Which one of the following are you,
Barney?
From? How I Met Your Mother? Or Wesley from The Princess
Bride?
Or
are you DJ Pauly D from Jersey Shore?
Or more Patrick
Swayze and ghost? In other words,
are you a voice?
Or are you a man that's mastered the fine art of love making?
no judgment either way, because look is great. You might be
awesome at it. And there's definitely a time and a place
for that.
But
do you know how to make glove If you are unsure, I want you to
know it's not your fault. It's not like anyone has ever taught
you how to make love. In fact, the only person who would be
qualified to teach you that is a woman. And if you think about
it, it's really like not ideally her job to spend the time that
she's having sex with you, teaching you how to make love.
Let me pause just to say that you've you're sitting there and
you're thinking, yeah, I totally know how to make love. I know, I
know what you're talking about. I know the difference between
sex and making love. I'm just gonna challenge you one more
time. Do you though, but don't worry, I'm here to teach you.
Because even if you think you've spent a ton of time making love,
I guarantee that you still have some beautiful blind spots that
I'm here to show you. And again, most women will not tell you
what to do. What's missing is the making love part. What's
missing is the soulful part. And if you really want like if you
really, truly deeply desire a woman to be hounding you for
sex, if you want her to be knocking on your door, sending
you the text message initiating, coming up to you after 20 years
of marriage, grabbing your junk at leading you into the bedroom
because she wants it so bad than men Listen up, because I am
about to spell it all the way out for you. For example,
did you know that there
are actually four distinct stages of making love? I'm going
to explain to you the stages. I'm going to talk to you about
why each stage is important. And I'm going to talk about what you
can do in each of these stages to be not just a better lover,
but to actually be the best lover she has ever had. Pretend
I slam a pop quiz down on your desk and it says how does sex
begin? I bet that 95% of human beings would say foreplay. Well,
hopefully they would say foreplay. Maybe not. They might
say like when I decide, I don't know, lovemaking though, my
friends. begins way before foreplay, it actually begins
with seduction. And that's true even if you're married. That's
true. If you've been with your partner for 35 4050 years if you
have three children and one on the way sex begins with
seduction, say with me sex begins with seduction at least
great sex does at least love making does let's dive into how
step by step to make love 12 women like the world class man
that you are number one master the art of seduction. If you
already put a ring on it, why do you have to seduce her right
like it does seem
silly at base. But you see section seduction section for
doctrine is the art of staying interesting to your partner. It
means playfully teasing, flirting, and inviting them into
an erotic space with you. It means not just rolling over and
tapping or with your penis or for us women, it means not just
going here, we're gonna have sex tonight or what it means
actually taking interest in making a sexual space and
inviting your partner into remember when you first got
together when you were first dating, and you were like
showering and scrubbing really good. And you were putting on
your Cologne and trimming your chest hairs and you were showing
up to sex that was part of seduction. When you texted non
little things that you were interested in doing together
maybe that evening, that is seduction. seduction means that
you're not taking the relationship
or your partner for granted.
So how do you seduce her? Well start early on maybe even before
you leave for work with a long cast. One thing that drives me
personally nuts is when I get those like little packs like
they're cute, but I also expect those from my nieces and
nephews. When my husband kisses me. I want pressure. I want
depth. I want presence and I want it to last for longer than
second send her flowers or doing something else romantic for her
on her lunch break. Let her know that you are thinking about her
and that you were excited to spend intimate time together.
Alright, step two of four warm her up with some expert
foreplay. foreplay is one of the most I would argue perhaps the
most maybe even more important than anything else that you can
do before sex and one Have the most forgotten about things that
men especially when you're in a long term relationship, we kind
of let the slack right but remember that the female body
takes 20 to 40 minutes to fully fill up with blood. Imagine if
it took you 20 to 40 minutes from the time that you were
starting to get interaction to the time that you fully got an
erection and were able to penetrate that would change sex
a lot, wouldn't it? That's actually how long it takes women
to get fully aroused, fully turned on before penetration.
One of the biggest reasons that Women Grow frigid I hate to use
that term, but like it's indelicate, but let's just call
it what it is, is because they've had a lot of sex before
they were actually ready to. You call it premature penetration.
When she allows you to penetrate her before her body is actually
ready. It causes pain. And guess what her body remembers that and
then the next time that you go to penetrate her, she's like,
Oh, it's gonna hurt. Even if mentally she's super into it.
her body's like, Nah, man, that hurt last time because we
weren't ready for a play make sex better for women and a story
it makes sex more enjoyable, it decreases her chances of getting
injured, it makes her want to have sex more and more often
increases her chances of reaching orgasm. And since we're
talking about making love here, and not just not just having
sex, let's talk about the actual significance of foreplay,
because if you think about what it means to make love, isn't it
about treating your partner with tenderness and with care and
like lovingly touching their body not just for the purpose of
having an orgasm. foreplay by definition is any sort of
kissing, touching, rubbing that gets you aroused for sex, but
it's not p IV penetration. It uses a combination of more than
just your body your words are actually part of your foreplay,
the way that you engage energetically Are you present
with her or are you thinking about starcraft? Or are you
thinking about the stock market, but you're going down on a hill?
