Never do this after she breaks up with you! In this video I revealed the mistakes you need to
avoid when your partner decides to break up with you! Welcome to The SCG Show! This video
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When a woman breaks up with a man and he's typically a nice guy and not toxic or treats
her badly it is the end of the world for him. He gets blindsided by it all and it throws
him off and it can confuse and obviously hurt him immensely! Craig came home to his
girlfriend of several years packing up her stuff and insisting the relationship was over
He claimed to Never See It Coming, was shocked and confused and upset. "I don't get it" he said "things
were good between us! We just had an amazing vacation! Why now?!" "I'm sorry Craig" responded his
now ex-girlfriend "I've just been unhappy for a long time I need to go..." and his girlfriend
left and walked away... that was it... three years together and she was out of his life for good.
If for example a breakup and the end of a relationship had been looming for
quite a long time... it should come as no surprise, it shouldn't take you off course or shock you as much
But as men we still want to panic, we still feel scared and become overwhelmed with anxiety of
the situation. Craig just wanted to come home after a hard day at work, chill out with his
girlfriend, maybe have some fun in bed and go to sleep... but now he has to sleep alone,
has no appetite for food, he has no desire to do anything but wallow in misery and in self-pity.
In this stage of shock and despair it is very hard to think straight... it all happened at once
and so abruptly and suddenly in his eyes. If she has decided to break up with you too for whatever
reason and however she's done it... here is what you must not do in this situation... this will only
make matters worse and will actually make your life far more difficult! Guys please share your
thoughts... feel free to share your experiences and opinions in the comments section below!
By actively and insistently chasing her after she's broken up with you could result in her being
pushed further and further away... she'll become colder, more distant, more irritable and more
disrespectful. Men are problem solvers by default, logical thinkers...we just want to solve any issue
that comes our way... that's how we naturally operate, even towards relationships. David got dumped by his
girlfriend suddenly, even though she gave him subtle hints the relationship might not last
forever. She would say "I'm moving quite far away now David... I might not be able to see you often...
I don't think there's a future here..." but he kept his head in the sand, was extremely agreeable
with her and just went along with it. But once she realized she didn't need him anymore and had not
done since she moved away, she dumped him there and then. He panicked and actively chased this woman
he was desperate for some sort of solution, answer and remedy. "Please tell me what I can do... anything...
we can make this work! I'll travel to you! I'll do whatever you want!" he said. She refused, was stubborn
and difficult and said "I'm sticking to my decision nothing you can say or do will change my mind!"
David didn't listen, he wasted an entire year of his life chasing someone who was never going to
be right for him... she moved on rather quickly with another guy local to her in the new area that she
lived. Listen I get it... I know you want answers, you want to speak to them, you want clarity..
but actively chasing is not the way... if they don't want to listen save your breath...
because it's going to be wasted on the wrong woman and the wrong relationship entirely!
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You might be thinking "But if I just go out and date someone else or have fun... she'd see what
she's lost?" Yes that might be the case but more so in the future never straight away
Women are wired differently to men... if you're harping on about your ex and desperate for her
back, actually going on a dating app very quickly will damage your chances. Miles was dumped by his
girlfriend and he assumed the best thing to do was seek revenge by doing online dating
Her single friend saw he had made a profile and was actively dating... this made his ex in
fact feel even more confident she made the right decision. She never bothered to speak to Miles again
As for him... emotionally he wasn't ready... he was Rusty with dating and all over the place
He hadn't been single for over four years and had no idea what he was doing
Try your best to not make your decision solely on your ex and instead focus on your well-being
Yes you're single again, you are a free man, you can do whatever you want, you can date whoever
you want within reason... but all breakups need a grieving and recovery period. That is a period
of time where you need to assess everything and get back on your feet. If God forbid my girlfriend
broke up with me tomorrow the childish superficial immature me would rush to online dating or rush to
the bars and nightclubs, rush out to have fun... when in fact in reality... I'd be really upset
hurt and grieving the loss of the relationship. Take your time instead... I don't know how long
that would be for you as everyone is different, people move on at different paces, they respond
to things in a different manner. Try do so in a healthy way but don't rush to online dating
I don't think you'd be in the right frame of mind to do so just yet...
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As a now single and most likely bitter resentful angry depressed guy... it can be easy with access
to the internet to gravitate to certain content online where other men who've been in similar
situations share their stories, thoughts and opinions and wallow in self-pity... looking for
attention, validation and sympathy. This could be helpful to a certain degree, only under the
impression that you're going to actually improve your life, learn skills and become a better guy.
But if you do only to feel better about yourself watch this content and then adopt twisted views
on women as a result... that's extremely dangerous. Ben was dumped by his girlfriend and immediately
went online to vent his frustration... he then started networking with other men and became
addicted to the content and he was utterly obsessed. He started coming out with extreme
views like "All women are trash... marriage is a sham.. I need to be an alpha male... men have it too badly!"
adopting such extremist views and beliefs changed Ben into a better guide an unpleasant guy as well
he struggled socially... really struggled with dating and ended up becoming far
more angrier, resentful, negative and bitter... After finally seeking counseling he knew
that he had to detach the content he'd become addicted to and he started eventually to make
healthy changes to his life and improve himself step by step along the way! Be careful what you
read, the formus you join, the videos you watch... be careful what you hear, who you speak to and so on
Because I believe in a fragile state of mind you might adopt extreme and dangerous views
which will end up in the long run doing more harm than good and set you back even further! If you're
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Through the shock, surprise and panic of the breakup will come overanalyzing! Years ago I dated
a narcissist, I had a really toxic relationship with her... I was the one who broke up with her
actually... twice in fact... but the first time I made a big mistake of over analyzing and assuming I was
the problem. Space away from another person allows you to do that... but in my case it was unhealthy
I used to say to myself "I should have said this... I should have tried that... I should never have
made this mistake...!" Hindsight's a beautiful thing we all wish we could have it from time to time
but truthfully and honestly over analyzing will only hurt you more in the process! In my example a
toxic relationship for me would never improve no matter what thinking or action I'd take
Remember the fact here that it takes two to tango as bad as you think you are, as much as you assumed
you messed everything up your ex was no angel and played a part in the relationship ending
Also no matter what you say what gesture or how much you beg and plead you'll never be
good enough for the wrong person... that woman breaking up with you is the wrong person
Healthy relationships also don't end, they work through their problems and get closer
more intimate and more connected on the other side...you guys didn't have a good relationship.....