Hey, it's Barron Cruz from Charisma Matrix.
Think about the last time you had a chance to interact with your boss, a
superior who's very up in your corporation
or someone your intimidated by, whether be a sports star musician
how did you feel we approached them and get a chance to talk with them?
Odds are, you felt very nervous, very tense, a lot of energy maybe a few verbal ticks.
Maybe you can't speak the way you normally do and you wonder why?
Well this is natural. Human beings are programed genetically
just feeling to act this way around people that they feel like have
higher social status than them.
The problem is, what are you doing when you do this?
You're teaching in your telling the other person
to treat you in an inferior way because you hold them
in a superior light. So when you go up and they're very calm in your,
"Oooh aaa, did you have a good time out there?? Did you get a chance to talk to
so-and-so?!
Uuummm, nice to meet you I'm Barron!!" before they even have a chance to form an
opinion
you're pretty much saying them, "Hey, I think your superior in the
social situation to me.
I feel very lucky to be able to talk to you, you probably shouldn't waste much
time on me
I'm probably gonna make you feel a little bit nervous you're probably be a
uncomfortable and try to end this conversation as soon as possible."
that's what you're so cute cations communicating
although you're just trying to get across the absolute opposite
so what's the remedy today I'm gonna talk about comfort
making people feel comfortable is one of the strongest most powerful tools that
you can have
in your charisma toolkit and at a very advanced level
the person with the highest social status to it's that tough to impress
the toughest to impress is the person that by having that super
ABC very chill home in their presence is going to impress the most
the reason this is so impressive to people is because its most difficult to
fake like we talked about
as a human with genetically hard-wired to feel all that access
energy and emotion and anxiety would you meet someone up high status because
vicky
all they could do this for me the commune of a graphic be so cool we can
you picture my friends are gonna become awesome
with invited me out for lunch are actually want to hang out with me all
manteca to roll around me to put me on
so that's what we're wired to do that but it's such in
easy tell from people with higher status it's something you never wanted to you
and you want to control and take small steps to improve so when you are funny
in a situation where you need to make a very nice
call impression you're able to do so and be very impressive
in a way that majorie people are never able to do in an interaction
typically the person who's calmer and has less Fiji body movements is the
person who feels like they have more social status
or 40 in that conversation this is very interesting to observe
next time you're at work when you see a manager talking to employees or CEO
talking ploy
notice employees me much more physically fishy
they will agree more I'm intensely with with quicker
head movements yes yes yes oh yeah I agree I saw that too
looking for more poor whereas the boss will know if they're going to agree
very calm for slowing cool body movements body language
a more calm tonality indicating they feel like they're superior in that
situation
so you can really stand out from the crowd simply by communicating with a
very calm
physically calm slow low
cool report neutral tone ality by saying anything you want telling them what you
had for larger where he went
out last weekend was opposed to everyone else is thinking of all these high-level
worst talking about reports and what not
because they're communicating in such a way I've inferiority
there come across very terrible words are trying to accomplish the opposite
you're coming across very strong by not worrying about those words
just worry about what you're communicating with your call on this
with your reserved Model Town not mods on
be reserved report neutral tone our to the way you can improve this
is just first take note start to observe any interaction they always say one
person feels a poor superior
one person has higher social status and the other person how can you tell us
you could tell was by being 50 yards away who's moving more
whose body is moving more whose tapping their legs fidgeting who split the
rubber band
whose agreeing more physically or verbally
and when they are agreeing is it a competent
mmm okay or is it yeah
yeah I saw that too so the exact same day what's the difference
you can tell I don't have to explain it so first be able to scout out now
the next time you're neither actually feel anxiousness net energy kinda bubble
up
note what's going on with you are you blinking more are you nodding more
or your hand movements more quick and fidgety you feel uncomfortable house at
manifesting itself for you tapping your toe
you will be slows things down maybe you can't stop them completely
but just start to slow them down begin to become for most situations then you
can stop them completely
focus on a calm tone our your toe now he's gonna bring the other person down
to the same energy level but you are or %ah so let's talk about how you can use
this
your part and someone there arm
may be either new within the company and they're very nervous may come up to my
goal with
a very good you out you could just talk so-and-so I did you try the orders made
it so good they brought in
don't be affected the person who has high social status not necessarily
higher but the company cares mad person
is not affected by the people's energy they affect others with their energy
sure to keep a very cool even even tonality
your body language is not going to change at all you keep your shoulders
down you're rockin the
height intense because what they're doing and by communicating with them
continued
continuously with that kind of some communication
is gonna bring them down to your level and you're gonna notice within probably
30-45 seconds
their anxiety has come down the energy
has come down to above more safe level where they're going to be able to make a
better impression what you're hoping they would
arm and environment back not to flip the switch
sometime a really bad time had a tough week and you're out there like
man no other wannabes wall don't you bring your body language yours for
communication or your energy down with that
bring them up to you success yeah it was a tough we got it up when Superman I'm
ready to really cut back and have a good time this weekend
recharge the batteries bartender over there is making a great Manhattan but
let's walk over there get one
and watch by you not being affected they're gonna come up to your level
they're gonna be feeling better
because energy energy express to some communication
verbal communication and body language is so so contagious
what's people can see they're not going to affect you buy there's
the first step is when you meet someone else you can see whose frame a stronger
my give you must suck them down my pity story
most times yes because most people are just looking to jump on other people's
frames are energy
but you is that charismatic leader you're gonna be able to help people out
but brief them are Russ winger rights or bring them down when they're too nervous
to a more smooth chill level so they can interact in a way and have the kind of
night
but they're looking for being calm and cool in
any environment is such an attractive trait
and it's so hard to find everyone's cool interacting with the in laws or other
girlfriend or other boys
but not everyone is cool interacting in these different challenging environments
as you practicing taking small steps being less Fiji
having a poor neutral or even report breaking tonality
you're going to become comfortable he's more challenging environments like I was
talking about
be calming don't be influenced by other people's energy
when you are more nervous to your cell you gonna be quicker to jump on other
people's energies and frames
I don't want to do that but feel that awareness is the first step
you wear a few home and I know it can be there are
I gotta come Oscar Oscar got a present this new idea to him
okay I'm feeling very up tight matches I'm probably gonna be pretty quick to
jump on other people's frames
I'm probably gonna be more attracted to that negative um
anxious energy or what I need to do take a deep breath
find someone who is more comfortable in that environment go talk to them
be chilled out like it she learned the casino people are too hot nor win money
this is the children they just has a very native cool kinda
energy to bring them down use that you wear what's going on so you can handle
it
manage it and as you take small steps to improve
those stay with you once you become would you be able
to people with you are able to control
those small things they're gonna compaq you don't lose 'em so next time you go
to something like that you're going to be more comfortable now going to take
another step in its gonna compound on itself
anchored you get started with that I think that this is something that's
is going to help you in both personal and business relationships because
everyone wants to be around people that make them feel calm uncomfortable
and oftentimes business you're not until next time