This video is about "What To Do After You Cheated on Someone." I will reveal what to do after you
cheated on someone you're in a relationship with, you're dating, you're married to etc. To find out
more please stay tuned to this video! Welcome to The SCG Show! The SCG Show is officially sponsored
by BetterHelp! The link to BetterHelp is in the description just down below. So here you are you
cheated on your partner... you're not sure maybe how it happened or maybe you saw it coming a mile off
either way it's happened... it's done... you can't rewrite history and undo the dirty
maybe it was just a kiss... maybe it was way more... maybe it was a one-off thing or it's been going
on for far too long. From a personal perspective i've never cheated on someone as far as i'm aware
none of my exes have ever done so to me. I could be wrong... cheating in my opinion is a deal breaker
once it's done it's over whether it was me who did so which i've never done or my partner
For the sake of this video and considering you've taken the time to try and research the steps
to take post cheating...I'm going to give you a little bit of the benefit of the doubt
however only on the basis you're going to follow this advice and take the necessary steps to try
and rectify the best you can your wrongdoing. You may have friends or know people who are regular
cheaters and make out how it's not the end of the world or perhaps you've been cheated on and you
wanted to get even. This video unfortunately does not condone cheating or apply to any form of toxic
people, it applies to the people who have genuinely made a mistake and are dealing with enormous
embarrassment and guilt as a result... whether you were blind drunk, manipulated or taken advantage of...
you cheated and you are now a cheater. You perhaps love your current partner or married to them
and you went there and betrayed their trust and potentially you've broken their heart as a result
The cowardly easy toxic thing to do is deny it and lie keep it a secret and try and get
on with your life, but as time goes on your relationship is going to change... it's never
going to be the same again unless you put things out into the open... unless you take
the necessary healthy steps. Here in my opinion other steps to take after you cheated on somebody
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Most people live in complete denial... they never take full responsibility for their
actions...okay nobody wants to admit they messed up or made a mistake or get criticized at all
but in this context however you must. Denying it even to yourself and even if you have any
conscious at all is going to eat you up very fast. A man cheated on his girlfriend of several years
on a drunken night out with friends, he hated doing so but thought with enough denial he'll be able to
ignore any urge to confess. He felt guilty spending time with his partner being affectionate, making
love telling her how much he cared and loved her and he felt guilty just being her partner... despite
his cheating. A year later exactly his girlfriend cooked him a lovely dinner after a hard day at
work and said "i did this for you because i love you, you're the best man i've ever met"
Like word vomit he could no longer keep it inside him anymore "I have something to tell you" he
said. He opened up about his affair, the entire full experience and what happened... heartbroken
devastated that he had kept it quiet for a year she said tearfully "I knew there was something wrong
for one whole year something has been off... now I know what... and why!" They split up that evening
she refused to ever see or speak to him again however she was open to giving him another chance
Had he had originally been up front and honest to begin with rather than let it eat him up inside
for a year and try pretending everything was good between them. You need to own up and you
need to grow up, you may think you can keep up the charade for a long time but then if you can you're
toxic, you're not sincere, you can lie, this video is not for you and it doesn't apply to those people
Take responsibility accept your mistake this is the first step you need to take
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Part of being an adult unfortunately and especially one who's in a serious
relationship or marriage involves not only taking responsibility but also telling the
truth and confessing. It's time to do it, it's time to own up and do the right thing
The right thing is telling your partner as soon as it happens and the longer you leave it the
worse things will get, trust me. "But SCG if i tell my partner I cheated they may break up with me...."
Well if you're scared about losing your partner and valued your relationship in the first place
you'd never have cheated would you? "Is it not better that they never know, that way they'll
never get hurt?" And so you want to live a life of lie and deceits? The best and healthiest
relationships are built on honesty, trust and good communication. You've already betrayed that trust
so you better work on those other two aspects which remain for the time being in your control
Tell your partner you need to talk ideally in private and at home... plan what you're going to say
and make sure you convey everything... do not blame them for you... cheating.... take responsibility... for
example "I slept with someone else it happened the other night, I feel awful... I'm so sorry
I wanted to tell you... it had to be up front..." I don't know how they're going to react
I don't know how they're going to treat you...I don't know what lies ahead of you
but again you've got to be an adult and you've got to take some form of maturity about this. This
is a huge mistake in my book but confessing about it although does not undo the cheating but makes
things slightly more easier and manageable for the pair of you moving forward... it's probably the most
uncomfortable conversation you need to have but do not hesitate... I know it's hard, I know you're afraid
this is the only way... this is the healthiest option you must do this... it's time to confess
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Let's assume you've taken personal responsibility for your mistake like an adult
then you did the brave and difficult thing of confessing to your partner about cheating well
it doesn't seem to get any easier here... but you need to really listen to what they have to say
it might not be the nicest of messages either.. One woman cheated on her husband-to-be at a hen party
she got really drunk and slept with a man she met in a nightclub
her terrible friends encouraged her to do so and she felt awful for her actions... she took
responsibility made a huge mistake she then confessed "I have something awful to tell you"
Utterly outraged and humiliated her fiance didn't know what to do "we have a wedding in five weeks"
he said "how can you do this to me? How do you do it to us?! I love you, how dare you!" she sat there crying
humiliated and ashamed by her actions not to mention upset from the backlash from her partner
"I warned you about your hen party" he said "your friends love to drink and get you drunk... you
ignored me.. you know what you're like when you get drunk... you can't handle your drink" she nodded and
took it on board. Too embarrassed and ashamed he postponed the wedding until further notice
It meant losing a hell of a lot of money, people cancelling flights because it was a destination
one and they lost the venue... it was an enormous hassle but he said "I cannot marry her right now"
They took a break for a year but eventually patched things up... they never got married
but started living together and had a kid. She kept her partner but blew her lavish wedding abroad
and then she announced her sobriety from alcohol "I never touched alcohol ever again and I never will"
she admitted. In a much healthier place there was some silver lining to this cheating affair
after all it required listening and taking things on board which in this case happened
So whether they warned you, shouted, screamed due to you hurting them, betraying their trust
got to respect their wishes. Personally this is just my set of morals and opinion if my partner
was to ever cheat on me and I found out too from her confession I'd still want to split up. Trust
is very important to me, loyalty too and honesty is up there... so if for whatever reason and however
it happened to, as she went out there and did the dirty with another man she's gone, and I'm pretty
sure my partner could do the same towards me as well. Cheating is a deal breaker for many couples
for many people it's the ultimate betrayal and even if they do forgive and wish to move on
they cannot they live in fear and anxiety that at any moment and in any way they might go out
there again and get their heart broken. Yes cheating on your partner is heartbreaking
respect their wishes if they want to divorce that's the price you got to pay if they want
to split up... it's the same story. Who knows you may patch things up or over time you'll get
back together again and things are all right but i'm not selling you dreams here... you might say "but
getting divorced is worse than confessing..." Living a life of lies and misery is much worse than divorce
Accept your circumstance and life choices and respect whatever they decide to do
Unfortunately you've got to take the defeat like an adult