it issue
issue
this is a great example of why it is so
important to trust your ears over your
eyes when learning a non phonetic
language like English now she also
happened to connect the words it's and
and issue all together so let's practice
pronouncing the entire phrase as well
did this violence yes in the
relationship and that's why we came in
and it's an issue but and that's why we
came in and it's in your shoe but I mean
all marriages are complicated you think
violence is normal in a relationship no
my apologies I misread psychologists are
known for reading their patients that is
observing and trying to identify types
of behavior that they have so here she
says she misread Celeste meaning she
read her incorrectly and made the wrong
conclusion this is also commonly used
when someone misunderstood a situation
example I misread what my boss said he
didn't want to give me a promotion by
the way you have probably seen the
prefix miss before in words such as
mislead or misunderstand right this
prefix is applied to verbs or nouns or
other parts of speech to give them a
negative meaning often referring to an
action being done incorrectly see these
other examples of words ending with miss
you actually got to look me in the eye
and say that you didn't participate
participate okay I guess we're still
pretending or I'm misremembering it I'm
afraid there was some kind of
miscommunication
no I did receive a payment from mr.
Andrea
also she said the words my apologies
which is simply a more formal way to say
I'm sorry you should know that the verb
to apologize means exactly this the act
of expressing regret for having caused
problems or done something wrong in
other words the act of saying I'm sorry
when this farm
saker's have you ever been afraid you
might die as we learned previously ever
normally means at any time so the common
collocation have you ever is used in
questions to ask if somebody has done
something at any point in their lives
for example have you ever visited
Australia have you ever been interested
in marriage no well that's no very
definitive though I may have seen
marriage I'm not suited for it never
never so here we have actually removed a
graphic clip where Celeste recalls a
certain violent incident when she did
think she might die in response
her therapist empathizes that it must
have been a terrifying experience
must've been terrifying one of the
applications of the verb must aside from
the usual meaning of being obliged to is
for expressing an opinion about
something that is logically very likely
for example my computer is not turning
on there must be something wrong with
its power supply so the words must have
are used to express an opinion about
something that is likely and that
happened in the past the stupid
terrified
did you think of leaving him then you
probably know leave it usually means to
go out of a place however it can also be
used to mean that you are abandoning a
relationship especially when two people
live together or are married and one
person physically has to leave the
therapists assets less thought of
leaving peri then then here means at
that time in question or at that moment
the moment which they are talking about
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he ever hurt the children no no he would
never hurt the children
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this is he's a wonderful father I mean
he's the best the best I couldn't think
of a better one really it's one of the
reasons that I the reason you don't
leave him there are other reasons okay
such a I'm madly in love with him he
adores me he he treats me like a goddess
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what he's not hurting you look he's a
great father we have great sex we we
went make each other laugh where that
this violence yes in the relationship
and that's why we came in and it's in
your shoe but I mean all marriages are
complicated you think violence is normal
in a relationship no my apologies I
misread
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when this violence occurs have you ever
been afraid you might die never never
that must've been Turk
did you think of leaving him then I've
thought of leaving him many times but
then I think about what we have and we
have a lot are you actually trying to
justify you're actually listening I
don't need to justify anything you all
are so convinced that you are the
rightful owner of all of the power that
it doesn't even occur to you that
someone else could be in the driver's
seat and so so we have to just gingerly
step around your male egos and