I'm talking to my son. Right and I'm at a point with my son in terms of who he is as a person
Where I'm like, alright, I'm getting to the point where like, okay, I'm proud of you son. Now I got to understand something
My mother grew up with 14 kids in a 3-bedroom house
Right one one bathroom south side of Chicago 43rd. Why so the way my mom dealt with us?
It was a lot when I look at how other people raised their kids
My mom raised us a lot harsher
Then how I saw the average kids as a matter of fact
When I grew up
People used to dog my mother out and try to pit me against my mom because it was like this is unbelievable
But being an adult I realized now because we had three generations of families. That did not win
My mom was making sure that she pushed me so that I could win right?
So what do I mean by that what I mean by that was you know, how most parents when their kids are born?
I don't care what they look like
They the cutest person in the whole wide world you ever seen that before like a couple of them kids
Not that cute, but they still the helps always being real. I never met nobody. I was like my kid
Not only attractive shot. I've never seen that before
Right every child I ever met is the smartest kid in the world, right?
They kids were talking or walking before any kid had ever talked to walk before right?
So that's how most people raise a kid with that? My mom woulda known that my mom if I was bad he bad
Right police used to come to the Curia because I was still and they knocked on the door and my mom would be like hold
On he downstairs. My mother would never say he didn't do it. She let me call Erik upstairs real quick
Did you steal some from the store teacher call the house Erik was acting a fool in class
My mother never went not my son my mom's like I know he was acting a fool
Please tell me what you did before we go up to the school, right?
So what I did with my son the same way, right?
So I don't I don't make myself proud of him for like doing stuff that really just not should be proud worthy
But we're just gonna make something up like I'm proud of you son
I don't do that. Like for real you got to really do something for me to be like I'm really proud of that son
why because I feel like if he was to be
Let's just say he was gonna be living in my house for the rest of his life
I would treat him differently I would but he got to go in the real world
So when you go in the real world
I don't want him to think that stuff that we congratulate when he go in the real world. They're not congratulating
He like what's going on. There's nothing going on son. It's just the real world
You not a son so they're not gonna clap for every single thing you do
So we're not gonna make it look like the stuff that you do that
you just
Should be doing on your own we're gonna be not gonna look like that's a worthy is not so I've been proud of my men
The last couple of months. I'm like y'all free. I see I see it like I see you are starting there
You know I'm saying like you're starting to get this thing boy, and I'm proud of you
I see what you bought with this
So we had a conversation recently because I see he here on the way and so I'm like, okay
I see you in a serious relationship you young you're in a serious relationship. I see you serious
I see you trying to make money I got he'll probably daddy do this
I'm like I got you right so I got to help you all out
So my first challenge is that we go to school for all these years and they never really show us the importance of dreaming
right
I look at school and I'm like yo
the way school is design is this
Designing you to be prepared to work for somebody else and I'm not even upset with that
But there's little of you that you get right y'all got to work with me because this is deep, right?
So I said to my son I said to my son son. I got to ask you a question like and I'm being serious
I said do you believe you created yourself?
He was like what I like do you believe you created yourself
He said no I said do you believe there's a creator? He said of course I do I said I don't do that
Don't don't do the dad thing cuz You Know Who I am and you know
Like I'm about that life, like don't answer like I'm asking you for real you owe me nothing
This is you. Do you believe that there's something out here that's bigger than you
He said of course, I do dad. I
said do you believe as a human being not in a
Braggadocious way but that you are the greatest level of all creation
He's like you mean like over a deer. I was like yeah a deer
Give me like you mean better than the ego of my year like a ego
He was like, of course because we could make decision we can do things I said, okay, okay, okay
I just wanna go back again. You don't believe you were created. He said no, but you believe there's a higher power
He was like, yeah, and and I said, okay. Okay. Okay, you believe as a human you powerful. He was like a forest I
Say so as a human do you believe you were just born to be in a relationship have sex and have money and buy stuff?
He was like, hmm
No, I guess it's something bigger than that dad
It's like I guess the other thing is our calling I said, well you believe that why have you never gone after your calling? I?
Spent so much time worrying about a relationship why you spent so much time
So worried about money and cars and stuff
If you really believe what you just told me that as a human is something greater than that
then weren't you owned that he was like
I don't know I said cuz here's the trick son if you get this in that you still might not get you
I'm just being real weird in my time. I think it's a fabulous place. It's great, but I didn't walk in there like Oh
Like it was really the the mountains that made me go whoa
It was really when I saw the birds flying that I was like unbelievable
It wasn't really the room that I was like this is the great as a matter of fact
The guy was getting on my nerve, I guess when you pay money to go there they got to try to do the old
personable thing
I'm like
I'm on the thal
Please just give me the keys I go to my room and if I have some problems when I get to my room
I will call you so I'm having a conversation with my son saying son. Do me a huge favor. Don't go after low-hanging fruits
Here's the deal
If you get to the top of the tree all the fruit from the bottom of the top is gonna be their son
So I don't need you focusing on cars and money and stuff. You're gonna get dads
I need you to focus on why you were born in the first place. Why are you here on earth for this particular time?
