Four Signs the Honeymoon Phase is Over! Stick around to the end as I reveal key
signs that the honeymoon period between you and someone you're dating is well and truly over!
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What is the honeymoon phase? The honeymoon phase is an early part of a couple's relationship where
everything seems carefree, easy and happy. It can last for six months to even a few years, and can
be marked with laughs, intimacy and a lot of fun. For the sake of this video, I'll focus more on what
the honeymoon phase is like when you're with a toxic person. Firstly toxic people (like narcissists)
typically are attractive, persuasive, charming, and manipulative. They'll try to love bomb you
intensely, hence why this phase feels so exciting and intense. They'll shower you with so much
attention, they'll rush you into bed, they make you feel like you're the most precious person on Earth!
You become addicted to these people... you find yourself saying the following internally =
!I've never felt like this before! I feel like I'm floating on air! They're amazing! This is what love
feels like!".... then it all comes crashing down either abruptly or gradually like a slow agonizing death.
Don't get me wrong healthy relationships have a honeymoon phase as well... however the couple grows
together too... they'll hit a rough patch, a series of problems and then band it together as a team
to make it through... making a new honeymoon period happen. a new phase post getting through the storm
problems and so on. There are ups and downs, but they're tied together and are a good healthy match...
but with a toxic person... The honeymoon phase dies and is never reborn again!
Making us almost fixate back on that honeymoon period as we beg and plead with
them (and ourselves) to do anything, try anything to get back to the good times... Those good times
will never return, make sure you know this! Here are the four signs the honeymoon face is over!
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A key sign the honeymoon phase is over, is suddenly you've got the mother of all emotional hangovers...
it all feels so flat... it's like an enormous come down... you suddenly feel like everything is dull,
too familiar. What once excited you, bores you. The toxic person is the reason behind this....they have
become bored with you and dating you. Don't take it personally, I know it's hard not to, but this
is what they do. They get over excited initially, go all out, then they discard and they move on.
It's like shiny object syndrome! Mary was in love and excited with her new boyfriend she met off
Tinder. It was a crazy honeymoon period, they did so much, they traveled so much, so many gifts, so
many nights out and parties... so many exciting meals, so many crazy stories and experiences.
She woke up one day and felt something was off, he wasn't texting back as much, there were no more
plans, not as much enthusiasm... it was like it died overnight. "It was chalk and cheese" she said "that
same level of enthusiasm for the relationship early on died..... it was over and it got worse as
time went on." Basically the spark had died, and everything fell flat because the toxic man she
was dating... he wanted to move on and date other women and relive that honeymoon period again....
until the boredom seeps in and so on and so forth. Real healthy, genuine relationships go through
cycles too, but deep down the love and connection is enough to realize that those phases that are
intense and over the top really are just not very real... they're superficial, they're unsustainable.
so it feels flat suddenly or gradually.... The honeymoon phases over when that happens, when
you get that feeling like "hey it's not like it used to be" and it was probably fake to begin with!
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Deep in the honeymoon phase, this person you're dating were and appeared to be
almost like the love of your life. They understood you we're easy going, generous,
compassionate, loving, intimate you name it... above all they were consistent. You just knew
no matter what they would wake up and be there with you, and text you and love you,
and make the effort. The consistency is so important and attractive in a relationship...
but suddenly through no thought of your own, through no mistake, error of judgment, nothing,
they've changed. You don't get texts like you used to, you don't get anywhere near the same amount of
attention, you sense and feel a distance between them, but you're afraid to say what is really
going on. Perhaps something's bothering them or they're in a mood or something's wrong... it's none
of those things. They're different because the mask has slipped, they no longer want to keep up
the ACT, they don't want to put you first and love you, they have "got you" in their mind... so therefore
that's why they're different... they seem different to how they were at the beginning of meeting them...
AKA during the honeymoon phase. Nothing you can do will ever change that, trust me, they are stuck
like this for as long as you continue to date them... only for them to either cheat, move on or
remain miserable and distant with you... with the odd doses of happiness and joy sprinkled on top.
They were high on life to originally lure you in and get you where they want you,
and get you hooked, and then once it happened they got bored. It's nothing personal, they do this with
everyone... they're like this with everyone... even friends... this is just how the toxic person operates!
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Are you noticing a distance more than ever before? Have games taken place in your relationship? Are
they way more aggressive? Are they more sensitive? Are they lying about their whereabouts? Are they
talking and flirting to other people? Are they trying to make you feel jealous and on edge?
Are they stressing you out and making you feel bad? Is the bad overall AKA
they're bad behavior and treatment of you outweighing the good you have with them?
If so it's a huge sign the honeymoon phase is well and truly dead! Trevor was dating a woman
called Morgan who showered him with gifts, love and attention at the beginning aka the honeymoon phase.
However at the same time Morgan would sometimes snap at her partner and be hurtful with her
words, harsh when they argue and there'd be times where they would both be upset...
But Trevor felt the good outweighed the bad... the arguments would fizzle out quickly and she'd
be back to treating him good. Yet over time they argued more and more about everything and anything
it got out of hand... Trevor expected Morgan to apologize and start treating him well again with
respect, but this time it was worse now... there were silent treatments, long awkward silent treatments,
she'd regularly ghost him, she'd talk bad about him behind his back, she wanted to push all of
his buttons... there were no good times left... it was mainly negative... it was mainly toxic... it was full of
drama... it was all bad. The bad outweighed the good massively. There were more bad days, negative days
than there were any good days. Whenever that is the case, the honeymoon phase is well and truly
dead. A classic sign the honeymoon phase is well and truly over is you, them, or both of
you would rather be a part than together. Long ago I was in a toxic relationship with a toxic woman
all we did was argue, there was drama, disagreements... we rarely got on, and it was draining, miserable and
unbearable... but even at the beginning unconsciously I felt this way towards her. I didn't want to see
her or talk to her. I didn't want to know her at times... especially when stress from work, family and
other issues piled on top of me. Did I really need her stress and drama to add to the mix? Absolutely
not! I'd rather make plans and not see her ,avoid conversations, I didn't want to know, because I
knew that if we spoke some argument would occur. I wanted to be apart... I didn't want to be with her,
but I stayed, because I was hooked. I'm not proud of my actions, but that's how I truthfully felt.
The Euphoria of the honeymoon phase will die an awful death, and when it does come crashing
down so does maybe a lot of that lustful excitement and emotion... because it's fake...
it's rushed... it's not real or sustainable. You should want to grow closer to someone over time
like how I felt now in my brand new relationship... but if you, them or both of you are drifting apart
in some capacity, that honeymoon phase is over and maybe their relationship as well!