Like really you're thinking about Bitcoin it's more than
just the actual presence of your tongue and a clitoral it's your
presence of yourself in the bedroom. Think of foreplay as
sort of like almost the main event. It's for plays like the
burger and then sex can be the french fries. French fries are
amazing. I would not want to have the burger without the
french fries. Sometimes. Sometimes you just have the
fries. Anyway, that's what foreplay is. And I wrote a whole
masterclass called she comes to just on this that includes a
whole step by step techniques guide how to do finger sex,
manual sex, use your tongue use your presence, use your whole
body in order to arouse her and get her off. And you can check
out my link to she comes to in the description. Obviously,
there's a whole like masterclass on just foreplay inside of she
comes to step three out of four, actual intercourse. And it is
probably the most amazing thing ever. I mean, the idea just the
feeling of being inside of another person or having another
person inside of you is amazing. I've dedicated my whole life to
helping people enjoy just that. If you are enjoying this video,
make sure that you are subscribed because this is what
I do every single week. I want sex to feel amazing for both of
you. But unfortunately, it often doesn't. You know, there's a lot
of reasons for this one is porn. You know, a lot of guys learned
how to have sex through watching porn watching, just pounding,
pounding, pounding, pounding, pounding for hours, sex really
isn't like that intercourse in the real world isn't like that.
Those are like professional drivers on a training course.
And so if you are going to rock penetration, you've got to keep
a couple things in mind. Number one, stillness. If you are a
longtime listener of this channel, you know, I love
stillness. stillness is so important because it allows our
bodies to calibrate to the feeling of sensation. You also
can adjust how you're penetrating, different
thrusting, shallow thrusting, different positions. The
wonderful thing about intercourse It is never the same
every time that you do it. It changes. Women are like rivers,
they are not lakes, the water of our bodies is always flowing,
always changing literally throughout the month our cervix
moves, you may be able to doggy style while she's ovulating but
not when she is approaching menstruation because women's
bodies are like that. So you have to be able to attune to the
situation because you're never crossing the same river twice,
adjusting how you penetrate recognizing the needs of her
body, her desires, her specific preferences. That is how you do
the intercourse portion of lovemaking perfectly by
responding to what is actually happening in front of you. Which
brings us to number four aftercare when you're done.
You're not on my dudes Why? women in particular, but men
too, are at our most vulnerable. After sex just because orgasms
have happened, sex isn't over. And I think about how we even
talk about sex. We say things like, finished. Oh, I finished.
I'm done. I'm completed. I don't think anybody says I'm completed
that that's that's something I would say. But we discuss it
like it's over after ejaculation happens, you hop up light a
cigarette, turn the other direction, fall asleep. And if
you are guilty of doing this, I asked you please just stop. This
is what leads women especially to feeling used, taken advantage
of disconnected it makes us not want to keep having sex because
it's not over for us. You know, just because you quote unquote
finished doesn't mean that we are complete with the lovemaking
session. during sex, you are united, especially during
penetration literally, you are inside of our body, and then
suddenly you leave our body. We go from this feeling of grand
unison, like souls interconnected the feeling of
completion to all of a sudden crashing back down to earth as
an individual person alone without that feeling of
completion without the feeling of having someone inside of us.
And this is why we often feel incomplete or exposed or
vulnerable, right after sex, the feeling of union to separation.
And so aftercare is the tender act of looking after your
partner's needs after sex, that can include hugging, cuddling,
maybe it just means getting a dry towel to get her off of the
wet spot or getting a damp towel to wipe down her sweaty body
because you've worked it out so good. Maybe it's a snack or a
glass of water. Or in some cases, I've heard of people like
actually just throwing in a batch of chocolate chip cookies,
and then having chocolate chip cookies immediately after sex. I
heard that story. It's changed my life. No one's done it for me
yet, I hold out hope. My advice is that you plan ahead, you
don't necessarily have to have cookies ready in the oven, you
can think about what is going to meet this woman's needs after
sex. And if you're not sure, ask her keep in mind that you have a
partner in creating this experience and really think
about it as a full experience. And maybe she doesn't need a
whole bunch of africare. Maybe she rolls over and falls asleep.
That's great. But give her the option and be available. And
also what if you need a lot of aftercare, communicate? Let her
know that you actually need some tenderness and maybe some like
light touches with her fingers. And maybe if she could like play
with your hair a little bit, that would be great. There's
nothing wrong. In fact, tell me in the comments, what feels so
good for you after sex? What is your favorite thing to do? Or
what is the thing that you are going to do now that you've
watched this video and you know that actually making love
requires each of these four parts to actually be a complete
process of
love. Making
lovemaking is a fine art my friends and I want you to know
how to do it all a grown ass man should be able to move swiftly
through these four stages and deliver an incredible sexual
experience and if you are not sure about your skills in any
one of these four stages of lovemaking, please check out my
course she comes to for a primer and step by step including pro
tips on each of these four parts seduction, foreplay, intercourse
and aftercare. I designed it specifically for men like you to
move from average Joes to total sex gods in no time at all.
Alright, my friends, I wish for you to master all four of these
be the best lover that she has ever had provide ample orgasms,
and make her feel gosh darn amazing from head to toe. I'm
Caitlin V. I will see you here next week. Please make sure that
you are subscribed to my channel.