What are you doing here?
Anybody can buy a car son
animals get in relationships animals
Or have sex you have kid its son. It's got to be deeper than that
If you were higher than humans then while you're here you got to do more than what animals do
And so when they talked about dreams and legacy I was like, you know people don't get it write this down
Your DNA is in your dream
Your DNA is in your dream so so it was funny
I was walking with CJ father the other day and we were talking and I promise y'all like every see
Time we talk I don't care when it is. I don't care how long we talk
We always talk about the relationship he had with his father and and and I know that the impact that it had on his kid
Listen to me his DNA his dream. His DNA is family
Like that's all he care about is his son
like when we go out
I never saw him dressed like a certain way like he's never like hold on II I got to get the polo shirt in
Every time I talk to him, it's the same thing his DNA his dream his DNA
His kids has formed his life. It is formed who he is as a man and most of y'all chasing stuff
You don't realize your dreams are so important because your DNA who you are as a person is wrapped up in your dreams and what?
this world is done to you is take that from you because they know if you know who your drew who you are and you
Get your dream. You probably not gonna work for most of them
You're probably not gonna do most of the dumb stuff
it's like for real if you knew who you if you knew your dreams and you knew and you followed your dreams you followed your
DNA most of you probably would have never been on drugs
I've never met a person before who knew who they were and was on drugs
Raise your head. Here's a time of your life. You didn't know who you were and your own substance raise your hand
So what I'm telling you when you leave I'm not playing no car game right now, we're not playing the House game
I don't know if you heard if you really heard what your mom said he talked about what his daughter's are doing in the language
That the daughters are speaking
That's tier two. We'll get there in a minute your DNA
Your genetic information is in your dreams who you are as a person
And so what this society will do is tell you you need to be on The Oprah Winfrey Show
That's what they'll tell you when you become a motivational speaker
And you start traveling through the earth and you start making some moves
They'll tell you you got to be on The Oprah Show and until you get an Oprah show. You're nobody
You got to have a best-selling book if?
You don't have a best-selling book
You're nobody and so you start living your life
Not to do what you were doing what you were created to do
You start doing what everybody else wants you to do so you can fit here
And I'm telling you I don't care how success. You are. Not you're not a success
Why because in my dreams when God showed me the Nobel Prize he that was something that I had when I was 2 years old
But I wasn't mature enough for it
it's just recently that I've been mature enough to understand that I watched LeBron get the
Championship y'all I saw the broughton win the finals. I saw him cry. I was there with MJ one when his father died
I saw him crying guys and I saw
I'm from Detroit. So the Red Wings were win on a consistent basis. I
Saw him hold up the Stanley Cup and people were cheering and I said to myself I'll never get an NBA title
I'll never get a Stanley Cup
But what's mine, what's mine, what's my title and it was like the Nobel Prize is yours?
That's what you need to be pushing for. That's that's that's what will fulfill your dreams
So the first thing I need you to write down is and I just need to be honest. Have you spent a lifetime?
following other people's dreams a
Mixture of their dreams and your dreams or your dreams completely. I want you to write it down. Come on. We got it
We got to go to work. We got to go to work because if I can get you to identify
How much energy you put in others and in other people's dreams and I can get you to pull back
And I can get you to do what you were born to do what you were created to do. Who?
Now white lies dreaming important. I don't care what level you get to I need you to dream, right?
