known for being extremely thoughtful caring selfless and creative infjs are pretty much one of
the most unproblematic personality types but just like everything else they have a dark side too
whenever stuff gets too much to handle or when their emotional baggage starts messing with
their heads infjs tend to be quite different from what everyone else knows them as what is the dark
side of an infj are they actually that stubborn and tend to walk out on people if they're in a
bad mental state but aren't they selfless and caring welcome back to your favorite youtube
channel ladies and gentlemen and in today's video prepare yourself as we're going to reveal the
dark and unexpected side of the usually extremely thoughtful caring and nice infjs before we start
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updates that being said let's get started number one pushing people away in hard times pushing
people away in hard times is this because of the extremely selfless nature of the infjs
well you're right to some extent infjs do push people away because they feel extremely guilty
about burdening others with their personal issues sometimes they avoid sharing personal
problems because they assume that their friends are not capable enough to solve their problems
or that they won't give the right reaction it's also because due to their introverted nature the
habit of keeping their problems to themselves and suppressing their emotions they're practically
unable to talk to someone they don't know how to start the conversation they fear the reaction they
fear the effects of it on their image number two extremely harsh behavior when they're extremely
high in idealistic expectations aren't met infjs usually become quite harsh what kind
of expectations they want their friends to be just as invested in them as they are in their friends
they want their relationships to be perfect they can show a quite dismissive and passive aggressive
attitude that can be hurtful towards others this isn't restricted to their relationships only
one of the big reasons why infjs are the best people to go to for advice is because 100 of the
time their advice is honest even if it's hurtful sometimes the brutally honest advice from an infj
can seem judgmental and something you don't want to hear so it goes without saying if you want a
friend who tells you what you desire to hear don't go to an infj number three being extremely moody
infjs become extremely unpredictable and moody when someone invades their personal space
especially when they're dealing with their personal issues due to their habit of keeping
their problems to themselves suffocating themselves emotionally distancing themselves
from others they get moody it's not even like they themselves know that they're being moody
and cranky in such situations the best thing you can do is be patient and provide comfort
silently without making it known be mild towards them and don't pay attention to their rudeness if
you try to help them number four judging others infjs have high expectations and that means
they're going to measure everyone according to their scale of perfection how organized thoughtful
prepared and understanding other people are the infjs think about everything and then create a
certain image of the person in their head that might not be 100 accurate as everyone knows
the j in infj stands for judging and that they stay true to it they have the tendency to be
extremely frustrated and annoyed by the habits of people and then try to suppress the dislike which
tends to leak out in other ways due to which they seem moody and cranky liking our videos so far
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number five unrealistically high expectations they're perfectionist it goes without saying
that their expectations are unrealistic whether it's them turning the vase right to left left
to right multiple times until they're satisfied preparing for an exam so much that the mess up
so much at the end try to correct someone so much that the person ends up getting irritated and then
distances themselves they tend to stifle their urge to correct someone or make someone do stuff
the way they prefer and get cranky or passive aggressive number six stubborn behavior you cannot
make them agree to something they don't like it's a no just don't don't even try infjs are quite
stubborn and when it comes to being flexible and bending their morals a steel bar would be softer
than an infj no matter how much you tell them to relax stop planning stuff obsessively that they
can't be prepared for everything all the time infjs won't listen to you number seven bottling
negative emotions trauma and complaints and then having outbursts and breakdowns due to their
introverted nature and keeping their problems to themselves infjs have a habit of emotionally
suffocating themselves this kind of makes them a ticking time bomb a spontaneous and unexpected
outburst can happen anytime it can also cause great damage to the relationship in the long run
for example if an infj's partner makes a mistake instead of pointing it out at the nearest and most
suitable time they just suppress themselves due to which they remain passive aggressive and cold
towards their partner and their relationship takes a huge hit number eight being passive
aggressive in a relationship and not talking about the shortcomings as we mentioned earlier
infjs aren't big fans of talking about personal issues to someone and that has consequences
one of the most important things necessary for a strong relationship is communication either
infjs are too clingy and invade personal space or they never talk about what bothers them they just
silently nourish dislike for their partner instead of talking about what's offensive and off limits
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