Lately, YouTube has been recommending me a ton of new videos.
I see so many big influencers vlogging a day in their life or giving a tour of their brand-new
NYC apartment, and everything just looks so good.
The colours all harmonize with each other, the minimalist aesthetic looks great, and
the lighting is just perfect.
And even though I love watching these videos, they also make me feel like there’s always
something more I should be doing to make my life prettier too.
And honestly, I’m not always sure how to feel about this.
Sometimes, I find myself thinking that all these aesthetic designs are super pretty and
organized, and I really should put more effort into making my life look that way too.
I have this urge to redecorate my room, or make oatmeal with the fruits placed perfectly,
or redo my notes over and over again to make sure everything around me looks great.
But other times, I feel paralyzed.
I feel like I can’t study unless my notes are perfect like those study influencers.
I feel like I can’t workout unless I have those nice gym shark sets.
I feel like an aesthetic life isn’t actually that much better or worth all the effort it
takes to make everything look so perfect.
Because keeping everything aesthetic all the time is actually pretty exhausting.
Spending hours to write my notes *perfectly* isn’t very productive, and spending money
I don’t have to buy cute gym clothes isn’t very smart.
So I think to myself – shouldn’t I just be focused on how much I enjoy the different
things in my life rather than how other people perceive them?
I mean, if I’m happy with my room, and I love the food I eat, and I feel good in my
outfits, I’m pretty sure that’s good enough.
And I think that’s the most important point.
You can do things that are healthy, happy, and make you feel good – without it being
aesthetic.
In today’s video let's talk about why how you feel is much more important than how things look.
You might think that I’m telling you never to
try to look good, or never dress up nice, or never give your room a really nice aesthetic
– but that’s not quite it.
Because having your room organized or your outfit be on point can definitely feel amazing.
It’s just that that’s why you want to do it – not because it’s trendy or expected
of you, but because it fills you with confidence and makes you feel good about yourself.
For example, I know that when I start studying for an exam and all the notes I’ve taken
are well-organized and colour coded, it actually makes it easier to study.
Reviewing is a lot less stressful when my notes are clear, organized, and legible, and I don’t
have to struggle to find important information.
Similarly, when my room and apartment are nice and organized, I find it a lot more enjoyable
to be at home because I’m a lot more relaxed and happier with my living space.
So if you’re trying to make your life more aesthetic for reasons like these, then keep
going – it’ll only make your life better.
It's just that, sometimes, the pressure to make everything more aesthetic actually drags you down.
If you’re spending time and money to make your room look like a tiktok trend, without
actually asking yourself whether you like the way it looks, in end you’re probably
not going to be very happy with your room.
And if you’re focusing so much on making your notes pretty that you’re not actually
paying attention to your lectures, or too stressed to review them because they’re
not absolutely perfect, then you’re going to make studying a lot harder than it has
to be.
When I started YouTube and Tiktok I was so afraid to even began because I did not have
the nicest most aesthetic room, I didn’t have big windows and nice lighting, I didn’t
have clear skin or the nicest workout clothes.
But I realized that it’s okay – I'm still trying my best to live a healthy and organized
life, even without all those things.
And I’m sure most of you are in the same boat.
I still like making my notes neat – but I wont rip an entire page out and start over
just because I messed up a word or two.
I still love working out and feeling great, but I won’t skip a gym session just because
I ran out of nice workout sets to wear – an old t-shirt and my soccer shorts will work
all the same.
I realized that if I was putting so much effort into being aesthetic that I’m actually making
things harder – I'm probably doing something wrong.
Focus on the aesthetic things in life that make you happier, less stressed, and more
confident – if you love taking pictures of yourself but don’t know how to make them
look perfect for Instagram, don’t let it stop you.
It isn’t because your pictures aren’t perfectly aesthetic that you can’t look
and feel amazing.
And no matter what, always look for ways to be original and express your own creativity
– a lot of people actually value someone who isn’t afraid to be and think for themselves
more than they value trendiness or conventional beauty.
Be unafraid to be your own person
So don’t ever feel pressured to spend lots of money on designer clothes or fancy accessories
if those things don’t actually appeal to you.
If I can promise you one thing, it’s that the people around you who really matter in
the end won’t care about that anyway.
In my experience, lot of my happiness and sense of self-worth comes from a feeling of
authenticity – I want to present a version of myself to the world that is representative
of who I really am, not who I think the world wants me to be.
I want to wake up every day and feel like I’m doing things that I genuinely want to
be doing – not because I think society expects me to do them, but because they really, truly
matter to me.
I find that it’s hard to be happy when I feel like I’m only ever doing things because
my parents expect me to do them, or because I want to look a certain way to my friends.
And I think that we’re all like this; we all naturally want to do things that are exciting
and that we’re passionate about, and if we don’t have anything like that in our
lives then we’re always going to feel like there’s something missing.
Research says similar things: In one study, researchers found that people who scored higher
on a measure of authentic living reported greater happiness, more positive emotions,
and higher self-esteem than people who reported being less authentic.
More authentic people also reported having better relationships with others and more
personal growth.
Although authentic people tend to have happier relationships, many people may avoid authenticity
in their relationships because they fear rejection.
instead of showing up as yourself, you show up as the person you think everyone
else will like.
Ironically, presenting ourselves in the way that we think others want may actually hinder
us when we work to build close relationships with others
next time you do something, ask yourself how that choice actually made you feel?
Are you really happier because you have that prada bag, fancy fuji water, or gym shark
workout set
Way too often we confuse the temporary thrill and validation we get from other people’s
attention with genuine respect and admiration.
We think that if other people are looking at us, then we’re probably doing something right.
But the two are not the same, and it’s important to realize that we’ll never be truly happy
until we feel content with ourselves – not by seeking praise from others, but by becoming
a person who we can truly respect and admire.
I just went on a walk to pick up this package from Youtube
ignore this, it just has like my address and stuff underneath so I covered it with my math homework.
ummm
I'm so excited to open it
That’s why you want your choices to align with your own values, so that, as often as
possible, we can be proud of the choices we make.
And of course, that’s not always easy – we all do things we later regret and wish we
hadn’t done.
Learning from our own mistakes is just part of maturing and growing up.
But if you’re always trying to meet other people’s expectations, rather than your
own, then you’ll definitely struggle to feel happy with yourself.
Because even when you do meet society’s expectation, trends will evolve, standards
will go up, and before you know it you’ll be feeling unsatisfied with yourself all over
again.
the next time you feel like you have to change something about yourself – maybe
you feel like you need new hair, or need to buy new clothes, or need to start going to
parties – ask yourself:
Make your choices based on the answers to those questions – not based on how you think
others will perceive you.
Because in the end, that’s not what makes you happy.
So why bother with it?