I need you to guys I need you to spend a considerable amount of time
Dreaming every single day. Let me tell you why I noticed that the people who dream and those people who dream big
Have a different kind of life than the people who don't dream
So if you want to hear you, like I'm scared, whatever you do do this for me
Do not sabotage yourself with fear fear is not real. That's something your brain like it does not exist
How do we get over it you get over it by dreaming of what you can't be
Come on, I got to hear what I'm saying there those of you in this room
You spent a majority of your life doing what other people want you to do
You don't even know who you are
and so even what you're doing you're not doing at
120 percent because you're doing what somebody else wants you to do when you're not back
You're not good enough to be somebody else raise your hand Eric. I probably has probably been my whole life
I probably follow other people's dreams. I bring I don't really didn't know what my dreams are raise your head
I don't really know when my dreams come on. Come on. Hi, we're gonna overcome today
I don't need to play play come and get me upset again Potenza
I want this right I want I want thrilled and I'm gonna fool ownership of it Eric
I probably have never even lived my dream before. I've been busy living other people's dreams. Let me see your hand
Hands down and be real I've been like maybe 50 50 people's dreams my dreams
Let me see your hands good hands down hands down. I just I just all my dream and nothing else
Let me see your hands good. So that's what I need from you for real for real
That's why new this is number one Tier one. We just add dreams
That's it, and it's all about you and I need you to be selfish for me
I'm gonna need you to be selfish right and don't feel bad
There's some of you in this room you feel bad about dreaming. Let me give you an illustration
If my mother calls me and says son, I need help with my car. I think she called Carl
I love it - she must be stressed financially because it was 400 that she said was father
I don't think it's behind
I think it's 4 it's like I think it's 5 I was like Carl Carl Carl with no car was like look at my ring
it's 400 right if I didn't have 400 - the gift if I did have
400 extra dollars to give to my mother. She wouldn't had a vehicle she's driving right now
I want you to hear what I'm telling you if I did have an extra 50 thousand. I'm sorry
25
25 35 if I didn't have an extra 100 thousand plus I wouldn't be there to pay for my son to go to school cash
So I need you to be selfish on the first tear and that's dreamy
I need you to be real selfish because you can't help anybody else
You can't do for anybody else if you're if you hurt and the reason why my messages keep getting stronger and stronger
It's because I'm not at school. I'm healing every year
I'm healing I'm cleansing. I'm becoming a better
Human, and so as I become a better human and I have less junk to deal with and I've been through some stuff
You think it's cute when I tell you I was homeless
You think I'm just cute when I tell you my father wasn't in my life
You think it's cute my mom just wrote and my mom told me to my face son
I hated your guts for months for years because that book I'm like mom. What do you mean?
Like I didn't say nothing about our family
You told the world that I got pregnant with you when I was 17, I didn't want nobody to know
Imagine growing up in a house where your mother has set up a lie
and changed your last name and
Give me your life. That's not really real as faith. It's not real and my mom is 67. She just let go
So I need y'all do me a favor
I need you to keep I need you to be selfish on the dream piece because what you have to understand is when you know
Who you are and you start operating that you're gonna start blessing people in the way
You couldn't bless people before when you didn't really know who you were
So so so I want you to identify it right and so you told me which one you were now
I want you to write all three down again, and I want you to write down which one you wish to be
See this is the teacher the Millennials need this what the Millennials needed guys
the Millennials have rushed right into what they thought we wanted them to have and that's cars and it's tough why because a
Generation before for some of us right? It was a working class
so they were they were in poverty God's it's so that
They grew up watching a family work hard to get stuff
And so now we wondering why they just won't stuff stuff stuff stuff cuz I saw they've seen in their homes
That's all they heard
they see their parents go out and bring their buy nicer houses and get better cars and grandma had better stuff and now we taking
him to Disney World
Like Disney World is a part now other like if you a parent you got to take your kids at Disney World
It's unbelievable. My kids were stressing me
When we going to Disney where I'm said going where the Disney where I'm like who goes to Disney World?
They're like all my friends who went to Disney World
I'm like, we didn't go to Disney World. We went to Gary, Indiana
I'm said we went to Gary Indiana and my grandfather's and got Kentucky Fried Chicken. Thought we were doing something
I'm being real we would go on the way to Chicago
We stopping getting four hours and my grandfather would go and he was 23rd Street
He would go and get chicken and bring chicken back and me and all my cousins
We chicken and going outside and playing and we just thought it was the best thing ever and my kids like we don't play outside
With Disney World video game. I'm like what in the world?
And so when I got on my seller likes tongue come on, where's that Greiner son? Where's that dog son? Let's go
He's like dad. I'm not trying to be disrespectful, but I went homeless
Not trying to be disrespected I want homeless you as homes I want on this matter of fact you set me up for the
You actually you Ashley took some of the dog
I'm not trying to be funny
So I'm not saying I was wrong and giving my kid something that we didn't have but I was wrong because I didn't teach them
that dog
So you just thought I just thought that they were just grew up in this big beautiful
neighborhood and go all these places and meet all these people and the dog like the dog is just like something you automatically get the
Dog came from when I went through
That the dog didn't come from school. The dog didn't come from getting a PhD the dog didn't come from getting these big checks
That's not where the dog came from the dog came. Sorry, but
You know watching all this success and we wonder why the millennial generation nobody ever told him to dream
Nobody ever told them that DNA is in a dream. We told them that their DNA is they made money
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