It is ironic that the very thing that provides the secret of successful relationship
is the same secret to successful alone-ness.
It is a very good and lasting relationship with our inner family,
with those sub-personalities that make up the psyche of man.
Man the microcosm mirrors exactly that which has been in our macrocosm,
in the form of the four directions, vast, massive bans of compassion
of specific building blocks of existence from which life formed
is found in man and as specific sub-personalities starting in the south.
In the south we have the inner nurturer, the inner nurturer when functional reminds one of that Grandmother that stands at the
stove and dishes out cookies and hugs to naughty and good children alike,
she dosen't judge she just nurtures and loves and provides and safe haven for growth.
A dysfunctional nurturer on the other hand provides a critical inner parent and many perfectionists stem from having had
an over critical parent that judges them by what they do and in fact how they do it and they bring that forward as part of their psyche
as a dysfunctional, judgemental, inner nurturer that they carry with them day by day.
And then there is the inner child, if our inner child is not properly nurtured
and parented, allowing it to express, finding ways each day to please our inner child, making a list if needs be
even though it may seem ridiculous to the adult, otherwise this child looks for its parent else where. Do we really want our a dysfunctional inner child to be determining
our next partner, our next business partner our next friendship? We would pull in those who are themselves needy
who are not wanting to be abandoned, or the over critical who wish to dominate
it is crucial that we take the time for our inner child who is about 5 years old
to have a place where he or she can play. In the east, if you will, we have the inner sage, also called the inner wise one
that provides us with that direct link to that vast repository of inner knowledge
that is the birth right of every being. There is no need for us to go to the parson or
or the local vicor or a new age teacher for their inner guidances, every life is unique and that which is for you can
not possibly be the same advice that is for someone else, and so the inner wise one provides
us with what it is we need, but when that wise one becomes dysfunctional what we end up having
is a judgemental one, one that judges the belief systems or the world views of others to be inferior
if it does not correspond to his own, his spirituality if he is dysfunctional is the only way. But there is another sub-personality,
the very important inner warrior, that has as his responsibility the guidance and the guardianship
or his inner family. We strengthen that which we oppose, so in fact the dysfunctional warrior fights external circumstances
swinging at the mirror. The functional warrior on the other hand guards the boundaries of the family
not allowing the innocence of the inner child to be hurt or damaged or plundered
not allowing the sacredness of the wise one, or the gentleness of the inner nurturer to be trampled upon. The inner warrior guards above all else
our thoughts and our feelings, for from them our reality is born. It is from them that the battle is fought.