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How do you deal with the situation where your son confesses to you
That he has homosexual tendencies. And furthermore proceeds to (naothobillah)
invite you to his homosexual marriage and also act upon his homosexual carnal desires?
You really thought this through isn't it? So the first thing is look, if something-
any sin- is confessed to you as a parent or even as a friend hear them out. Listen to them. See
why they've gone towards that. What's the issue? And the thing is look, that's one of the things
that if somebody exposes a certain sin to you you have to invest yourself in
that person. You tell them about the Islamic View. You hopefully say look...
and if you have a good relationship with them you can advise them. You can assist them,
but I would say never cut of relations with them.
If they are your son, they've been brought up as a Muslim and they have
certain feelings they're on a certain journey.
They will understand and respect you as well as a parent "that it's against my
mother and my father's religion" you know what I'm saying so they have to respect you as well.
"Look I understand that you know you don't want to participate (in the wedding) in this"
And that the thing is, at the end of the day they're still your son,
they're still your daughter, they still need guidance.
If they are doing one sin, that's a sin,
you don't leave the fold of Islam just because you're indulging in sin.
If you're lying, you haven't left Islam.
They still need their parent, they still need guidance. As long as you're making/
you're developing your relationship with them.
Look, the thing is this is even with my mom like sometimes I advise my mom as well.
You should have that relationship that you go back
and forth with your parents in a loving kind kind of way.
My mom will advise or a family member she's like "look they're not listening and it's not good".
I was like "look every person is not designed to receive advice straight away".
Some things were said to me and they only made sense three years into the
future or when something happened to me I said "oh, my friend advised me about this,
my teacher advised me on this I saw a program about this okay I can make sense now".
So understand, do give advice for the sake of
Allah but guidance actually rests in the hand of Allah.
The Prophet (s.a.w) was not able to convert Abu Talib,
he died as a disbeliever, he was unable to convert him yeah,
so guidance is in the hands of Allah but there we're talking
about disbelief there's no way out if he does as a disbeliever. That's it yeah.
However when it comes to sins and indulging in sins that's
something that the person needs you, don't cut them off because then it's
like a person on a glucose strip, they're already lacking energy then
That's an example, I'm not saying that it's synonymous with that. But when you
cut the glucose drip off and say "go, go off into the Wilderness"
That person is now lacking their energy. So it's the same with
people as well. You see somebody on the floor, they've committed a sin,
rather than picking them up you're kicking them when they're down.
Like I've got a friend, like sorry to be blunt but, how do I say this politically,
like he is somebody that facilitates Haram relationships.
Let's just put it out of that yeah like he's uh if I was to use the word
I have to be cognizant there are certain people here but somebody would be like:
"Ah how were you able to sit with this guy he facilitates haraam relationships well he said to
me is like "look I appreciate your content in your videos I wouldn't watch videos of other people"
And I just sat 45 minutes and just listened to the guy as he spoke.
It's not about "ah he's done something wrong ha must advise him right away"
Like look take your time like develop a relationship.
So look, don't cut people off when they've committed sins
and things are not black and white and simple and that's what I would say about that.